Cheating you say?

[Tina]

Lets do a survey.....surveys are fun! Lets be truthful for this one shall we!
The questions to the survey are in the survey, its obvious people read the survey & you will know, I hope, if you still don't know I'm afraid you are beyond my help!

[paygun]

cheating, no.

[Tsuchimaru]

What's the question? :confused:

[Sith]

OK. I admit I cheat a lot. It's the only way to play Magic: The Gathering.

oh, I think you meant another kind of cheating. No.

[misschief]

there.. i chose several options... lol...

[Jolixte]

It's a biased survey, the results won't mean much.

[Flaire]

I've "cheated" before. It was a dead relationship anyway.
But I can't say whether men or women cheat more. I don't know, nor do I care.

[Tina]

It's a biased survey, the results won't mean much.
its only a survey

[Jolixte]

its only a survey
I know, I was just saying that I wouldn't use it to try and prove anything.

[alesay]

OK. I admit I cheat a lot. It's the only way to play Magic: The Gathering.

oh, I think you meant another kind of cheating. No.


LOL!!! Well in that case i cheat too!!! Resident evil, not worth playing unless you have cheat codes! :D

I've been cheated on.... Once.... (by a male, because i'm all straight and all) But i personally have had the oppertunity to cheat on my SO (at the time) and i won't.... It's not worth it... if i'm that unhappy in my relationship, i'd end it before i cheated..... I can honestly say that

[kissesree]

I love that game!!!!!

[WingedTigerChild]

I would never cheat in a relationship. If I felt it was going nowhere, I would talk with my significant other...not find someone else to screw. I broke up with my last boyfriend for cheating on me. I simply won't tolerate it. I actually find it slightly immature.

[kissesree]

It depends on what you consider cheating..... do you mean on a spouse, in a game, at life.....what?

[Celtique]

I've been cheated on and it was one of the most painful things I've experienced. I would never, ever wish that upon anyone. I will never cheat. If I want out of a relationship I'd say so. There's no reason to lie and destroy someone like that.

[Antoninus]

I think she means cheating in a relationship :)

I am very proud to say that I have NEVER cheated on ANYONE. And I never plan to.

[Tina]

It depends on what you consider cheating..... do you mean on a spouse, in a game, at life.....what?
Its what you & your partener consider cheating, if you think you have cheated then you did!

[Khuinaset]

I have never been cheated on, have never cheated, and DEFINITELY would never ever do so in my current relationship.

[soilsigh aingeal]

I am female and I have been cheated on. And, I would never cheat. I know what it feels like and I can't do that to someone else.

[kissesree]

I have been there. My ex gave me an std after we were togeather for a year. He got sooooo dumped. He was so clever. I never caught him, untill he was contageous, and caught something from him.

[~ Monk ~]

There's no room for middle ground in the poll, unfortunately. I'm not convinced that one gender cheats more than the other.

[Fairyelf]

I have been cheated on..
I dont cheat..
but will if I get cheated on again...
:flamer:

[Sith]

I have been there. My ex gave me an std after we were togeather for a year. He got sooooo dumped. He was so clever. I never caught him, untill he was contageous, and caught something from him.
Thats why I think cheating is bad IMO. I never cheated and never been cheated on in a relationship. In Magic: The Gathering, too many cheaters here to even bother playing. :whatgives

[VroomBroom]

Lets do a survey.....surveys are fun! Lets be truthful for this one shall we!
The questions to the survey are in the survey, its obvious people read the survey & you will know, I hope, if you still don't know I'm afraid you are beyond my help!
I would not.....but I have been.

[misschief]

i've cheated, been cheated on, by men and women, i think women cheat more, *shrug*

[Aidron]

I selected I'm a guy and never have/would not cheat. If a relationship is to the point where I have the desire to cheat, it's not the relationship for me, so I would simply end it and tell the person. I see no reason to feel ashamed or guilty over ending it in such a manner or for this reason, however, and I have no fear of telling the guy. If he doesn't like it, well, too bad.

Truthfully, men and women have equal potential in all things-that are a current possibility (such as men being unable to give birth), so I did not vote either way whom I think cheats more.

I've never been cheated on to my knowledge, though it came very close with a girlfriend from my past and I had my suspicions that my ex-boyfriend did cheat.


Edit: Does anyone else think it's a bit coincidental that the the voters who were male thought women cheated more than men, and those who were female thought men cheated more than women? Granted, not everyone is heterosexual, but most of you are given the various threads on the topic here. I find this not only disturbing, but dangerous. To be so suspicious of the gender you most often or only date... well, it's more than a bit creepy in my mind. Personally, the gay guys I know and the lesbians I know usually think men and women cheat more respectively. :eyebrow:

[Tina]

I have never cheated, I have been cheated on & I honestly can't say I would never but I highly doubt I would cheat. I think that either mostly men cheat or its even!

[karma_lives]

I have been cheated on before by a guy but I don't think one sex cheats more than the other. It just comes down to the person inside, the sex doesn't matter at all. People have their reasons and okay sometimes they don't have reasons too but it happens. And can I say that it just SUCKS. LoL

[mcc]

I'm intrigued by the way that technically this poll doesn't really force you to commit to a personal gender. ^_^

[Teresa]

I was married once and was cheated on and it went so far as to become physical abuse to me as well.I can tell You first hand that was not a good feeling and later on to be beat on due to resentment and frustrations etc.I would never subject anyone to the treatment I recieved ever.I do not wish that on my worse enemy.Love should not hurt and being in a loving relationship should not cause broken bones or bruises.

[barlitone]

Never cheated.

Been cheated on ·3.

[Bec_W]

I have been cheated on but have never and would never cheat. To be honest all the secrets and lies seem like more trouble then any pleasure I'd get from the sex anyway :lol:

[morrigen]

There's no room on the poll for my opinion. *shrugs*

[CalisticSunrise]

Hmm lets see... Yes I have cheated on previous boyfriends but the person i was cheating with was always someone i loved and just wasn't with at the time.
Yes i think men in genral cheat more than women
and yes i have been cheated on. sadly the only person to ever cheat on me if my fiance.

[Syren]

Not for nothing..but speaking as a female who was cheated on SEVERAL times, by ALL of my ex's (all 3 of them r scum-ridden stinky butt poop heads) i must say, cheating is stupid and cowardice. i don't know y i think this way..it's the random thoughts in my head flying around everywhere. i think cheaters are so wrong. i've never cheated, belive it or not..i tend to be extremely faithful, even when i'm getting pooped on. EVERY time i get pooped on.. i figure, whatever, i'm not a jerk, i don't cheat. everything does come full circle (duh) i never cheated. not once..EVER, and 'cuz i had faith, and a tad bit of hope, i met joe (WISHED 4 joe, actually) and now i have monogamy (finally) thank the gods. i think if u cheat, or have a tendancy to be repeat offender of such crimes :), u're going to get cheated on as well, or have something else wrong with your relationship because you don't respect it. i guess. i don't know, i'm babling, it's very late. i'm not all there tonight...well, most nite's, but 2nite for sure. ok, there' my 1 1/2 cents. p.s...i really like MW...a lot. nice people. i have a really odd sence of humor, it's nice 2 talk to people of like minds...no matter how crazy they are..c-u guys around...
peace and love,
Syren :fpeace:

[LadyTrinity]

I was sorta seeing someone but they didnt make it offical yet and 2 weeks into it, my brothers friend Nathan came over and he started to kiss me. I didnt push him away Nathan was hot!! :woot: But it was cheating and I wouldnt do it ever again. I dont regreat it cause me and the guy I was sorta seeing didnt work out so I will always have great memories about Nathan lol _tsk_

[Sequoia]

Considering there are more women on MW, this poll is going to be at least *slightly* unbaleneced.

[Terestai]

I have never and will never cheat. But I was cheated on by my fiancee of five years before she left me for him. Best thing that ever happened to me.

[Haruka2077]

I've never cheated. I don't really have any reason to, and I don't think it's right.
I've only been cheated on once, by a guy, way back in high school. I mean, I'm sure some of my other boyfriends back then might have "cheated" in a high-school sense, but he actually went and slept with someone. It really hurt.
I can't really say whether women or men cheat more; I've seen more women do it, but that was in San Diego when all the Marines went on ship, so it could have been both ways, too.

[RogueSpirit]

I am female. I have cheated. I have been cheated on by a SO. I have also helped (both knowingly and without knowing at the time) others cheat. I would not not cheat as a form of revenge against a SO who cheated, nor have I. If I were that upset by it, I would end the relationship. I had my reasons for what I have done in my life, I don't feel ashamed nor do I regret any of it. And amazingly enough, I am still on speaking terms with 90% of the people I've had sex with over the years (one was abusive and the other used me to cheat without giving full disclosure so I could decide if I wanted to do that). I didn't comment on who I think cheats more because there was no 50/50 option.

[ealawyn]

Thought of cheating once.....ended the relationship instead.

Besides, I've been cheated on, and lets face it, it sucks.

[~BEBZ~]

I didn't know it was one of the polls where you could put more than one answer. Obviously I'm female. I have never and would never cheat. I'd end it first. Yeah, I think men cheat more. In many ways I think society programs them to be that way. Yes, I have been cheated on. Actually by every man that I was in a relationship with, save one. Then I met my husband.

In the thread I made it was said that I live in fear of being cheated on. I used to, and obviously once in a blue moon I still do. But with a track record like mine that is to be expected. Especially when one of the boyfriends that cheated on you did it with your own mother. Stuff like that really messes with your head. It's not something you just get over. Up till I met my husband I was not able to trust any man in any way. And I still don't trust my mother. I'm working on my issues, and for the most part have them under control. Anyway that's a little peek into my psyche. Hope it makes a little more sense now.

[DixieWitch]

Yes, I have cheated, twice, in the past. I cheated twice on the guy I was with at the time with the guy I am now married to. It was the first and only time I will and have cheated.

[docdoo]

I've cheated in the strictest sense of the word, meaning that I was still married. However, I had already told my X that the marriage was over and we were living in seperate rooms at the time.

With my last X it was the same story, I cheated in the sense that I was still married but my husband knew that the marriage was over and I was filing for divorce.

*shrugs* not sure if that's cheating or not.

As for the other part, I don't know who cheats more. I mean, I've known lots of women who have cheated as well as lots of men so I think it's fairly even. Though, I know they do cheat for different reasons.

[NivekDrgnMage]

It is not in my nature to cheat, so I have not and will not But I have been cheated on.

[Acid Halo]

ick, yes ive cheated, why cant people just be honest.

[savannahrose44]

I would not cheat, but I've been cheated on before. I don't like being cheated on so I wouldn't do that to someone else. :bigblue:

[LightDancer]

I've cheated on a couple boyfriends and have been with men who were cheating on their girlfriends by being with me. I have also been cheated on, but the past is the past can't do anything to change it so why dwell on it.

I also would never cheat on a cheating SO just to get back at them. I already felt bad enough being cheated on, so why would I make myself feel worse by cheating on them. :whatgives Just get out of the situation.

Jamie

[Arani]

I put that I've cheated, but the circumstances are complicated. The first time I cheated, I had thought that my ex-fiance had broken up with me (we were talking online at the time and the internet connection was lost). I was heartbroken, so I sought comfort in the arms of another man. The next day I found out that he *wasn't* breaking up with me, and I had misunderstood what he was saying.

The other time was when my ex-fiance and I weren't talking (he's bipolar). We hadn't talked in 2 months, and I kissed another guy. Then he and I decided to go on a break, and I started a relationship with another guy.

In my ex-fiance's eyes it was cheating (even though he was very understanding and could see my side of it). In my eyes I wasn't necessarily cheating, but I did hurt him very badly.

[HorseCrow]

Never have and never will.

[Rudas Starblaze]

my wife is cheating on me, divorce is currently going on and im the one suffereing for it.
i have never had sex with anyone but her so i guess i can say i have never cheated huh.

[Annyka]

Well I have cheated once, but I was young and naive - once I learned the pain it can/did cause I promised myself I would NEVER cheat again. So I ticked Yes to Cheating, and Yes to Wouldn't cheat and I think females cheat more than males (more of my female friends cheat than my male friends - and I have more male friends than female) and yes I have been cheat on by a male.

[Pure Ahimsa]

I have never and will not but a lot of my friends have on eachother.

[Rowenna]

Interesting thread! I cheated once when I was very young and stupid and the relationship I was in was going down the toilet anyways (he later threw me and my infant daughter out of the house because he found out I practiced Wicca *sigh* although he never did find out I had cheated). I would NEVER cheat again, regardless of how my current relationship is going, its not worth all the trouble it can lead to.

[pixidust]

I have never, would never cheat. However, every guy I have been with has :(

[Chibi-Fallon]

I cheated once and neither of them were ever the wiser of each other and probably never will be (they run in *totally* different circles and one was just a fling at a job). Now that I’ve broken up with the girl I cheated on, I can’t say I really feel all that terrible about it. I know I should. But I really don’t.
I’m pretty sure I’d only regret it if I had gotten caught. ;)

[fervidnymph]

Lets do a survey.....surveys are fun! Lets be truthful for this one shall we!
The questions to the survey are in the survey, its obvious people read the survey & you will know, I hope, if you still don't know I'm afraid you are beyond my help!
my hubby cheated on me about ...wow,....6 yrs ago. one night stand, but he spent quite a deal of time w/ and takling to this "friend" of his before he betrayed me. we were 20 w/ 2 very little girls. i was a mentally ill basket case. and she seemed sweet and normal. ultimately he learned that she was a mean hateful person. i kicked him out, he slept on the floor of his freinds house for months. i wanted to cheat on him after that, my world fell apart, ultimately i went even more crazy because i couldnt handle the betrayal and ended up back in the hospital. i was a 1/2 hour away from a date w/ the guy i intended to cheat on him with in ordea to get even when i changed my mind. didnt want to mess with the innocent guy i was gonna date. didnt want to lower myself to his level of disrespect. didnt want to make tings worse. it all was horrible it took years for me to get past it, and every now and again when im feeling insecure i think about it and can feel the scar that was left on my heart by what he did, and then im thankful to have never caused someone that kind of pain, and realise how much stronger i am for haveing that kind of forgivness in me. im still married and i love him and he loves me even more than we ever thought possible. Goddess tested us and we passed, he's the one im ment to be with and i wouldnt have it any other way.

[Hærfest Leah]

Ok I'll be truthful. I have cheated if you want to call it that. I was in a relationship with a controlling guy that started when I was a senior and I was finally able to get out of when I met my husband 14 months later. From the get go he treated me like crap but I was 17 and too nieve (sp?) to know it until I got out of high school, joined the military (he was military too) and realized after running into other nicer guys and strong willed women that my relationship was crap. His controlling got worse (including mental abuse) and he refused to let me out of the relationship so I said screw it and started daiting other people anyways. In that time I met my husband and decide to really put my foot down with the jerk and that was it. I'm sure I've been cheated on but by that same jerk but not by my husband.

Although I was accused of cheating on my husband by a jealous female ex-friend of his (that I'd love to put a drop dead spell on but too nice to do it) that started years of a mess I'm not trying to get into. (still trying to forget) I have NEVER and will NEVER cheat on him. And if I ever get cheated on by him I sure as hell better never find out.

I don't tollerate such immature acts. I would not help anyone cheat and I think cheating is equal between the sexes. My old air force roomate is going throught this with her husband of 7 (and 2 kids) years who she keeps catching making relationships on the internet and porn and strip club problems. She kicked him out but still wants to make it work only becasue she doesn't want to be a single mom which I think is the wrong reason. She needs someone better.

[Marchosias]

I'm a guy, never cheated, never will.

If I feel the need to cheat, then the relationship is failing. In the face of that, getting a quick piece of ass seems counterproductive.

Oh, and I think us guys probably do it more. Unless a man is totally, head-over-heels in love(I'm not naming anyone ;) ), it takes a massive amount of willpower to resist any good-looking woman who hits on him, with the intention of sex.

Women, however, have mastered the art of blowing us guys off, no matter how charming we think we are. Even if we look great, a guy hitting on a married woman as hard as they can do us is more likely to be spending the evening getting mace from his tear ducts.

So, yeah. Men.
We're hornier, and the single hotties seem to swarm just when you get comfortable in a relationship.
Hard, hard, life.

[gwendar]

I've never cheated and I never would, but was cheated on by my high school boyfriend. It really hurt a lot.
It seems like some people think that it's only cheating if it's sex. Not me. I think a kiss past 2.5 seconds is cheating, and I only give it that much time because I know that a person can be kissed by someone and it might take a moment for them to realize what's happening.
Maybe I'm extreme, but that's ok, I'm happy with my life!:)

[Marchosias]

You're not extreme - the woman in my life will get hurt(and give me shit) for a hug that is any different than I would give another guy. Good thin g we are both quite amorous; I don't have enough time out of her arms to consider any other. :)

Take note, ladies - be all over your man like you're trying to pick him up from a bar. It's so very nice, and keeps the feelings fresh.

You too, guys - be on her like a crackhed on his last rock. ;)

[Morrighan61]

Not in a million years and I'd fully expect the same from any guy I was that serious about. I don't play sexually, never have, never will. It's got to be more than "fun" or I am simply not interested, period.

(Not kidding either. He could be BRAD PITT and the one night stand thing would still be OUT.)

Any guy that doesn't get it, or can't stand to be monogamous simply isn't the right guy for me.

If a guy I was with cheated?

We'd be done.

I might be able to forgive him, but I wouldn't be able to trust him, and that would just end it right there no matter how much I loved him.
I'm sorry. But if he loves me he knows he risks it ALL going there.

I'm a no bones about it you cheat and you lose kinda gal.

Morrighan

[butterflydreams]

I' couldn't pick just one on there.

I've been cheated on before quite a few times actually. My ex husband and my baby's dad have cheated on me. I'm not sure about how many times my daughter's dad did. It could have only happened when we were really young. My ex husband got a chic pregnant either right before we separated (within days) or right after. Wasn't the first time he cheated either. I was always faithful to him and never cheated on him. Sadly I didn't leave him because of the infidelity. I don't think I'd make that mistake with someone else again.

I got back with my first love and we had a long distance relationship. I ended up cheating on him once or twice. Not that this excuse's it because it was so awful of me to do and that's something I would rather not live with. He came home on leave and didn't spend hardly any time with me and my ex came back into the picture telling me how I was just being used and letting my love treat me like a booty call, so I ended up hooking up with my ex that night and one other shortly after that. Then I found out that I really didn't understand the situation with my love (at the time). We're broken up now cause he's a jerk. But I also cheated on him many years ago (I was 14). We were together once before and he cheated on me so when we started dating again and I had an opportunity, I figured hey he's done it before and probably will again so why not. That was 9 years ago so I've learned a lot about that since then.

Besides those couple of incidents I really don't even have any interest in cheating. I didn't even give more than a quick glance at someone else.I guess the times I have it's always been for revenge in some way. It's pretty screwy that the only one I ever really cheated on was the one I loved the most.

[AstralMoth]

When I was a teenager I was terrible for cheating. I was cheated on in pretty much every relationship i had so i kind of figured that everybody did it. As I got older and my world view changed I kind of figured that I was only carrying on a cycle of misery and bad relationship karma ( if there is such a thing ) so when i met someone who I really connected with I've been completely faithfull ever since and wouldnt dream of it now. Like in magick, what you give out has a nasty habbit of coming back on you sometimes I guess.

[Rowan Darkmoon]

Never cheated, never will. I don't think it would ever be worth it, even if the relationship was going down the crapper.

[Antoninus]

I dont understand cheating, I just...I cant get my mind around it. Ive been cheated on before and all I see is that it causes pain ruins people's lives. I love Theresa very much and its never entered my mind once to cheat on her. Could I? Yeah, probably I could, but...why would I want to? It just...its like leaping off a bridge to me, it holds no value and I see no good in it whatsoever.

People have tried to explain why they cheat but it never makes any sense, it just...doesnt

[Rowan Darkmoon]

I have a good friend that cheats on her boyfriend reasonably often, and we've often had discussions about why she cheats. We've decided that it's mostly because she needs guilt to be a "good" girlfriend. When she's mad at him and wants to leave, I think she references her past mistakes and then she stays. Kind of like "Oh, what he did isn't as bad as what I did."

I'm not saying it's this way for everyone, not by any means, but at least it's this way for her.

[Antoninus]

Ive had DOZENS of people, both cheaters and not, try and explain why they do what they do and I just...no explanation has ever made sense, it is all just...totally lost on me.

[Khuinaset]

I would never EVER cheat on anyone. The only situation I could see myself cheating in(and that's an if...) was if I somehow got involved with an abusive person and hadn't cut it off yet, but had started a relationship with someone else, or something.

If my SO cheated on me...well...it depends on how far it went, and circumstances. I might be able to forgive them. But, in all probability, it would destroy the relationship, with how insecure I am.

[wooleybob]

I've been cheated on by my ex wife,but I would not cheat on anybody.Its just a head game that I have no time for..

[Catiana]

Never have and never would, but have been cheated on in the past.

[Black RiverWolf]

i need to change my position on this in this thread now. I am the one my friend is cheating with. and no i am not prolud of it. just kinda happened

[Spera]

I have never and would never cheat.

I have been chated on.

It's my perosnal belief that if you could cheat on someone you should break up with them.

[Spera]

And if I were cheated on.. well it didn't matter so much the first time I got cheated on becasue I was going to break up with him anyway. The second one I just got to feeling very inadequate which stuck me in a bad place longer than I should have been. But now?

I hope I'd have the courage to just end it if that happened. I woudl only be guilting myself in staying, making myself stay becasue I would blame myself. I hope that I'd be able to forgive him, but end the relationship knowing that there were things wrong that weren't just my fault. i tink it would really do a number on my self esteem.

[Meadhbh]

I have in the past I don't now. I think in general its a horrible thing to do to a person and I've only done it in one relationship thats been over for years. I don't feel any kind of guilt for what I did, but I assure you I won't do it again. It was just one of those relationships that went on forever out of sheer habit.

[lia_amberwolf]

only when you have permission :P

[i_am_serenity16]

I answered:

I am a female & I have cheated
I am a female & if I got cheated on I would cheat back (in my case this would be past tense but anyways...)
I am a female & I think women cheat more than men
I have been cheated on by a male

[ajna]

I cheated once, when I was 16...
I don't think that counts because of how young I was.
Since then, I have not cheated, I will never cheat, I believe that if you do cheat (unless your relationship is supposed to be open or polyamorous -- which wouldn't be cheating then by the way) you should end the relationship then and there. The purpose of being in a two person closed relationship is so that it is just that...the two of you and no one else.
I have been cheated on.