A compatibilty question- please help. I feel quite desperate!

[Faery-Wings]

Nope this isn't about me and a guy! It is about me and my daughter. We butt heads. Constantly. Passionately, and endlessly. The scariest part of it is that she is not quite 3. :( It started when I was pregnant with her and has continued on ever since.

I have prayed to the Goddess so many times, meditated on it, red my cards for advice,tried several discipline techniques. And I would like to work things out soon. I can't imagine what my house will be like when she is a teen.:woah: :scream:

She was born Sept. 21, 1998 at 11:40 am, in Pompton Plains NJ, DST. So she is a Virgo? I was born 6/26/68, appox 8am in Denville NJ and a Cancer. I don't know if this info is needed, but I am hoping someone out there could give me a bit of insight.

BTW, my hubby is a Taurus and my son was born May 21 so he is on the cusp according to most things I have read. Makes for an interesting house...

I appreciate any info or advice you could give me. Like I said, I feel very desperate and would love to make my relationship better with her.I truly love her with all of my heart. I am so sad that there are many times I don't like her. :(

BB

Chris

[Methanespirit]

Chryssi1, Although I did not do a complete chart on you, because you did not mention whether your birth time was EST or EDST, and especially if the EST birth is correct , her Mars is near conjunct your natal Ascendant. In this case the one hour will make a total difference in the analysis. Also that her natal Moon is on the IC of your natal, chart and your Neptune is on her Ascendant. But aside from these several inter-nativity contacts, the one that concerns the most is the Mars placement. This portends a stormy relationship, unless you can teach her respect for you as her mom. But before proceding any further , please specify your birth time.

[Faery-Wings]

Thank you so much for doing this, I truly hope this was not too much trouble. I was born 7:55 am (according to my dad, it is not on my birth certificate) EDST.

Stormy- that seems to sum it up. :(

Is there any other info you need?

Blessings!

Chris

[Methanespirit]

Chryssi1; OK, I did your birth chart also. Now, you know that the only analysis I do is utilizing the Sidereal Zodiac. The following are your Sidereal placements. Sun 10*37' 07" Gemini, Moon 11* 13' 30" Gemini, Mercury 29* 30' Taurus Rx; Venus 12*17" Gemini, Mars 9* 15' Gemini, Jupiter 7* 30' Leo, Saturn 29* 48' Pisces, Uranus 1*02' Virgo, Neptune 29*50' Libra Rx.; Pluto 26*03' Leo; Chiron 9*00' Pisces. Your natal Ascendant is close to 9* Cancer, and the MC is about 26* Pisces. The accent of the chart falls on 11*30' 01" Taurus, (this means that any planet or luminary that is say, from 3* to 11* of any Sidereal Zodiacal sign, especially those quartered at or near 11* 30' of the fixed signs)will take precident in your personality traits. I believe what is most important here, is your personality thruough the Sun, Moon, Mars, Venus, and Chiron configuration. That you may be a bit heavy handed with her, and probably not aware of it. That the source of irritation between you two is probably the way you handle her affairs. Also that your natal Saturn is nearly squred her ascendant. (This always indicates that one is a psychological "drag" on the other. ) This does not mean that you are doing it wrong, but to her, your approach and mannerisms are more than likely, causing rebellion from her. You know that once the psychological mold has been set in this manner it takes some time, and probably some help, to change it. Also, that her Tertiary progressed Mars has been in conjunction to her birth Sun and Moon (appx 13* Virgo) , and as of now, is drawing a paritle (exact) square to your Sun, Moon, Mars, Venus, and Chiron natal placements, (A stellum) . This gives her more boldness, and defiance toward you. I hope this is a passing phase of life for her, as after her next birthday , see if there isn't a change in her attitude (as I believe that the worst of the situation is now, or soon will be over). If not, I suspect that the hositlity will gradually subside anyway. However, if it will ever end is moot. Your daughter, like you was born on a New Moon. She, bieng a double Virgo (Sidereal). Her Sun is 3*43' 54" Virgo and Moon is 14* 07' 03" Virgo. Her accent falls on 7* 03' 27" Virgo, basically on the Sun. This usually indicates that she is a dominating personality, and will not be put down for any circumstances, and in Virgo, can be exceptionally critical and analytical toward you. Case histories concerning Virgo personalities show that they are unusually brave people, probably because they inherently believe themselves to be on a commission to handle problems in life, rather than being the progenetor of any situations they may find themselves in. Of course, your little daughter is too young to realize this, but her bravery is not to be disregarded. I hope this analysis is of some help to you. -hugs, Methane'

[Faery-Wings]

I have tears in my eyes and goosebumps on my arms! That analysis was eerie, it sounds exactly like us. You can see why I am concerned and I want this pattern to end now. Well, you gave me some hope that this will pass. And that means so much to me. I love her so very much and want to do the right thing for her. I am going to meditate some more and keep asking The Goddess for her wisdom in how to best to discipline her. I feel that you hit the nail on the head when you said I might be heavy handed with her. I don't like her being defiant, but I see that I may be causing her to be more so.

Thank you again for doing this. I know I am not a regular poster in this forum, although I do lurk :) I appreciate your help!!

BB
Chris