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Ceres
October 22nd, 2004, 05:07 PM
today some adults at a parent & kid get together were rude to my son. i saw it happening but nothing was so extreme that i felt it would be helpful to speak up. i could see it was bothering my son and before i could find a helpful way to intervene, my son said (not directly at the person, but in general) the word damn. now i feel swear words are only words and my kids arent punished for using mild ones, but i do expect them to use discretion and not say them in front of ppl that they know would be offended.
my son knew it would offend these two adults, and it was his way of expressing his anger at their rudness to him.
when we left, i talked about it with him and explained my position and that he would be punished for his part, but i am still fuming at these rude adults who probably dont even KNOW what their part was in the affair.
their rudness was mostly interefering in my parenting by telling my son he couldnt do a thing that i was allowing and then constantly nagging him thereafter. i felt they believed that since i let him do the original thing, that their job was to make sure he behaved since i was clearly not making him do so.
the whole incident has left me feeling angry with no recourse.

lovemy1dane
October 22nd, 2004, 06:28 PM
People should mind their own business. My kids curse except around grandparents, teachers etc...

Faeawyn
October 22nd, 2004, 06:44 PM
I'm sorry for your frustration. I would suggest just letting it go. With the exception of your son using inappropriate language....it sounds like he handled it better than alot of other kids may have. Just focus on teaching your son the correct way to behave as an adult....and let the rude ones be an example of the wrong way for him. Sounds like you're doing great so far :hugz:

Valkie
October 22nd, 2004, 09:36 PM
Personally, I would also tell him that next time any 'well meaning' adult tries to go against what you allow him to do, to have him tell them that it is none of their concern and if it truly bothers them then they can discuss it with his mother.

I also agree with the swearing part.... I was raised in a house where language wasn't punished, being rude or disrespectful was. I do the same with my boys.