*meek voice* anyone? help?

[Sequoia]

*sighs*. . . after some unhappy events months and months ago, a friend of mine who was once closer to me than my own father now dislikes even hugging me. . . most of it was a misunderstanding on his part that he refuses to let go of. . .

And now, in fact ever since he stopped seeming to care about me, he seems to be in love with a friend of both of ours (we are both part of a group of very close friends, there's about 10 of us). He smiles all the time at her, he sits next to her, he makes jokes with her. . . . he used to be a very serious person.

Now don't get me wrong. I think it's WONDERFUL! that he's caring about someone like her! I mean, she's a nice person and all (even though it was partly her fault that he misunderstood me in the first place, she kinda got him to think I lied when I didn't). I just. . . I feel like I've been replaced. Even though my relationship with him was FAR from romantic (and I like it that way!), he was a very very special person to me, I loved him like a father, in fact I felt in some ways closer to him than my own dad. I loved him and he once told me that he loved me as a daughter. It was wonderful. And somehow all that trust was destroyed in less than a week. . . and she replaced me as the person whom he smiled at. . . and it just hurts. . . I have to ASK him before I hug him. . . I smile and he doesn't usually smile back anymore, not even with his eyes. . . in fact, sometimes he even looks hurt. . .

Any advice on this would be great, but if anyone would be so willing, I'd like to have someone do a reading for me? What does the future hold regarding him? I'm a female Scorpio, my name's Elizabeth. He's a male Virgo, his name's Robert.

Any help. . . I don't know what to do anymore.

[Silver Venus]

I really hope that you are alright, because you sound pretty down ~ bet if I tickle you... yeah! a smile! :D :)
I dont want to be blunt but I feel I have to say that ~ It sounds like this guy is really confused himself too, but he's messing with your emotions and friendship ~ what happened that turned everything upside down? Did he make a pass at you?
Ofcourse Ill do a reading for you! :) Give me a few hours and Ill be back :sunny:
Love and light and big huggies to you!

[Silver Venus]

Hi again,
I chose to draw three cards for the future of your relationship with this friend.
I got The Eight of Pentcales, The Empress and The Three of Pentacles.
Looks like its going to take some work but this experience is ultimately going to make you stronger and grow within yourself.

The 8 stands for hard work, as this is the first card I drew Im sure this will have to happen and be addressed first. I really get that you need to sort this out with him and resolve this. Whatever you choose to do ~ whether talk to him or just see what happens and if his attitude changes back ~ its going to be hard work. I think he's going to make it hard work and him alone. He maybe already is isnt he? But dont give up, if you want him as a friend in your life you have to let him really know. Work at it, he may not listen or change at first but he will come round eventually I think.

The Empress in the middle is great! She teaches us many things ~ motherly strength, wisedom, friendship, caring, protecting, providing, genourosity and unlimited love. I think she is there to tell you that you will grow from this experience, you will discover new strength's, new ways of thinking and a new unconditional love. & that you already are a strong (all of the above) woman! She is there to remind you of your power and love!

The 3 is all about giving to recieve, team work and again working with someone for a goal. This card again is telling that work and tollerance will be needed, and that all that you give out will come back to you. I think he will see his sillyness after a while of patience from you, and you will be friedns again. It just may take time, patience and effort. But in the end the rewards will be great and you will be together again as friends and as a close unit once more. :)

If you want me to try again with a different question I will be happy to :)

[Sequoia]

*relieved sigh*

ah, what you told me is very reassuring. . . it all makes sense, and it is definately doable!! I can see those kinds of events happening.

What happened, to make a long story short, among other things:

we (my group of friends) had all gone on a week-long vacation, and many of us were staying in a cabin together. I had been confused on the sleeping arangements of me and my boyfriend (I was kind of clinging to the hope that we'd be in the same ROOM at least. . . -_-; *sigh* didn't work out that way), and I guess I put up a bit of a fuss about it. Then middle of the week I hurt my ankle but it didn't seem so bad. The first day of the weekend I was standing all day, and by that evening it was extremely swollen and hurting. . . but during the week it hadn't been hurting all the time, sometimes it would hurt and sometimes it wasn't hurting enough to notice, so I'd be up and about doing my own thing. . . and he thought I was lying and saying I was hurt when I wasn't. And when I explained he still held that grudge. Also: I was staying in the loft, and appearantly a window in the loft had been drawn on in dust, and I didn't even SEE the window, but everyone thought I MUST'VE done it, and they told me to clean it, but I never heard the "clean it" part, so naturally I didn't (I didn't even know what freakin window they were talking about, you know?). And appearantly they got the impression that I said I would clean it. . . and you can imagine their reaction when they found I hadn't. . . *sigh* so he thinks I lied about that as well. . . and there were a lot of smaller mis-understandings. . .

no, he didn't make a pass at me, although some people were acting like *I* had, which is a load of you-know-what. They were talking about how I hugged him. . . *SIGH* it's just how I hug everyone. I'm a huggy person, and when I care about someone I'm very touchy about it. Tactile, you know? so I hug them or like hang over their shoulders while they're sitting down. I do this with friends, I do this with family. The KNEW this, yet they chose to react. . . *sighs* I really don't know what the whole deal was that weekend. . . none of us were ourselves, but all I know is that it became hell. And somehow this man whom I trusted so much suddenly got it into his head that I lied. . . . I CAN tell you, it would've taken something to get him to think that way that quickly. . . and I honestly think his new quasi-girlfriend is that something. . . she was one of the antagonists of mine that week, and right after he got upset with me, I noticed that they were getting closer. .. and I don't want to think that somehow she manipulated him but that's where my mind's going. . . it wouldn't be completely unreasonable, but still, she's my friend too. . . it's all very confusing.

well, I've gotta get dressed for my classes!! hehe ttyl

~Puma

[Silver Venus]

That sounds like a real messy nightmare!
I know what you mean too ~ when freinds get together ~ even the closest like you.. it only takes one thing/person to set the bitchy ball rolling! and once its rolling it always knocks over a few people along the way!

Try and stay positive babe and work through this with him. Remeber the Empress!! :sunny:

[Sequoia]

I shall, and thank you!! ^_^