~ Boudoir Photography.. your thoughts?

[diamondtiger]

I have two separate questions here, one for the ladies and one for the gentlemen.

Ladies... Would you ever consider Boudoir Photography as a gift for your man? (Boudoir Photography is “bedroom” photography. Photos of yourself, tastefully done, in either lingerie or nude.)

Gentlemen... How would you feel if your gf/wife, surprised you with seductive photo's of herself?

[badkitty]

Two years ago I gave my than boyfriend now husband, a frame that contained a few photos of me (some artistically wrapped in a sheet, others dressed), a lock of hair, and a poem. If he didn't like it he didn't dare tell me :)

[Jenne]

I think you have to consider the person you're giving them to. My hubby is very private with our sex life, and very private about his body in general. I'm not sure how he'd feel if I had someone take those photos of me to begin with...even a girl. LOL He'd like to look at them, no doubt, but it's not really his first choice in a gift from me to him. I think it's a cool think for couples to do for each other, and I love what badkitty did for her man, I just know if I did something like that, even though he'd enjoy the end result, he'd look at me sorta cockeyed, lol.

[misschief]

Ladies... Would you ever consider Boudoir Photography as a gift for your man? (Boudoir Photography is “bedroom” photography. Photos of yourself, tastefully done, in either lingerie or nude.)absolutely! as long as it is done 'tastefully' i would do it. i'd worry about him thinking it's dumb.. *shrug*

[Antoninus]

Id be...VERY supprised, and we'll just leave it at that. I would NEVER do that to myself, WAY too low self confidence

[FaerieGothMommy]

I'd consider it if i had a perfect body, with the curves in the right places :lol: since having kids though, that just isn't the case! Don't think my bf would want pics showing my flab :lol:

[Brielle LaLune]

I would love it! That would be a great way to show your g/f or wife that you think they're beautiful and sexy.

[RavensEye]

I would have done that before I had kids not so sure I would now though.

[Wolf O Volos]

I would think of that as a wonderful gift... Although I rather do like the post by Badkitty. If done properly... Artistically, respectful of her body, and to add the poem and lock of hair....


How romantic, and wonderful. And being that I am a father... It would have to be something you would not mind him keeping out of direct sight... Kids would not understand, I don't think... LOL

[halfwaynowhere]

when i was in elementary school, my mom and my friends mom showed up to our girl scout meeting after school with their hair and makeup done.. i wasn't sure why, but they had just gotten back from taking boudoir pics. i saw my moms as soon as she got them, they didn't really show much of her body at all, mostly her face. what little of her body was there was covered by large peacock feathers. they are really pretty pictures, my dad loves them, one of them is framed on their bedroom wall. i think they are great ideas, if they are tasteful. i wouldn't mind doing them one day.

[FaerieGothMommy]

when i was in elementary school, my mom and my friends mom showed up to our girl scout meeting after school with their hair and makeup done.. i wasn't sure why, but they had just gotten back from taking boudoir pics. i saw my moms as soon as she got them, they didn't really show much of her body at all, mostly her face. what little of her body was there was covered by large peacock feathers. they are really pretty pictures, my dad loves them, one of them is framed on their bedroom wall. i think they are great ideas, if they are tasteful. i wouldn't mind doing them one day.

In that case, yes i'd have them done. Sounds lovely!

[Faery-Wings]

I know hubby would love it. Dang guy keeps trying to snag digitals of me in the shower. :bigredblu

I couldn't do it, like some of you said, I have no self confidence when it comes to body image.

[diamondtiger]

I'd do it, tastefully of course. I think my biggest concern might be how my SO may feel about me posing “that way” in front of someone else. I'd have to make sure the photographer was female (for my comfort and his). As for him liking the pictures, I think he would. And hey, if he didn't, at least I can say I did something “different” before I die. :)

I just thought of another question, in regards to the photographer. Which do you think would be able to capture “the mood” better? A man or a woman?

[Ben Trismegistus]

Hell yes! Remember ladies, your SO loves you and your body, no matter what shape it is! Even if you've had children, your SO still thinks of you as sexy. Don't be discouraged by the fact that you might not look like a Playboy centerfold - you're still smokin' in the eyes of your SO (otherwise you wouldn't have those kids in the first place! ;))

And remember, if there are parts of your body that you're uncomfortable about, these can always be handled by the photographer, either by an artful pose, or well-placed sheet, etc.

And if any of you ladies would like an objective eye to look over your boudoir photos before you decide whether to give them to your SO, feel free to drop me a PM. *nudge nudge wink wink* :heybaby:

[Semele]

Why not?! In fact, what better way to get the task accomplished then to have him do the shoot?

[diamondtiger]

Hell yes! Remember ladies, your SO loves you and your body, no matter what shape it is! Even if you've had children, your SO still thinks of you as sexy. Don't be discouraged by the fact that you might not look like a Playboy centerfold - you're still smokin' in the eyes of your SO (otherwise you wouldn't have those kids in the first place! ;))

And remember, if there are parts of your body that you're uncomfortable about, these can always be handled by the photographer, either by an artful pose, or well-placed sheet, etc.

And if any of you ladies would like an objective eye to look over your boudoir photos before you decide whether to give them to your SO, feel free to drop me a PM. *nudge nudge wink wink* :heybaby::T You're a VERY funny guy there Ben. ;) :T

Seriously though, that's what I'm thinking. If he didn't think I was even a little sexy, he wouldn't be with me ... right? (And we got together AFTER I had kids.) Why not give him some “eye candy” that only HE will ever see. I mean, yeah.. men look at such things in magazines and on the Internet; but how special is that? Those pictures, they have to “share”.Why not?! In fact, what better way to get the task accomplished then to have him do the shoot? I thought about asking him to take the photo's, if I were to do this.. I decided against that for a few of reasons.
1) The obvious {trying to keep it PG-13}
2) It wouldn't be a surprise.
3) The quality just wouldn't be as good. I mean, if I'm gonna capture my body in print, I want it to be fabulous and soft, with a professional look. Playboy'ish if you will. Every thing would have to be right, from the props to the lighting. That's hard to accomplish at home, unless one is a pro.

[AuntBooPeaceFrog]

I'd be all for the boudoir photos, except for the fact that we don't have any extra money right now to indulge. I understand what you were saying about wanting the quality and the lighting and everything, but I'd still say there's no harm in attempting it yourself, especially if you have a digital camera with a timer button and a tripod; if they don't turn out good enough, you can just delete them, and no one will ever have to know...I think I've been inspired to go take some surprise pics for my hubby, thanks for sparking the idea for me. I gave him some pics of myself in loungerie taken with a regular camera not too long after we first got together, and he loved it. I know they probably would have looked better to me if they had been done by a professional, but he loved them anyway, and that's all that really mattered... _inlove_

[soilsigh aingeal]

I would definately do it. I almost did it for my ex and I'm glad I didn't (since he's my ex now) but yeah, I would do it in the future for whoever I end up with.

[soilsigh aingeal]

as for a man or a woman, I'd suggest going somewhere and looking at different photographer's work and decide from there. If you're (or your SO) more comfortable with one sex over another than do it that way.

[RavensEye]

Hell yes! Remember ladies, your SO loves you and your body, no matter what shape it is! Even if you've had children, your SO still thinks of you as sexy. Don't be discouraged by the fact that you might not look like a Playboy centerfold - you're still smokin' in the eyes of your SO (otherwise you wouldn't have those kids in the first place! ;)) Ben thanks for that sometimes we forget you know :D

[Antoninus]

Hell yes! Remember ladies, your SO loves you and your body, no matter what shape it is! Even if you've had children, your SO still thinks of you as sexy. Don't be discouraged by the fact that you might not look like a Playboy centerfold - you're still smokin' in the eyes of your SO (otherwise you wouldn't have those kids in the first place! ;))
**Laughs** Very true Ben, VERY true

[morrigen]

My friend's godmother's partner (whew!) is an artist, so she got him to do a series of nude sketches of her..had them framed and gave them to her husband for his birthday.

He hung them right above their beadhead, and really loves them :)

[Sequoia]

If my body was a little more ... erm... "artistic", and a certain close friend (who does incredible photography) could be asked to do them... then sure, I'd love to!

However, body's not that appealing on film... and I'm not sure my friend would be able to do it hehe. At this point, I'd probably refuse an offer. I know my lover loves me; I just don't think that it's the body specifically that's loved, you know?

[HorseCrow]

I have nothing against them, but would never do it myself.

[Semele]

1) The obvious {trying to keep it PG-13}
2) It wouldn't be a surprise.
3) The quality just wouldn't be as good. I mean, if I'm gonna capture my body in print, I want it to be fabulous and soft, with a professional look. Playboy'ish if you will. Every thing would have to be right, from the props to the lighting. That's hard to accomplish at home, unless one is a pro.
1) Even Better...right?!:deviltail
2) Trust me..the offer alone would be suprise enough!:bigblue:
3) Read up a bit and rent or borrow a high qulity digital camera and take some time learning to capture light etc. Black and white can be very tastefully pulled off with little experience.

Doing it yourself, you will have even more to think about when you look at the photos years from now. Trust me on this one!

[diamondtiger]

1) Even Better...right?!:deviltail
2) Trust me..the offer alone would be suprise enough!:bigblue:
3) Read up a bit and rent or borrow a high qulity digital camera and take some time learning to capture light etc. Black and white can be very tastefully pulled off with little experience.

Doing it yourself, you will have even more to think about when you look at the photos years from now. Trust me on this one!1) :jawdrop: True dat... :lol: But would anything REALLY get accomplished? I mean in the photo department.
2) Or be completely hilarious to him, as the thought might make him a little.. nervous :bigredblu or seem insane :eek:
3) I have no "rebuttal" for this. Every thing you say here is simply true. :) Think your man could give me a few pointers? I've seen the photo's he's posted and now I have bitburning (http://www.bitburning.com/index.php) on my bookmarks. He's REALLY good. :D

[Ben Trismegistus]

While I can see Sem's points about having the SO take the pictures, I can't imagine anything more wonderfully surprising then being presented with finished photos.

[Rockprincess]

I have had them done. My husband loved them. He said "Wow, I can't beleive I am lucky enough to have a lady who would do that for me!"

Mine were fully nude, but my nether regions were tastefully covered by other parts of me ;)

I first heard about the lady who took mine on the bridal website I was on - many, many of the women there had had them done, and kept talking about what a wonderful, empowering experience it was. And truly, it was. I have seen most of their photos, and beleive me, it didn't matter whether they were heavy or slender or super skinny - they all looked GORGEOUS. It's all about lighting and positioning.

In fact, here is an examples from the website of the lady who did mine (but not my photo ;) ) Here is also the link - but be forewarned, there are breasts shown, so use your judgement about looking. http://www.studiodphoto.com/portraitWork/nude/nude.html
http://www.studiodphoto.com/portraitWork/nude/2.jpg

[Semele]

While I can see Sem's points about having the SO take the pictures, I can't imagine anything more wonderfully surprising then being presented with finished photos.
You would take one look at your naked wife and then ask who took the pictures. Which I guess could be part of the fun too.

Rockprincess, great site!

[vulfsung]

I have a friend who is a photographer, and she refers the odd client to me to have drawings done of the photos she takes...I have always liked the idea of budoir photos...would I do them? Yea, but I'd be doing them more to be able to draw from them...while I like my body, that way I could tweak the areas, I would like to look just a little bit better...that and I love the idea of doing a self portrait.

As for where to hang them, I have nude drawings all over the house. I am quite proud of my work, and I don't have a problem displaying it...I think I would be even more proud of a self-portrait...

edited to add:
RockPrincess, the site is awesome! What beautiful work she does...and at a reasonable price!!

[Mòrag Elasaid Ní Dhòmhnaill]

Those are gorgeous photos RP. I especially like the one you posted. Very classy and like vulfsong said, not a bad price.

As for whether I'd do it... I know I wouldn't have a problem with physically doing it, I've got no issues with my body, imperfections and all. I'm not as sure how my husband would feel about it. He's not really open about that sort of thing. I'd like to think he would treasure them, but I also think he'd feel a bit weird about it, so I'm not sure.

Though I might look around and see if there are people in the area who do them and price it.

My younger sister has a degree in photography, though I'm not sure how comfortable she would be with actually taking them. She's a bit of a prude. My older sister is also an excellent photographer and artist, and would probably take fantastic shots. Too bad they're both on the other side of the country. :wth:

[Bix]

I never even thought people did this kinda stuff professionally! Wow! I think I'd probably do it if the photographer was female. I think my boyfriend would be most pleasantly surprised, lol.

[diamondtiger]

Sorry folks, I haven't been ignoring this thread. Just haven't been feeling well the past couple of days.

Semele, I've been thinking about what you've said... have him take the photos. I'm thinking now that maybe that's the better choice. I mean, I want to do something EXTRA special for him, and I think the pictures would be it. At the same time though, he's told me that I'm the only girl he's ever been with who he feels he can trust. He says he never worries about me cheating on him. While having someone else take these pictures wouldn't be cheating, it could very well create a question in his mind as to whether or not I would consider such a thing. That's the very last thing I'd want to do. _inlove_ I love the fact that he trusts me like that, and I don't want ANY THING to ruin it. Maybe I will mention it to him after all. If he's comfortable with taking the pix himself... GREAT. If not, perhaps he'll go with me to the shoot. Not because I feel that I need to prove that he can trust me, but why not let him watch. Maybe the experience as a whole would be more special and exciting, than just being presented with the finished product. What'da you guys think?