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Memory's Flame
November 6th, 2004, 09:33 PM
Some Background first, my husband has ADD and Depression, but due to change in insurance his coverage doesn't kick in until December 1... which means he's been without Meds for a few months.

His job is driving him crazy (he has a boss who smokes lots of weed at work, and who is so drugged up on pain medication she can barely tie her shoes let alone run the store) so since he is the assistant manager he is doing both her job and his. It doesn't help that the boss' husband is the area manager, so he's dealing with HR, but it's taking a LONG time to resolve.

Then there's the fact that we only have one car and I am trying to go back to school; but it's making our transportation situation REALLY bad. We are wanting to buy a new car, but I have 0 credit, and my husband is paranoid to even try to get approved for a loan.

We own our home, we purchased it 3 years ago. We also around the same time had a car loan out for our current car, which was paid off about 1 year ago. After about 9 months of owning the home, my husband got into some trouble financially (I was an at home wife at the time) and he let his credit card payment slip, which ended in the company closing his card. He did pay off the card, within five months of closing it, and that is the only negative mark on his credit, but he's afraid that this will hold him back from being approved for a car.

My arguement for this is that we have never been late on a payment for our home, we also were never late on payment for my car which was paid off 2 years early. So I personally don't think that just one negative mark on his credit (which was 2 years ago, and paid off) will effect us too much so long as we have a decent down payment. Aside from him making a fairly good amount salary yearly. Am I correct on this?

To add to all this, before his insurance mishap, we discovered that we may have some fertility issues; but we both want children (he worse than I do I think)...

So I don't think I need to really state that his Stress level is sky high. Well; this is killing me to watch him so sad! Financially we aren't to bad, but his depression makes him think it's far worse than it is. I try to keep the house tidy and manage the bills to help alieviate some of his stress(on top of working full time), but that just doesn't seem to be enough.

Goodness I can't wait until he gets insurance again!! I can't wait for him to be himself again!

Thank you everyone for listening to me vent... I just needed to rant awhile.

Mab
November 6th, 2004, 10:12 PM
Sweetie, you go right ahead. My SO has ADHD w/depression, and w/o his meds normal tiny everyday stresses like traffic make him insane.

Here's praying for you & your hubby!

Yvonne Belisle
November 6th, 2004, 10:20 PM
Ok number one is talk to his dr about his meds they may be able to keep him on samples till the insurance kicks in. Also call the drug makers who manufacture his normal meds. Sometimes they have programs that can help you and you might be lucky enough to get on one. It doesn't hurt to ask. You might also want to see if there is anywhere that can see him on a sliding scale. I don't know what is available in your area but those are good areas to start in. The phone book community pages should have listings for mental health. Sometimes church groups will pay for a perscription on a one time deal. Definitly start making calls you don't have to be a member to get help with some of them. The cathlic church almost always has a community program and helps everyone. Call your local cathlic church and see if they have any community outreach programs that might be able to help.

I don't know enough on the credit issue to help there but I do know that many people I have met said after filling chapter 11 or 13 they got tons of credit offers so I would assume you would be fine. As long as the card has been paid off you can also call the credit card company and ask if they can change your credit status to in good standing. It doesn't always work but sometimes you can get them to do it if there is no outstanding debt in the acct. Get a copy of your credit reports. You can find contact numbers to order them online.


With the employment the only thing I can think of is to tip off the cops at a pay phone. If the company found out he did it though it could cost his job you never know. Perhaps he could talk to the husband and ask if there is anything that can be done for her to make her able to have less meds at work? I am afraid you are going to get far better advice from someone else on this one.

Memory's Flame
November 7th, 2004, 09:29 AM
Thank you all so very much!

I'm just stressed and needed to vent, I thank you for listening to my vent! You are such wonderful people.

Jackiedanielz
November 7th, 2004, 11:14 AM
Here's the list of the 3 Credit Bureaus. You can call up & get your Credit Rating Report. Make sure its the rating report because this is what any car dealership will pull up when you talk to them about purchasing a vehicle. This way you'll know exactly where you stand. I believe you get 1 free copy a year from each agency.

The 3 Credit Reporting Agencies:
EQUIFAX
Order Report# (800) 685-1111
Fraud # (888) 525-6285
Equifax Credit Information Services, Inc
P.O. Box 105069
Atlanta, GA 30374
www.equifax.com

EXPERIAN (formerly TRW)
Order Report# (888) 524-3606 or
(888) EXPERIAN
Fraud # (888) 397-3742
P.O. Box 2104
Allen, TX 75013-2104
www.experian.com

TRANS UNION CORPORATION
Order Report# (800) 888-4213
Fraud # (800) 680-7289
TransUnion LLC
Consumer Disclosure Center
P.O. Box 1000
Chester, PA 19022
www.tuc.com

Mab
November 7th, 2004, 11:37 AM
Actually (now I'm not the expert on this, but SO is, so I've picked up a bit---he's a benefits manager/HR specialist), with regard to the overmedicated boss thing.....it all depends on why she has her meds as to whether or not she's protected. If she's so drugged she can't do her job, she should be off on disability, not in working! FMLA & disability are designed to help ppl keep their jobs through an extended absence due to injury or illness--NOT to keep stoned folks at work! If it's truly an abuse of medications situation, if HR doesn't take care of it, then your hubby could file a complaint with the DOL or EEOC & his job can't fire him. Once a complaint has been made to management, firing or punishment of the person who filed the complaint is considered retailiation & illegal (at least in Colorado--I'm not 100% sure about other states). If HR doesn't do anything, I'd at least seek some advice from another HR professional if not an attny.

Memory's Flame
November 7th, 2004, 01:16 PM
I might add that the reason she's so drugged up is not because she literally is disabled; but because she is addicted...

Mab, we are in Colorado...so that would apply here!

soilsigh aingeal
November 7th, 2004, 06:59 PM
first :hugz: about the meds: call his doctor and ask if you can pick up some samples of his regular medication to get him through the month.

the only thing I can think of for the drugged lady at work is for your boss to go higher up than his area manager and have someone issue her a drug test. That's ridiculous that she can go to work and be so f-ed up she can't even do her job.

now for the credit, it doesn't sound to me like it would be a bad rating from one thing, but you could order your credit report (s) and maybe go to a dealership and talk to someone.

Good luck!!!