Who wears the "pants" in your relationship?

[Muireannach]

Is your relationship symetrical? asymetrical? or parallel? and does it work for you? what do you think about this topic?

Personally I am the one who wears the "pants" in my relationship. Everyone acts liek it is a bad thing, but I don't think it is. He has his own free will and I have mine, but I somehow naturally fell into more of the dominant role. His personality is quiet and reserved while mine is outgoing, assertive, and protective over the relationship and the both of us. I asked him fi this bothered him, but he said "no" as our relationship works well that way. He likes the order and structure I give him aswell as organizing things and financial ideas. I like being able to have a dominant role as I've always been a leader and not a follower.

[PoisonIvy]

I suppose I wear the pants,but there are many reasons why. First of all he's an only child(spoiled) and I'm the first born in my family. Second,my husbands mother died when he was in high school and his father was a drunk so after being moved from family member to family member,there were a lot of things that he didn't know how to do when we got married like write a check,pay bills,etc.....so I had to teach him. And last but not least I'm a Leo and he's a Gemini,that should be self-explainatory. _twohorns_

[Yvonne Belisle]

For us it depends on the situation. There are some things he is better suited to be in charge of and some I am. Many decisions we make together.

[xmezumiiru]

In my relationship, it's divided who is 'in charge' of various things. I'm in charge of planning and timing, he's in charge of emotion. I'm a left-brained Pisces, he's a right-brained Capricorn, odd but true. We balance each other to allow who is better at certian things to take the lead role.

[KimberSly]

I wear the pants in this one
He can't work til his immigration's done
I don't mind doing this for him
It's really quite enjoyable, not at all grim. :smile:

[Amethyst Rose]

Hmmm..... he brings home all the money, and pays all the bills (although at times I have to remind him). I run the house.... however, if he wants to buy something, he asks me first....but if I want to buy something I ask him first.... I suppose we're pretty equal.

[Black RiverWolf]

i wear the pants in most situations beacuse i understand more things than he does. writing checks paying bills and what not. Like he said yesterday i was raised a stoner thats all i know.

[OMmomma]

I definitely wear the 'pants' in my relationship. It works for many reasons, but I am not entirely happy with my behavior when I'm allowed too much power. I can become one snide and cynical bitch! My hubby is helping with that, I believe that by allowing me to rant, and hear myself squawk, uninterrupted, I hear more clearly what I need to work on in my own head. I end up apologizing, more in this relationship, than I have, my entire life. I say I wear the 'pants', because others that know us both, have told me so, and because I know I am the more aggressive partner.

This relationship works because we balance each others' weaknesses. Where I need to control, he finds it difficult to focus. Where I need to analyse, he accepts with faith. Where I tend to spiritualize, he tends to animalize! When I work with my mind, he works with his body. Where I can summon faith, he worrys to the point of depression.

We lean on each other, support each other, cheer for each other, criticize each other, rely on each other, teach each other, comfort each other. But we stay independent of each other, not needing the other to define who we are.

So far this relationship is the closest and most fulfilling in my life. We've been together 12 years.

Peace

[Jax]

We both have differing roles withing our marriage/partnership/relationship, but we're both 'equal' and both wear the 'pants'!

[Morgandria]

My cat wears the pants in our relationship.

[Jax]

My cat wears the pants in our relationship.
roflmao!! Forgot about the cat in our equation!LOL!! Tilly (cat) certianly runs rings round us too!LOL!! :nyah:

[misschief]

other- neither of us do right this second, and it is not working.

[Jenne]

My cat wears the pants in our relationship.
:rofl: Too funny! It's always been that way with my cats too! ;)

W/my dh, we're parallel...we BOTH wear the pants, lol. Drives us nuts one half of the time, but for the most part, it works. Our kids are happy and well adjusted, and we're coming around to knowing our individual strengths and weaknesses, enough to fill in the gaps.

[Mau]

I wear the pants. Always have. We're both stubborn people, but I am the control freak and dominant one...he knows it, and doesn't fight it lol.

I have to anyways...he still has growing up to do :/

[Aleigh]

We both do, I think. He brings home all the money but I keep the house running and we split a lot of reponsibilities 50/50. I'd say we're pretty even. :) And it works...most of the time. We both have a tendancy to get lazy.

[magick186]

I wear the pants- Because of past experiences he's had with getting into trouble he lets me. He knows I'll keep him out of trouble and know what's best for him.

[mol]

Semele and I both wear pants.

[Mindflayer]

Semele and I both wear pants.
I would hope so...that could be unsanitary otherwise...

[wakywitch]

I am divorced parent, so I'm the only one who "wears the pants". :sunny:

[Nightmelody]

Okay, I'll confess. He wears the pants. But not in a tyrant /master way, more in a leadership/protector way. It works for us.

[Kalika]

We're pretty equally balanced in our relationship, but if I had to choose one of us, it would most likely be myself. I handle the finances and keep everything running smoothly. Not to mention I'm the more assertive of the two of us. :)

[~~Cypher~~]

Is your relationship symetrical? asymetrical? or parallel? and does it work for you? what do you think about this topic?

Personally I am the one who wears the "pants" in my relationship. Everyone acts liek it is a bad thing, but I don't think it is. He has his own free will and I have mine, but I somehow naturally fell into more of the dominant role. His personality is quiet and reserved while mine is outgoing, assertive, and protective over the relationship and the both of us. I asked him fi this bothered him, but he said "no" as our relationship works well that way. He likes the order and structure I give him aswell as organizing things and financial ideas. I like being able to have a dominant role as I've always been a leader and not a follower.


Damn, whats with you people and the complicated answers, first polygamy, moliarmoury, now this... sheesh... whats the answer for my kids wear the pant in my family? ;) and they really do... lol (Daddy is just a bit of a pushover)

[WickedBttrfly]

I do! Cause I'm in a relationship with myself. So I get to wear the pants AND the skirt. It's all good. :D

[RowanMegaera]

Let's see... he's an aries and I'm a taurus... He thinks he wears the pants but I do whatever I want to anyway.

[Tzhebee]

That's a funny question. And I couldn't answer the poll because I wasn't sure what they all meant.

But, I wear the pants in the family. Mostly. Any major decisions are made by me, but the kids listen to him better. :lol:

But, just the other day, some of our friends were over and they asked me if they could borrow something of his. This is how the conversation went:

SO: Wait a minute! That's mine, why are you asking her?
Friend: Because we know that she makes all the decisions.
SO: Excuse me! Who's wearing the pants? (he was in jeans, I was in a skirt)
(at this point I cracked up laughing, because I realized he was wearing an old pair of MY jeans)
Me: You may have on the pants....but who's pants are they?

He still hasn't lived it down! :rotfl:

[Lady_Fianna]

I mostly wear the pants in our relationship, but he's trying darn hard to get me to wear some cute short skirts now and then. hehehe. Overall, we're pretty equal in how we like to spend our money and our priorities. Due to my *slight* temper and being totally controlled by my Ex, Ted usually lets me take the lead. Though he is also a super sweet guy and knows how to sweet talk me into changing my mind now and then too. lol. :heartthro