confusion, stress, no trust

[audi]

well, im sure compared to some of the life/death issues that we light candles for in this section, this is going to seam really petty. its a multi layers issue and i just need sum help.

my friend lent his car to someone who then used it and went to buy drugs. they got caught and the car got impounded :geez:
however at this same time my friend who lent the car finally decided to get cleaned up too! (which i strongly supported) but now he had no way to get to the clinic to get the methadone (legal medication that helps you get clean). :2G:
so i loadned him all this money (and it was a lot for me cause im in college and dont have a job) pay to get his car out, so he could get to his job so he could pay for the medication to get clean. and he promised to pay me back with in a month. well ive been losing money because the bank has a minimum requirement that i am no where near....
and now i need this money so that i can go to college next semester. i was supposed to have it by the end of october. and i just schedualed for my classes. :bug: ::stressed::
im not sumone who needs money. usually when i have it- i end up spending it on others anyhow... but the thing that makes this all so hard for me is, i have a hard time trusting people to begin with. it seams that whenever i try to help i get screwed in the end. and this was honsetly like my last attempt. and once again- i get used. :scream:
there is a lot that i left out but i think there is enough to help get the pic...
i really just dont need all this extra stress when i am spending time to better myself as a person. it just weighs me down...

if there are any suggestions, aside from dont lend out money.... id really appreciate them.
sorry so long... just needed and chance to vent.

:hugz: thanks in advance

[Aleannah]

(((((energy sent that you get what you need to continue your education, and that your friend pays you back)))))

[Wolf O Volos]

Sometimes, we forget that our acts of kindness are not awlays going to be returned. I am sorry that you feel used or screwed over... just remember, with the cause and effect ripple that bounces your karma and good intention back to you, someday you will be repayed your kindness.

For now, :hugz: and ((((Energy Sent))))

[BabblingImp]

I have to say my mom and I have the same problem. It is hard I know, My father is in a wheel chair and when my mom and I find someone to 'Help' take care of him we are left with nothing, all I can say is don't stop trusting people, maybe be more selective in who you help, and when it comes to money be even more careful. (((((((I send you positive energy)))))))

[audi]

thanks so much to all those who responded. i really apprecitate all the kind words... ::lights candels for all those of you who took the time to care:: *hugs*

[Dove]

Sometimes being kind to our friends in a “material” way, costs in ways we hadn’t expected.

There’s nothing at all wrong in having a generous nature.
And the good news is ….
That “what you send out, HONESTLY WILL Come back to you!!”

Not to mention that in this particular case,
You’re gleaning some very practical “extra” life experience,
That maybe will be a lesson which, later on in your life …
Will save you in a really BIG way!!

I believe that walking Our personal life path …
And the way that we each one travel our path,
Is all about learning particular lessons.
Gleaning experience unique for us,
And our particular life journey!!

The only advice I can think to share is just to stay focused on “Your Own Particular Life Path”
Keep moving forward with “Your Future” always in mind.
Don’t let that small “negatives in life” trip you up.
Look for the positives in everything!!
Seek out the things / people that motivate you in positive ways!!
Learn to breath right, learn to meditate, eat right, exercise, get lots of rest, Get to school, when you’re there … study hard!!
And Most important …..
Don’t Sweat the Small stuff!!

LmaoOOOooo @ myself
Sorry Audi,
That’s Tooooooo much advice I’m sure.
*whispers*
Can you tell I’m an Auntie, with nieces and nephews in school??

( sending you all the positive energy I can )

[magick_faerie]

you are a good freind, its a shame you have been treated this way. I dont have any advice as such for you but i really hope things work out. My energy sent to you freind. I hope you get your money back and your freind stays safe and well, methadone is not an easy thing to be on as it doesnt work in quite the same way as heroin so it can make them act very irrational and it doesnt take the cravings away, i hope your freinds beats his addiction and you get back all the love and support you have shown others

brightest blessings

fae

[Teresa]

:hugz: sending You love and light and I hope that You will still have the same views on the world and just be wiser with financial affairs. My rule of thumb is if I can not afford to lose it then I do not loan it.What I loan out I do not really expect to come back.If it does I am amazed and my faith is restored.Most times things happen though and it is not returned.

[ObsidianSunrise]

:hugz: I understand about not being able to trust people most of the time. I have been burnt too many times to count because it isn't in my nature to turn my back on family and friends when they need me. Shalaye has the same idea I do. I have gotten to the point if I have the money and it isn't intended for anything (rent, school, vehicle, food, etc.) and I can afford to lose it, I give it freely without ever expecting to see it again. I quit doing the "loan" thing years ago after losing my rent money that way. I also don't co-sign for loans anymore either. An ex asked me to and long story short, he ran the car to death and I paid for it. Hard lessons to have to learn but well learned.

I'm sending you comforting, calming (remember to breathe when stressed) and positive energies so that your tuition problems will work themselves out quickly. I'm also sending some "I shouldn't treat my friend that was willing to help me so shabbily" energy to your friend in hopes he will consider what he is doing to you and repay you as well. :hugz:

[violet rain]

(hugggsss) sending you much positive energies I hope he returns payment soon or else I will kick his butt but seriously I hope things look brighter for you soon

[mydemand]

*ENERGY, AND SOME $$$$$ HOPEFULLY HEADED YOUR WAY*

I've been burnt too, similar way to yours - friends borrowing money and never repaying. Truly sucks. But I hope your generosity and the fact that you gave the money with good intentions will repay you a hundredfold.

[audi]

thanks again to all of you who took the time to make me feel better. no i still didnt get my money back. im trying to take finals and im stressing over them and my financial problems. but i wanted to let you know how much i appreciate you all. thanks again! *hugs* :smoochypo

[blindfaith^_^]

Sending you lots of endurance and hope to see you through. College and money are tricky, I'm a college student trying to pay for part of my own education myself and I know that jobs, school, registering, and day to day social life can be frazzling...not to mention pricey. The best wishes to you. As for sugestions, the only thing I know to pick up spare cash (besides the job I have) is to do some tutoring on the side. I proofread papers for about five dollars a paper, and I tutor some of the people I know in math classes lower than me for about five dollars a math session. I don't have a lot of business, but on a good week that's an extra thirty dollars for only three to four hours of work.

[Wiccamagikal]

Well, I would give you the following advice..
If you are in a state where this is possible, I would have your friend sign a sheet of paper in front of a notary to have it legalized..This way..If he didnt pay you back..and you REALLY needed your money back (which college is something that is TOTALLY a reason to need it back) then you can LEGALLY get that money back from him. I have been in the situation myself (trying to get someone very close to me off of drugs) and unfortunatly but fortunatly I got sucked into the whole scene as well..but the fortunate part is that I learned that those drugs..were not for me...so I did all that I could to quit..and today I am clean. (Sorry, had to give you a little bit of history there).. I would also only do things of that drastic measures for people that you ABSOLUTLY know will give you back what they got in return. relaxation and financial gain energy sent your way!!! And hopefully you will be more careful next time around...:)

[audi]

yay. so i got some of the money that was owed to me! yay. it wasnt half and it wasnt from the person that owed it to me... :confusing story: so i only need a few more hundred! thanks for all the energies. im really hoping this doenst mess up my friendship with the person though... does that make me sound like an abused wife, or something? hes hurt me, making me deal with all of this, and yet i still want to be friends with him as if nothing happened. ::confusion:: o well ive definatly learned a lesson. thanks again. take care. keep the energies comming! *hugs*

[ObsidianSunrise]

:thumbsup: Glad some of the stress is eliminated for you. Here's some more energy so that the rest of the money will show up when you need it!

[audi]

just an update... i still havent gotten the rest of my money back. im emotionally doing a bit better, but still frustrated that he put $$ before our freindship. i think he might still be clean (going on about a month) and i am so happy about that. i graduate in may, so i only have until then to get paid back. im still hopeing that he will come threw for me. any extra energy that he can keep his promise would be appeciated. thanks so much! *hugs*

[Teresa]

just an update... i still havent gotten the rest of my money back. im emotionally doing a bit better, but still frustrated that he put $$ before our freindship. i think he might still be clean (going on about a month) and i am so happy about that. i graduate in may, so i only have until then to get paid back. im still hopeing that he will come threw for me. any extra energy that he can keep his promise would be appeciated. thanks so much! *hugs*
You got it Hun ! :hugz:

[seekerofknwoledge]

i will certainly send extra energy your way!

[Goddess Rhiannon]

{{{{{{{ Prayers and Energy sent }}}}}}}

[bwitchd]

I went thru an assault and robbery/ then threats related to my job if
i made any fuss about security issues, then just tried to maintain my job.
I have suffered sever physical pain from the assault for 2 yrs.
I have since gone thru sexual and hostile work harrassment only to lose my job. after reporting it.
now that I had lost my job, I became accidently aware that the man I have been with for 20 yrs, has been screwing someone in hotels all over town, including one right next to my work location.
that means he has been spending 200.00 to 600.00 amonth on her and complaining that we havent enough money.
I had no clue.
now he lies to be with her, she calls him on the cell and msgs voice mail all day and nite- and he does the same while pretending that I am making him mad and he just has to get away,
then he is gone for 13-14 hrs and cant be reached- and he never shuts the phone off accept for this.
I discovered thru the bank And cell records and voicemail.
I have been shocked and horrorfied now its been 4 months.
I cry all the time and pray he will stop
I cant seem to do anything i am so distraut.
I know what I should ? do and am completely unable to function.
I dont let him know that I know.
I pretend .and I cry when he cant see it.I am in such hell, brain washed- because I am thinking now he may have been doing this forever.
and i keep hoping i can fix it.and he is still without any care screwing me and her and ??? maybe others.
the her is also with someone. and begging my guy for a ring and talking about moving out..they have been at this for over a year.
I am scared to say anything- he tells me I am not allowed to get mad when I do-since I am unemployed and that he refuses to feel guilty.
I cant do magick I cant hardly do anything... I need help
I hurt so so so bad.
he has a huge ego, and prides himself on his ability to control and manipulate
I just didnt know he was doing that to me.
I am sooooo stupid.
soooooooooooo soooooooooooo stupid I feel sooooo useless, helpless
so much pain
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[Pure Ahimsa]

I'm lighting a candle for you :) Hugs