kids/teens - do adults trust you?

[zehava]

do kids/teens, in general, think adults trust them?

of course there are exceptions (ex: my kids think i trust them 'most of the time' - their words)

so when i asked my own kids (ages 5 and 8) if they thought adults trusted them Juliet scoffed and said "no!". Jake didn't stop running around me in circles and said 'nope'. they answered at the same time, in very different ways. Jake's answer seemed to say he's talking from experience... and well, that's just the way it is... so... nope! Juliet's answer was tinged with anger... she's older, i think she's starting to question these things and it showed in her answer.

so kids/teens : Do you think, in general, adults trust you?

(this isn't a knock at adults... i'm one myself ;) it's all based on thoughts/theories of which direction society is taking... and whether or not it's a good direction)

parents: if you post here but your kidlet(s) don't, if you're up to it, can you ask them what they think and then post their answer(s)?

-z

[Tsuchimaru]

I don't know....nor do I care. They probably don't, me being a child and all... ;)

[Threase]

I think it depends. Like, my parents generally trust me (unless I screw up or lie)... but my teachers and adults that don't know me as a person probably don't trust me as far as they can throw me. I don't know if that's because of my age, or because they don't know me.

[Jolixte]

Teens, in general, no. Me, personally, yes.

[misschief]

my four yr. old and 6 yr. old both said no they don't think i trust them. when i said why they said 'cuz'. *shrug* lol.

[Abren]

I didn't go to some lessons the other day, really wasn't up to it, don't ask, so my school rang my Dad and the moment i got home he started spazzing at me. They immeadiatly think i have gone off some where, rather then the fact i just didn't feel up to lessons so i sat in the disabled toilet for an hour and a half

[Valkie]

"sometimes"

My two oldest know that I trust them to take care of some things, but they also know that they have to work very hard to earn my trust because they are dishonest about little things. Not lying... just not telling the whole truth.

They are 8 and 10 and are just now getting to the point where they understand how important of a thing trust is.

[Klucky]

They trust me, but I don't trust them.

-Klucky

[KimberSly]

I think ... Adults online trust me more than adults in person. I'm sure it has a lot to do with how I present myself. In person I'm really shy and I think that spawns off in their minds as "regular teenager who doesn't talk and probably hates me" kind of thing.

It's sad that I can't bond with people at my age if intelect. If I were to pick an age group for me and my hubby to hang out around it would be 22-24... even though we're only 18/19.

Anyway... that's what I think. :)

[MoonlightShadow]

Yes, I would say that adults generally trust me. I grew up being very honest and trustworthy, so I've always been trusted for the most part.

[Bix]

I think it depends on a lot of factors if adults trust you or not. If you look supposedly normal (like...regular T-shirt and jeans, regular hair color, etc.) they'd probably trust you a lot more than if you looked gothed or punked out. If you also behave in a mature way (don't cuss all the time, no vandalism, etc.), they'll probably trust you more.

So I guess...it all depends on the way you allow adults to perceive you is the basis on whether or not they trust you.

[Stormcall]

I think adults trust ME, personally, but in general, no. For example- all those anti-drug commercials that come out aimed for teens... Those really piss me off, because I don't know any teenagers who do drugs, but plenty of adults who are completely addicted!

[Jolixte]

I think adults trust ME, personally, but in general, no. For example- all those anti-drug commercials that come out aimed for teens... Those really piss me off, because I don't know any teenagers who do drugs, but plenty of adults who are completely addicted!
You don't know any teens that do drugs?! *shock*

[Pure Ahimsa]

do kids/teens, in general, think adults trust them?

of course there are exceptions (ex: my kids think i trust them 'most of the time' - their words)

so when i asked my own kids (ages 5 and 8) if they thought adults trusted them Juliet scoffed and said "no!". Jake didn't stop running around me in circles and said 'nope'. they answered at the same time, in very different ways. Jake's answer seemed to say he's talking from experience... and well, that's just the way it is... so... nope! Juliet's answer was tinged with anger... she's older, i think she's starting to question these things and it showed in her answer.

so kids/teens : Do you think, in general, adults trust you?

(this isn't a knock at adults... i'm one myself ;) it's all based on thoughts/theories of which direction society is taking... and whether or not it's a good direction)

parents: if you post here but your kidlet(s) don't, if you're up to it, can you ask them what they think and then post their answer(s)?

-z

Depends on who the adult is, some adults are fine, some think teens are idiots. My dad asks me for spelling and geography.

[darkone_withwords]

I odn't think that adults trust teens at all cuse they think that we are going to be like them
~dark

[WingedTigerChild]

In general, I wouldn't know. Like others have mentioned, I think stereotypes play a role in the "trust" factor; i.e. t-shirt and jeans versus doc martins and spiked collars. As for me personally, I don't think many people (if any) trust me (or would) at first glance. I look pretty spaced-out and pissed off 99.9% of the time...all dark and brooding in my "goth" ensemble. lol I think people generally start to trust me more after they get to know me well, but I doubt I'm trusted completely...by anyone. I'll admit I've never given too many people a reason to trust me, but then again, I've never not given them a reason to either...well...most people. I added that because I've given my parents a reason or two not to...but who hasn't? I know quite a few adults who've given me plenty of reasons not to trust them. This includes my parents.

[Cielamara]

Adults not only trust me, as a rule, they love me. They look at me and see this short, sweet-faced, polite, well-spoken young woman and they just fall in love with me. It's quite amusing to me at times...but I never try to prove them wrong; adults are the ones with the money! -_-
(Kidding.)

[Lai]

In general? No, I don't think adults trust teens or children. Personally? Yes. I look much younger than I am, never lie, listen when I'm being spoken to, and do what's asked of me. When I get a good impression from the adult I also call them "sir" or "ma'am".

Do I trust them? Not anyone I haven't known at least a year, and that applies to people of all ages.

[Hope3645]

Adults not only trust me, as a rule, they love me. They look at me and see this short, sweet-faced, polite, well-spoken young woman and they just fall in love with me. It's quite amusing to me at times...but I never try to prove them wrong; adults are the ones with the money! -_-
(Kidding.)

Hey, that sounds a lot like my situation! Most adults trust me, but I have noticed that in stores and the mall, the clerks watch me more than they watch adults. This is usually age discrimination because it happens no matter what I'm wearing (I have a very diverse wardrobe-everything from goth to conservative), although clothes do have some impact. Other than this, adults tend to trust me.
PS I am not really a teen anymore. I'm 20, but I look 15 so as far as public opinion, I get the same reaction. At the local mall when I was about 17 they passed a rule that anyone under 17 had to be with a parent or legal guardian if they were to be at the mall past 7 on the weekends because they offended some of the adult costumers. :/ This is outright discrimination!

[lilromantyc]

I'm pretty sure they do. It's all a matter of how you present yourself to others and how they perceive you. Most of the time I don't act like a kid/teen in any way, so they don't see any reason not to trust me. A lot of people don't believe me when I tell them I'm only 16. I've had a lot of crap to deal with in my life, so I've had to grow up really fast, and I guess I just give off that aura of maturity and trustworthiness because of it. Even people who don't believe in auras and energies can subconsciously pick up on those kinds of things. So it all depends on the teen in question.

[~~Cypher~~]

I voted no... I am 17 years old... bout to turn 18... and dont anyone trust me... NO ONE... its kind of funny... I do all the work and still earn no trust... ah well... the only thing I enjoy about not being trusted is the fact that it gives you a great opturtunity to prove everyone WRONG... not right... say if they say that you will never accomplish something... when you do... it makes them feel like complete asses... then they feel they have to compensate... then I just laugh, say "never doubt me" and walk away... its the best thing in the world (IMHO)