human interaction

[Infinite Muse]

how many people out there don't have a lot of actual irl human interaction
because of who you are, what you are like, or where you are located
(argh i miss people and its making me crazy)
are you happy with that or are you like me; terribly unhappy about being alone

[Tsuchimaru]

School is really the only social place I'm in....I like being alone though it really depends on my mood...

[Sith]

I like having little human interaction. Gives me time to get my biz started and maybe up and running. For the past 3 years, I had people turn on me for no reason. I'm glad I reduced my social network.

[semi]

I like to be alone often. When I want company I'm blessed and fortunate ebough to have very good friemds to spend time with. But I need alone time to learn more about myself and progress on my path.

[audi]

so sorry to hear how upset you are. my first ritual was last night for samhain. i practiced with one other person. and i honestly dont know how i feel about that. i like some aspects of it because i am still so new to the faith. however, im not one who needs the actions as much as the internal visualizations. so if i found sumone who practiced in the same way i do the outcome would be amazing. but since i havnt ever had that, i dont necissarily have that experience to miss.
it sounds like you know you want someone to practice with. i really hope that you are able to find someone. take care. *hugs*

[sandra_the_green]

School is really the only social place I'm in....I like being alone though it really depends on my mood...

same with me.

[violet rain]

Well it would be nice to have someone to practice with and that way I do feel alone sometimes when I meet someone that has the same interests they usually live way to far away owell.

[Sylvan]

I'm a recluse. I kind of like it that way, but it does get lonely from time to time.

[Fairyelf]

School is really the only social place I'm in....I like being alone though it really depends on my mood...

yup college and family is the only social place for me...dont have time for any other social stuff..

[Theres]

i could definitely use less human interaction.

[Eudaimonia]

I have the exact opposite problem.

I have far too much human interaction. I have two roomates in a studio apartment, and a large amount of close friends, friends, and aquatences (sp!).

I'm becoming Usagi ha-ha (MomaBunny). They come to drink, eat, enjoy. Some time alone would be nice.

[Xander67]

I deal with people all the time, between within my community and when im working on a production.

I have to say, what keeps me going is haveing my "ME" time, when I can read, or play with my art things. If Im not interacting with people It does get to me,

the net is ok, but if it werent for my real life Id be in a sanatarium :crazyman:

[Teresa]

I like the way things are.I get plenty of interaction at work.

[halfwaynowhere]

well, i have school, which scientifically would be cosidered human interaction, although i try not to interact when i can help it. and if you call screaming fights interaction, then i interact with my family on a daily basis. i'm not antisocial, i just don't like people.

[Raivynne]

I'm pretty much a recluse, dealing with only family and a few family friends. I don't have any friends here, since I stopped going to public school and am now homeschooled. I don't mind at all, really. I work better by myself for the most part, I'm happy to have the company of my pets. I have a boyfriend, but he's at college right now. I do kind of wish I had a teacher of some kind for spiritual things, or at least an older adult here to talk to these things about. Other than that I like how things are.

[Yasmine Galenorn]

how many people out there don't have a lot of actual irl human interaction
because of who you are, what you are like, or where you are located
(argh i miss people and its making me crazy)
are you happy with that or are you like me; terribly unhappy about being alone

I-Muse, as far as myself---pretty isolated for the most part. A lot of people think that authors know dozens of people and run around meeting new folks all the time, but the truth of the matter is, most of the time we're in our offices, writing. I spend all day, every day, home alone with the cats, living in my own private worlds that I create. I don't talk on the phone a lot--can't let myself break concentration much, don't answer much email during the day for the same reason. Now and then I go a little nuts and come in here, or call my sister or a friend, but really, until my husband comes home from work, I'm pretty much isolated by sheer necessity of getting the work done. On weekends, we go out, run errands, etc., but most of my friends are just as busy as I am in their various careers and so we get together with friends for dinner maybe once a month, and I have a friend who comes over for tea once every week or so and we talk shop and vent and laugh and generally shore each other up (she's a profressional freelancer/journalist/documentary maker/project manager).

Sometimes the isolation drives me nuts, but most of the time, I enjoy it because I can't work with a lot of noise or distractions, and my work is one of my top priorities in life (and in business--don't turn in the work, it hurts your reputation and endangers the chance of future projects, not to mention the possibility of being sued).

Yasmine :colorful:

[WingedTigerChild]

I'm pretty isolated. We live quite a ways from in town now, so unless I'm up to the walk (which is usually not the case), I'm stuck at home all day, every day. Most of my friends moved away to go to school, so I don't see them all that much, and because of my allergies and other medical 'problems,' I find it difficult to be outdoors and around people anyhow...which is why I quit school and now do it from home. To be honest, I NEED interaction, but I'm the sort that likes to be alone anyway...out of the sun and sight of others. lol

[Aleigh]

I'm really shy IRL, so I prefer to have a few close friends and family that I interact with, and leave it at that. I still get nervous just having to talk to Pat's preschool teachers. :lol: I just like to be around people I'm already comfortable with.

[Infinite Muse]

sigh
everybody seems so lucky; they have what they want; or they have an overabundance of interaction they don't want it
i could wish for either circumstance

[misschief]

i'm not shy, or disfigured or anything like that.. but i don't have much human interaction. i'm very outgoing and all that.. but it's purely by choice. i don't like people.. and i don't like them involved in my life. i moved last summer, i don't know anyone here but my parents and my uncle.. and i like it that way. no surprise visits.. i'm not expected to go out or go visit or any of that. i like being left alone.

[tebyen]

I'm a natural born hermit. If I could get dsl out that far, I'd probably live in a shack in a deep forest on the top of a mountain.

[{Tigress}]

I'm a natural born hermit. If I could get dsl out that far, I'd probably live in a shack in a deep forest on the top of a mountain.

DSL and a job... have to be able to pay for it! But yeah, I'm with ya... If I want to "meet" people, I can hop on-line. LOL

[Infinite Muse]

can we get back to the topic please?
(heartsick hearing all these people who are alone & loving it and wondering if they are deceiving themselves or else *how* such a thing could ever be fulfilling enough to make that person actually "happy" if such thing exists)

[Yasmine Galenorn]

can we get back to the topic please?
(heartsick hearing all these people who are alone & loving it and wondering if they are deceiving themselves or else *how* such a thing could ever be fulfilling enough to make that person actually "happy" if such thing exists)

I-Muse, it sounds like you really want and need more interaction. What kind, though? Friends? A partner? Alone is not the same thing as lonely, so it is possible to be more isolated and be happy--I have friends but we see each other once in awhile and that's fine for us.

Are there any groups in your area (not necessarily Pagan, but that relate to things you enjoy doing)? That's a good way to meet people, or taking a class in something you enjoy is another good way to meet people. :hugz:

Yasmine :colorful:

[misschief]

well.. i wasn't trying to 'rub it in' that i like to be alone, that was just my response *shrug*. if i get out of the house, even just walking on the sidewalk, i meet people, it's reallly easy. maybe go sit at the coffee shop for a little while, ask someone a question about anything, start a conversation.. there are countless ways to meet people, it's just so easy that people don't think of it. and.. the reason i'm so happy being alone might be b/c except for about the last year, i had so many people in my life all the time that i couldn't keep up. but, i'm never REALLY alone.. i have kids and a husband all the time. this is satisfying for me, but it's probably just a phase. eventually i'll feel lonely and go back to having friends around me all the time.

[{Tigress}]

can we get back to the topic please?
(heartsick hearing all these people who are alone & loving it and wondering if they are deceiving themselves or else *how* such a thing could ever be fulfilling enough to make that person actually "happy" if such thing exists)

I'm not deceiving myself at ALL. I LOVE attention. I just don't like dealing with people. Makes fulfilling my needs VERY difficult. Like I said in another thread... I'm a hermit that's afraid of being alone.

What this means for me, is that in order to be happy I need to be with people in small doses. One on one for long periods of time is okay (but not TOO long... I need my alone time), but groups are not. So, the Net is wonderful for me. I can shut out anything I don't want when I need to, and still maintain close one-on-one relationships with those I deem friends. And I don't have be rude to those friends and push them away when I need my space... the very nature of the net means they only "intrude" when I want them to. It's perfect for me.

I'm not ALWAYS happy... sometimes people aren't around when I need or want them to be, but that's the nature of the beast. That would be true if I were talking about "Real Life" relationships too, so I don't see it being much different in that regard. But... I am MUCH happier than I would be if I were forced to feed my needs and wants without the Net.

Does this mean I have NO "RL" friends? Nope, not in the least. I just don't have many, and that's the way I like it. :)