Are you happy in your relationship?

[~BEBZ~]

It's pretty easy. Just answer the question.

[Teresa]

For the first time in my life I am very happy in a relationship.I am also very happy with myself and my SO. I believe that making peace with myself and healing past wounds has gotten me to this point so that I would be ready for this relationship.My SO was a dear friend only for four years during my healing process. I am glad he waited until I "had my head on straight" to share his feelings with me.Sometimes Love does take time.

[Karma Chameleon]

No :sadman:

[karma_lives]

I am extremely extremely happy in my relationship. Yeah there IS an extreme distance between us but sometimes I think that actually HELPS us because that way we don't get like, well you know how some people spend so much time together that it gets kind of boring or they get sick of eachother? well we dont' have that problem an I think it's a good thing. For those people who are together and DON'T have that problem, lol you're awesome

[karma_lives]

No :sadman:
:wah: I sorry! Do you mind if I ask why not or is it one of those big personal things? Cuz if it is then I be quiet. LoL

[Secrets Flame]

Yes and no.

[Theres]

yes, extremely so. and i have been for over 19 years.

[AzuraWillow]

For two years i thought i was happy... When I realized that I had changed so much to make someone else happy, i ended up in therapy and on medication... 2 months later i am extremely happy, alone. If you find that one person who makes your life worth while, go for it and hold on to them. Never compromise yourself, your all you've got. I now know what "settling" feels like and i sure as hell will never fall into that trap ever again.

[karma_lives]

You know what *really* bugs me? When people say that you're to young to be in love at 16. It really does. LoL why do people say this? What's the difference between 16 and 26? :wth:

[Sith]

You know what *really* bugs me? When people say that you're to young to be in love at 16. It really does. LoL why do people say this? What's the difference between 16 and 26? :wth:
10 years of experience. lol

[karma_lives]

10 years of experience. lol

lol point taken. but, i mean really. who are they to say whether its love or not? maybe it's ur own version of love?

[Theres]

10 years of experience. lol
there you go... 10 BIG years!

[barlitone]

I am. We've had our troubles, and our fights. And, when I knew that something was up, and I didn't put my foot down, she did cheat on me. But, that was a few years ago, and my wife and I are fine.

I am very happy, and glad that I didn't throw the relationship away when things got tough.

[karma_lives]

I am. We've had our troubles, and our fights. And, when I knew that something was up, and I didn't put my foot down, she did cheat on me. But, that was a few years ago, and my wife and I are fine.

I am very happy, and glad that I didn't throw the relationship away when things got tough.

:clapping: yay for you guys!

[Bec_W]

Yes, I wouldn't be in it if I wasn't :)

[Jaroson]

Extremeley happy, more so than ever before.

[AuroraSilvermist]

Very much so, but it wasn't always that way; we had to work for it. The fact that we love each other so much made it something worth working for. We've been married 10 years, and together nearly 13. I couldn't imagine my life without him by my side to laugh and cry with me, finish my sentences, listen to my crazy philosophies and add his own insights, and just be my best friend and lover.

[Lost_Sole]

other, i am not in one

[mucgwyrt]

Very :)

[~BEBZ~]

You know what *really* bugs me? When people say that you're to young to be in love at 16. It really does. LoL why do people say this? What's the difference between 16 and 26? :wth:
There really is a big difference between 16 and 26, heck there is a big difference between 16 and 18. You won't see it till you get there. And I've been in the whole "Your too young to even know what love is" thing. It really ticked me off. Who were they to tell me that what I felt wasn't love? Older and wiser that's what. When I got older it ticked me off even more to find out that they were right. I'm not saying it isn't love. Because it is. And it is a very important process in your life to go through. But when you find that person you were meant to be with, you will see that all that love you felt as a youth pales in comparison to a love that is meant to endure. That doesn't mean that that love is invalid, it's not. It's your teething ring, it's how you prepare for the real stuff. Look at it as trying to ride a bike. When you start out you don't know how, your wobbly, you have to ride a little one and when you figure it out it's one of the greatest things. But is riding that little kiddie bike like riding a full grown mountain bike?
Does it make you love your kiddie bike experience any less? No but you realize that even though similar, they are not the same.

Does any of that drivel make sense? It's a hard concept to explain. It's just one of those things that comes with age I guess.

[Mouse]

I voted other.. Things are very difficult right now.. But sometimes just a lil bit of happyness makes all the bad stuff faid for a little while

[13thChylde]

I voted "other."
I'm happy (although apart) in one relationship, and quite miserable in the other.

[Fairyelf]

Yes I truly am!!
I had been in a horrible relationship for too long.
This guy im with is awesome!
hes always there for me and very caring and supportive,
I couldnt ask for more.

[LadyTrinity]

As most people here know about my fiancee and I .. it was NOT good! The relationship was horrible cause my fiancee did not know where to direct his energy when he was fustrated about something like our house closing.. furnace problems and other home repairs...sp he would yell at me and take it out on me. Well we have been seperated for 7 weeks now and he actually went to counceling!!! Omg. I was shocked.. He refused to go when we were together. If things look up I will give him a 2nd chance. Im all for making my family work. I believe in one person forever though good and bad ( bad to an extent, gotta draw the line some where ). So I voted I am pretty happy in the relationship because even though were sepreated right now.. i think things are going to be alot better now :clapping:

[Jackiedanielz]

Yes, very much so. I wanted to be with him 6 years ago, but I know it wouldn't have worked out. Today we've been together for almost 2 years, had our ups & downs but I think that this is the right time for us.

[Fane Ayuma]

No, im really really really NOT.

Cos i DONT HAVE ONE , ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

*Fane runs down the corridor screaming his lungs out to try and deafen his depressing single thoughts*

[Haruka2077]

Yes, very. My hubby is awesome and I'm still falling in love with him every day. We are the people who make others sick. We just fit together perfectly! :hearteyes
OK, sorry, I had to gush some more. He is wonderful to talk to, he understands me and shuts up and listens when he doesn't. We know how to make each other feel better and we don't ever let things fester when we have a problem. We don't have to hide things from each other. We love to share ideas!!! He is an engineer and I am an ex-English major, so what one of us doesn't know, the other generally does (or thinks they do). He's funny and adorable and he's going to make a GREAT dad for our little girl. He's also sweet but obnoxious-little-boy enough not to be too squishy. And he's stubborn but easy to get around if you know the right tickle spots! _whistle_
And we've been married almost 6 years and together for 7 1/2... I'm looking forward to the rest of our lives. :heartthro
OK, I'll be quiet now. :gagged:

[Ben Trismegistus]

Yep. Pity she's insane.

You know what *really* bugs me? When people say that you're to young to be in love at 16. It really does. LoL why do people say this? What's the difference between 16 and 26? :wth:
OK, before I answer, please understand that I'm trying to say this as nicely as I can. It's not meant to be insulting or judgmental or anything - it's just my observation of the differences between 16 and 26 (or 28, in my case).

The others are right that ten years of experience makes a big difference, but it's more than that. At 16, you haven't experienced enough to have a good comparison for your emotions. To a 16-year-old, everything feels really important and strong. Pain feels *really* painful. Happiness feels euphoric. Sadness feels like the depths of depression. Most people at 16 live a fairly sheltered life, and just don't know how limited their current emotional state really is. It's not until you're out in the real world for a few years that you truly understand how much more there is out there to feel. In the past year alone, I've felt greater joys and sorrows then in my entire teenage years. In retrospect, everything that seemed so vitally important at 16 seems quaint now.

So it's not that you're too young to be in love at 16. It's that you're too young to recognize love at 16. You may very well be in love, but you've got nothing to compare it to. I was one of the lucky ones - I was already dating the love of my life at 16. I thought I was in love with her from the time I was 14, but it wasn't until I was 19 or 21 that I even understood what love was, and (goofy as this sounds) it wasn't until my son was born last year that I had any idea whatsoever how much larger love could be.

OK, I'm gonna stop before this gets too hoaky. I hope I answered your question.

[DraconisArcanus]

Most definitely YES! We have had our tests along the way but in the end our love is true strong and forever.She is there for me and I for her. Besides, no one else would deal with each of our lil quirks,nuanses, and passions! :hugz:

[Faeawyn]

You know what *really* bugs me? When people say that you're to young to be in love at 16. It really does. LoL why do people say this? What's the difference between 16 and 26? :wth:
I think you can be in love....but not necessarily the kind of mature love that lasts and grows. It takes maturity and experience to learn how to build that. :whatgives: Some of us are still working on it :lol:

[Faeawyn]

I should have just said "What Ben Said" :rotfl: Didn't see his post :lol:

[Kalika]

Yes. Like every relationship, we have our ups and downs... but I know that I can always count on him, and he knows that he can always count on me.

And... he and I have been together since I was 16. :) So it IS possible. But, I wasn't your "average" 16 year old either - so I agree largely with what Ben said.

[Tsuchimaru]

Not really...but it's ok....

[Katya]

i thought i was happy in the last relationship. of course, i was pedephiled and brainwashed, so i'm not really sure of any of it. but yes, i know i loved him.

now is the time to be a real teenager and single.

[Terestai]

Beaming... couldn't be happier. :smile:

[Moriquenya]

there you go... 10 BIG years!

I agree. There's a lot of growing and changing that usually occurs during those particular years.

[Moriquenya]

We have been going through a rough spot lately. But we have been together for 10 years and that's got to mean something. We have love, but no mutual respect and that is making things very difficult as of late. We will get through this and still be together. At least we are committed to the relationship...

I'm struck by your comment. It's left me befuddled. You can love each other but not respect each other? My definition of love naturally includes respect.

[DragonsChest]

"What Ben said!"

:dancy:

Yes, I am happy in my relationship. It's been 22 years, and it hasn't all been roses. A happy stable relationship takes WORK. Some of the crap I've put Vetteman through qualifies him for sainthood. And sometimes he's a real toad, too. But he still loves me, and I still love him, and we'll be that little old couple on the park bench holding hands.

I love him. _pounce_

[Hærfest Leah]

Oh yes very much so. My husband and I met while TDY to Saudi Arabia in 98'. We have been together 6 1/2 yrs, married for 4 1/2 and have a 20 month old girl and another girl on the way any minute. :)

[Cielamara]

I'm really, really happy in my relationship. :) He is the most amazing person I've ever met...he's everything I could possibly want in a guy...sweet, caring, devoted, passionate, dreamy, emotional, sensitive, and he's just...wonderful. I only hope I make him as happy as he makes me.
Secondly...in addressing the topic of love when you're a teenager...granted, I'm eighteen myself...but I still say...love is love is love. It comes in all shapes and sizes, in all colors and degrees of intensity. I firmly believe you can be in love at sixteen...it may not be the love you could feel at twenty-six, but it's still love, it's still very important and beautiful, and no one has the right to sneer at that love.

[Lunamoth]

lol point taken. but, i mean really. who are they to say whether its love or not? maybe it's ur own version of love?

I was in love at age 16. And while that person is still very special to me and I love him dearly, it didn't last. Because over the course of years, you learn about yourself and you grow as a person and who you are at 16 is no where near the person you are when you're 26. And if you are the same after all those years, that's called "Arrested Development". :tongueout

That's not to say that the two of you can't develop together and still remain in love. I am still in love (perhaps moreso) with the man I started dating at age 19. I'm 31 now and we've been married for 7 years. It's not always wine and roses, and there are seriously times that I don't *like* the man. But overall, they're just bumps in the road of life.

[Cev'aq]

I'm ecstatic. :D

[Ceallach]

I am happy and not happy. If thats possible. But for the most part I'm happy.

[LadyAutumnCat]

No.

[Tarbh Nathroch]

Yep, happy. My wife, I called her that but we aren’t married, have been together for 8 years. We decided to start a family and now have a 1yr old. We have no interest in getting married. Nether one of us feels the need to get permission from god or state and we think the whole thing is a hassle and waste of time and money. We are totally committed to each other and one of us will bury the other. That’s the plan anyway.

Our daughter has just deepened our feelings for each other. She is a little piece of each of us, so it’s like we get to fall in love with each other all over again through her.

[Yasmine Galenorn]

Yes, very. More so than when we first met. We've had our ups and downs, and our problems that could have torn us apart, but instead, we tackled them together and grew stronger through the process. We never promised to be together forever at our wedding--neither one of us believe in making promises we might not be able to keep...but as the years have gone by (12 together, 11-/12 married), our love has only grown stronger and deeper, as has our passion. We face unknowns in the future--my husband's disability may progress further, we don't know if he'll end up in a wheelchair, hell we don't even know what it is that he has, but then again, when we stand back and look at life, tomorrow any one of us could be hit by a bus, hit by lightning, whatever...there's no guarantee that tomorrow will be here, so we plan for the future, but we live today, and today, we're deeply in love. (And that doesn't mean we're blind to each other's faults ~grins~...trust me, doesn't mean that at all).

Yasmine

[~blood raven~]

.....no, not really..... :sadeyes:

[Ben Trismegistus]

OK, so here's a question for those of you who said no:

If you're unhappy, why are you still in that relationship?

[Tsuchimaru]

OK, so here's a question for those of you who said no:

If you're unhappy, why are you still in that relationship?

I don't want to hurt her...

[Ben Trismegistus]

I don't want to hurt her...
But you're hurting yourself... and she'll get hurt eventually.

[NarYave]

No i am not happy, and he's gonna get the boot fairly soon

[Tsuchimaru]

But you're hurting yourself... and she'll get hurt eventually.

Very true...

[Gracecat]

I'm happier than I have been in a very long time. Even with the death of our child, we have talked and shared and communicated better than we ever have before. We both admitted great faults and even greater pain. But deep down, it sounds pitifully cliche but love has triumphed everything. He has pulled his shared of unacceptable stunts. So have I. And both causes great remorse and a huge amount of guilt that is compounded by the accidental death of Hannah.

Some of our problems suddenly paled, they ceased to matter. They were minor and not worth the pain and grief we had given each other over them. Others were huge issues of contention in our marriage, and they still are but we're actively working through them. It's hard, it's damned difficult and I'm sure once grief subsides we'll revisit some of our issues. Or perhaps we're actively working through them along with our grief. Either way, the divorce I filed several weeks back was dropped. Discussion of living apart has ceased. I do adore my husband, and he does love me. I can say we've both changed in the last three months, but he has done the most changing... above and beyond.

I'm babbling but yeah, I believe I'm very happy in my relationship. We're currently in grief counselling, but we're doing it as a couple. So it's partially relationship counselling that primarily focuses on sharing and communicating our grief... But she also makes sure "we" as couple are operating as we should. I think it'll turn into a nice blend of just overall positive therapy for us both.

I ran off with the question didn I :)

[misschief]

no. nothing is wrong that can't easily be changed... it's just not quite done yet. :)

[Hellenic_Witch]

Yes, happy and content here! But, like anything worth having, relationships are work. We are both a little less than perfect. But only just a little. lol

[RogueSpirit]

You know what *really* bugs me? When people say that you're to young to be in love at 16. It really does. LoL why do people say this? What's the difference between 16 and 26? :wth:

It bugs me, too. While I agree with the idea that those 10 years make a big difference in who you are... I don't think that someone is too young to be in love at 16. The only person I've ever truly was in love with was someone I fell for at 17 (he was 16). We dated for six years. The relationship ended because of the growing we did over that six years, but that doesn't mean that we weren't in love. It just means that our lives moved us to grow in different directions. We are still friends and we email each other every couple of months (he lives in another state and is married now).

Also, at 16 my mother married my father (he was 21). It's been 36 years and they are still married and apparently happy with it. I don't get it... but it worked. And quite frankly, from what I know of my mother at that time, she was a lot more naive and immature than I was at 16. Hell, she's less mature at 53 than I am at 35.

[KimberSly]

I was in love at 16... but he didn't know.

Now he's my husband. :lol:

I'm VERY happy. :)

[VroomBroom]

.....yes...very happy:D

[OKmagnolia]

I am very happy in my marriage....It has been a long 7 years and I know that to a lot of people that don't sound very long, but when you have had all the problems to overcome that my huhbby and myself have.....The next 50 years should be easy sailing......And neither one of us can wait.....We are still maddly in love.....Thank the Godds.....

[DixieWitch]

yes and no..there are certain parts I'm happy about and others I'm not. Things I don't want to discuss because they're personal.

[Njorun Alma]

ehm... I chose other,mainly because I don't really know.
He's a great guy, but the thing is that he doesn't understand me, at all.
He tries his very best, but we're just too darn different.

He's against religious activities.
I'm a Pagan.
He can't understand why one would choose to not eat any animal products at all.
I'm a vegan.
He doesn't understand how anyone could be ore to the "left" side of the politics, so to speak.
And I absolutely am.

We cannot talk about anything without him rolling his eyes, and it hurts me.
I try not to think about it too much, but it bugs me.
Especially when i know I have lots of guys around me who loves to talk with me and respects and understand me in a totally different way then my boyfriend even tries to.

But he is nice, pretty good looking and he treats me right and says he loves me all the time.
But I guess I feel like it's not always enough for me.
I need to connect on another level.

*shrugs*

[Rudas Starblaze]

you mean like the relationship between my wife and i, or the relationship between the guy shes having an affair with and living with?????????????????? boy i cant wait til the divorce so i can be free of my vows (morally speaking). oh, no, im not happy with my relationship by the way.

in light, love, and wisdom,
Rudas Starblaze

[Twig]

And YES! You see i am totally committed to 2 different women.

My mate Therese came into my life 8 years ago and saved my life though she knows it not. She is my Lifemate and we are both happy. _cloud9_

Then there is Diana. As Therese is my Lifemate, Storm is my Twinflame and spiritmate. Though neither of us were searching for a companion (as we are both commited to our respective spouses, family and situations) one day this beautiful lady hit me with the proverbial 2x4 and admitted her love. I couldn't deny the depth of my love for her either.

So I am doubly blessed and am I happy? Oh yes how can I not be?

Peace,
Twig
:elf:

[soilsigh aingeal]

Other: I'm not in a relationship but I'm happy with my current situation.

[TaysatWesir]

No! I am separated from my husband. :wah: :goodgrief :sadeyes: :geez: :falloffch :ahhhhhhh: :sadman:

[Black RiverWolf]

I chose other

I never get to see him anymore. was supposed to move i and hes making excuses. to keep his low paying peice of sorry. ill stop now

[April]

I have to answer this one as yes and no.

[Storm Moon]

I couldn't be happier :D (You know who you are ;))

[Bandia]

I'd be happy if it were just us and the baby, but it never is. For a while, we fought about his sis, now it's my mom (understandably but I still get defensive) and of course, parenting matters. It seems to be a never ending battle with outside influences.

[Isis Diana]

I wonder sometimes if I knew what happy was before I met my husband...he is absolutely amazing.

Blessed Be
-Isis Diana

[Vetteman]

I suppose
I had better say yes in case DC reads this :fpoke: LOL, its been tough at times, but I wouldnt want to trade.

[Hope3645]

My answer is yes and no. I love my partner very much, but have some serious issues with trust. It's just really hard for me to believe that he loves me. I believe it a little over half the time. It's like I'm biopolar or something, but only in relation to our relationship. Is this normal? I don't really know since this is my first serious relationship.
Blessings,
Kay

[Ravens_Tears]

:hugz: :hugz: :hugz:

No mere words can describe how wonderful our relationship is :) I am blessed!

[Karma Chameleon]

:wah: I sorry! Do you mind if I ask why not or is it one of those big personal things? Cuz if it is then I be quiet. LoL


Well, it's a long story, but I fixed it now! I got rid of the person that was causing me the problems and got back together with my fiance, now I am very happy. _wiz_

[wakywitch]

very happy :hugz:

[KaliGiri5]

Not happy at all and trying to get out of this mess.
he's too jealous...too clingy
he's a freaking nut that i'm about to crack.
:alol:

[FaerieGothMommy]

My relationship would be great IF i wasn't suffering with mental illness.... we had an awesome relationship before i developed my mental illnesses, now it struggles. Andy is great though, he puts up with me & always reasurres me it'll get better and back to like how it used to be...