Linx
November 11th, 2004, 03:39 PM
:meanface: I know most everyone has issues with someone in their extended family. My problem happens to be with my brother and his wife. ESPECIALLY with his wife. :meanface:
I am constantly trying to think up reasons why my kids can not go visit, or stay the night with their children. I hate that I am doing that, but well, it is either feighn an excuse, or just be blunt, and cause a family feud. Heck, the way I feel right now, I am almost ready for a family feud. At least then maybe SHE would be out of my life. :uzi:
I am generally a friendly, loving all around good person, but this woman (if we can call her that, I want to call her much worse) pushes me to my limits, and recently she has pushed me over the edge. The woman constantly yells at her kids, berates them even, and the oldest is ONLY 5! She is self centered beyond belief, and gets pissed off, if she don't get to do what she wants, or people won't do what she wants. She has the mentality of a child, my 12 yr old son, is more mature than she is. :veryweird
Here are a few examples...
If she asks me to come pick her up and take her somewhere (she has no license, and they only have one car, my brother uses it in the daytime), and I can't for some reason, either i don't have the money, gas is outrageous right now, or I have to work, or i flat out just don't feel like it. She has a tantrum, and starts the whole, well you guys don't care aboiut us, never want to do anything for us kind of thing. :scream:
I no longer (as of June this year) buy her children gifts for their birthdays or xmas. The reason being, well, I know it is the thought that counts, but there is not any thought on their part. And my kids feel it. In June, I threw her middle child a birthday party. My mom was down visiting, and well the woman said she had no money to do anythign for her son. So I bought the food, and made the cake, and supplied the gifts. Her snide side comment to her brothers girlfriend was that she guessed it was not a waste of time, as her son made out good with gifts. And she didn't think he would get anything, so they almost did not come. I had to hold myself back from ripping her head off. I could not believe that was all she was thinking ocming out here, and that I spent MY hard earned money on that. I mean yes the child enjoyed it, but at his age (3) he would have known no different just getting a cake, and a small gift. :nuhuh:
Well, then my daughter's birthday came in July. And NOTHING, not a phone call to wish her happy birthday, nothing. I don't expect people to buy, but a birthday wish is nice. Something to let my child know you care. And my daughter knew. And the sad thing was, I did not have money that month to throw my own daughter a party. She is 7, but she had a very hard time understanding. In Sept, my son's birthday came and went, and the same thing happened. NOTHING. Not even a phone call. So in Oct, when her youngest son's birthday came along, I didn't do anything. I figured, well, I can play that game too. At least the child was only turning 2, and wouldn't know the difference, though I felt bad. I was then made to feel worse, because I had to work that day (was working 7 days a week), and so I could not bring my kids, or a gift. My birthday passed in Sept as well, and my husbands in Oct, with nary a wish or anything from them. yet, ever since her son's party all I have heard is how selfish I am. Her daughter's birthday passed last weekend. I already had plans with my kids BEFORE she told me she was throwing a party. I was taking my kids to Carowinds (theme park), and was not going to break my word to them, and they had no desire to go to the party. I was confronted, that I should be taking their daughter, as it is HER birthday. It wasn't costing me anything to take my kids, I bought them an early yule gift, in the form of season passes. She has even complained to my mother about this issue, and gave my mom a load of crap, for not sending gifts as well. She can't afford it anymore than I can. So, nope, no more gifts, or anything from me, I am done. :doh2:
We always get into snits over one thing or another. If I am talking to her on my cell phone (her favorite way to catch me), and lose service, she automatically thinks I have hung up on her. If I have no response to her telling me over and over what she has bought for her kids for xmas, or their birthdays (sorry, I can only listen to so much bragging), I am a snob, and jealous.
Well, now she tells me 2 days ago, that she cheated on my brother last year. That she don't understand why her other friends's husband thinks she is always going to be a cheater. And I was like, whoah, you cheated? When? And so she tells me that when she had her so very brief job at Arby's that she met a guy, and liked him. She went home and told my brother she did not know who she wanted to be with, but she needed to find out. So my brother was like fine, not like I can stop you if you want to leave. So the guy came to THIER house, picked her up and she spent the night with him, and yet was VERY intimate with him. She left my borther home with the kids alone, while she went and played hide the pickle. The guy then brought her home the next day. All I can think of now every time she calls (which is like 5 times a day), and when I see her, is Slut, and ho. I want to beat the crap out of her. That had to so kill my brother. And so what it was a yr ago, I JUST NOW found out. NO wonder they have been having so many problems. NO wonder he is so unhappy. I really feel for him. That took one heartless b*tch to do that to him. :meanface:
So anyway. I now think up ways to avoid her, and am trying to think of a ever so polite way to tell them, *You're darn right we are not coming to your home for Thanksgivving. We are going to Lloyd's family's home as always. And, no we don't want you there.* I love my brother, but there is only so much I can take. And hey... most of the time, he is as bad as her. I just try to over look it more because of who he is. I so need help. I have so much hate right now. :scream:
I am constantly trying to think up reasons why my kids can not go visit, or stay the night with their children. I hate that I am doing that, but well, it is either feighn an excuse, or just be blunt, and cause a family feud. Heck, the way I feel right now, I am almost ready for a family feud. At least then maybe SHE would be out of my life. :uzi:
I am generally a friendly, loving all around good person, but this woman (if we can call her that, I want to call her much worse) pushes me to my limits, and recently she has pushed me over the edge. The woman constantly yells at her kids, berates them even, and the oldest is ONLY 5! She is self centered beyond belief, and gets pissed off, if she don't get to do what she wants, or people won't do what she wants. She has the mentality of a child, my 12 yr old son, is more mature than she is. :veryweird
Here are a few examples...
If she asks me to come pick her up and take her somewhere (she has no license, and they only have one car, my brother uses it in the daytime), and I can't for some reason, either i don't have the money, gas is outrageous right now, or I have to work, or i flat out just don't feel like it. She has a tantrum, and starts the whole, well you guys don't care aboiut us, never want to do anything for us kind of thing. :scream:
I no longer (as of June this year) buy her children gifts for their birthdays or xmas. The reason being, well, I know it is the thought that counts, but there is not any thought on their part. And my kids feel it. In June, I threw her middle child a birthday party. My mom was down visiting, and well the woman said she had no money to do anythign for her son. So I bought the food, and made the cake, and supplied the gifts. Her snide side comment to her brothers girlfriend was that she guessed it was not a waste of time, as her son made out good with gifts. And she didn't think he would get anything, so they almost did not come. I had to hold myself back from ripping her head off. I could not believe that was all she was thinking ocming out here, and that I spent MY hard earned money on that. I mean yes the child enjoyed it, but at his age (3) he would have known no different just getting a cake, and a small gift. :nuhuh:
Well, then my daughter's birthday came in July. And NOTHING, not a phone call to wish her happy birthday, nothing. I don't expect people to buy, but a birthday wish is nice. Something to let my child know you care. And my daughter knew. And the sad thing was, I did not have money that month to throw my own daughter a party. She is 7, but she had a very hard time understanding. In Sept, my son's birthday came and went, and the same thing happened. NOTHING. Not even a phone call. So in Oct, when her youngest son's birthday came along, I didn't do anything. I figured, well, I can play that game too. At least the child was only turning 2, and wouldn't know the difference, though I felt bad. I was then made to feel worse, because I had to work that day (was working 7 days a week), and so I could not bring my kids, or a gift. My birthday passed in Sept as well, and my husbands in Oct, with nary a wish or anything from them. yet, ever since her son's party all I have heard is how selfish I am. Her daughter's birthday passed last weekend. I already had plans with my kids BEFORE she told me she was throwing a party. I was taking my kids to Carowinds (theme park), and was not going to break my word to them, and they had no desire to go to the party. I was confronted, that I should be taking their daughter, as it is HER birthday. It wasn't costing me anything to take my kids, I bought them an early yule gift, in the form of season passes. She has even complained to my mother about this issue, and gave my mom a load of crap, for not sending gifts as well. She can't afford it anymore than I can. So, nope, no more gifts, or anything from me, I am done. :doh2:
We always get into snits over one thing or another. If I am talking to her on my cell phone (her favorite way to catch me), and lose service, she automatically thinks I have hung up on her. If I have no response to her telling me over and over what she has bought for her kids for xmas, or their birthdays (sorry, I can only listen to so much bragging), I am a snob, and jealous.
Well, now she tells me 2 days ago, that she cheated on my brother last year. That she don't understand why her other friends's husband thinks she is always going to be a cheater. And I was like, whoah, you cheated? When? And so she tells me that when she had her so very brief job at Arby's that she met a guy, and liked him. She went home and told my brother she did not know who she wanted to be with, but she needed to find out. So my brother was like fine, not like I can stop you if you want to leave. So the guy came to THIER house, picked her up and she spent the night with him, and yet was VERY intimate with him. She left my borther home with the kids alone, while she went and played hide the pickle. The guy then brought her home the next day. All I can think of now every time she calls (which is like 5 times a day), and when I see her, is Slut, and ho. I want to beat the crap out of her. That had to so kill my brother. And so what it was a yr ago, I JUST NOW found out. NO wonder they have been having so many problems. NO wonder he is so unhappy. I really feel for him. That took one heartless b*tch to do that to him. :meanface:
So anyway. I now think up ways to avoid her, and am trying to think of a ever so polite way to tell them, *You're darn right we are not coming to your home for Thanksgivving. We are going to Lloyd's family's home as always. And, no we don't want you there.* I love my brother, but there is only so much I can take. And hey... most of the time, he is as bad as her. I just try to over look it more because of who he is. I so need help. I have so much hate right now. :scream: