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MerrisHawk
October 18th, 2004, 02:04 AM
My brother is an idiot. It's been a month and a half since his girlfriend walked out on him and the kids. Three little girls, 9,7 and 5, are now without a mom, she's on the Jenny Crank diet and walked out to sell drugs. My brother, their dad was supposed to go get help, file his paperwork and get custody. Two of the girls are not biologically his, their natural dad didn't want them either.

The brother started out with all the best intentions, my sister, (Itsmekel on here) and her hubby took in the girls, took care of their home, school, food, homework and birthdays. They kept them safe and spent every dime they had to help. My brother has slipped, too many times in the last few days. He's back on crank again and spending most of his time fighting with the girlfriend, ignoring the girls. He's gone most of the time, spends long nights in other places only to come back with an obvious lie. He's either hyper or coming down and sleepy, the mood swings are very noticable now and I can't ignore that he's using.

Today was a family meeting. We all sat down, talked over every detail. The sister and hubby can't support them without funds, none of us have any left to spare. They also can't take care of five girls, they already have two. This is destroying their marriage, the sister is failing all her classes with ony three quarters left to do. We can't take care of them the way they should be. We called Child Protective Services, tomorrow they are coming to take the girls into foster care. We will most likely be able to maintain contact, I hope.

We brought the girls out to tell them what we'd decided, told them what was going to happen, told them we love them and we intend to keep them close but we can't do it without foster parents. The youngest, Kodie, was sad, didn't understand very well. The other two girls weren't even phased. They should have been, it should have bothered them. The adults were the ones who were crying, even dad, who never cries.

It bugs me that they expected to be dumped yet again. We told them we would help, that we'd keep them safe. We lied.
I can't really think of anything else to do. I don't know how to make it better, it just kills me that they expect to be thrown away. How hard is it going to be now for them to be able to trust anyone?

vulfsung
October 18th, 2004, 11:48 PM
Oh, Sweetie!! What an awful, horrible situation to be in!! :hugz:
You all will be in my prayers tonight! Here's hoping the children will be placed in good homes...*sigh* it's too bad that child protective services wouldn't help your family out financially to take care of them...at least then you'd know they were safe.

Sending big hugs for those little girls.... :huddle:

Vimilanda
October 19th, 2004, 12:00 AM
I'm so so sorry that your in this situation. I wish I knew of something to make it better. I will spend a lot of energy to get them into good foster care homes. There are some bad stories about foster care but less publicized are all the good homes that children go to. My step- brother took two children into foster care. The one child had regular contact with the biological family for the two years of foster period. Even now, though she's legally adopted the family still sees her.
Again I feel badly for everyone involved. It's a painful situation for all of you. I will send as much good energy as I can.

~*Ginger*~
October 19th, 2004, 09:06 AM
So very sad to see...
People choosing drugs over their children/family.

*hope for the children*

i'm sorry Merris, all anyone can really do is try the best they can to do the right thing...