Time before Marriage

[Merewyn]

Just a general question of curiosity...

How long were you and your SO together before finally getting married or handfasted?

(J and I have been together a little over 6 years, and plan to marry when I graduate college... [ack! two more years!])

[Ben Trismegistus]

Seven years. However, we were high school sweethearts, so I was still only 21 when we got married.

[Kalika]

My husband and I were together for almost 6 years before we got married (Got married in August, 6 yr anniv. was Oct. 26th - this year)

We waited mostly because marriage was never really a "must do right now" thing for us. We knew we wanted to, and would eventually, but there was no hurry. :)

[LittlePerson]

It was 8 yrs for us before we married.

[DianaStormDancer]

My husband and I were together for six years before we married, but seeing as we met in highschool that still made us a rather young couple at ages 19 & 22. Come this January 18th we will celebrate our 18th wedding anniversary and on July 10th we will have been a couple for 24 years.

[shenanigans]

I'd known him for 6 months before our wedding. It was a fast courtship. The day after we met, we moved in together. A week later he proposed to me. What can I say.... we connected instantly. I never believed in love at first sight, but the powers that be have always loved proving me wrong! We've been together for 4 years now, and I've never been happier.

[Tanya]

Hmmm... I met my husband in August and slept with him the day after I clapped eyes on him (which i had NEVER done before.. being previously a confirmed blue ball maker....), I agreed to marry him after 2 weeks. He begged me to move to Asia to be with him in late Febuary, which I did. We were pregnant by April and married in October. We've been married now for a little over 2 years, with no real problems despite doing all the stressful things a person can do short of dying... ditching a long term commitment, changing jobs, moving, and having a baby. When ya know, ya know. When he picks me up from work I still get a little quiver in my heart and a spring in my step just to see him.
My students ask me what he's like and I have to tell them...Russel Crow meets Sting yum yum yum......

[Tanya]

just something to add. Before I met "The Man" i was with a lover for 6 years, and loved him very much, but for me at least, i think the reason we never got married was because i lacked complete confidence in him as a partner. sometimes long courtships are great but sometimes they are saying "maybe there's a reason neither of us are willing to move on in making a commitment"

[misschief]

.. not long enough apparently

[coyoger]

We were together for about 4 years before making it "offical" under human laws. But we always knew we were mated. We really only did it for our parents sakes. (And the bouns of tax wright-offs ;)

[Semele]

Two years to the day. We just decided to go ahead and get married one day one our second anniversary.

[celestrialdragon]

We met, the same day umm...well our son was concived, then about 11 months later we got married. Been together for 5 1/2 years married for 4 1/2. The best desicion I ever made. :)

[Threase]

Just a general question of curiosity...

How long were you and your SO together before finally getting married or handfasted?

(J and I have been together a little over 6 years, and plan to marry when I graduate college... [ack! two more years!])

I have the same deal as you, only we're not that far in yet... we've been together unofficially for just about a year... officially it'll be a year on the 4th of July... and we're going to wait until he's out of University and we've taken a year to travel before getting married... so that's about 9 years...

[Amethyst Rose]

We were together for 8 months before we eloped. However, we (very stupidly) never told anyone we got married. So as far as anyone IRL is concerned, we've only been married for a year, and were together 6 years before we got married, (and I was 5 months pregnant at the time).

[mol]

Two years to the day. We just decided to go ahead and get married one day one our second anniversary.
What she said!

[Rhianna813]

Let's see...... we met at work and were friends for a couple of months and went to movies and Pagan events together. Kinda like a real old fashioned courtship LOL We then dated for almost 2 years before getting married.

Rhianna

[Shanti]

I was with my ex for 14 yrs and glad we never married!!! Now I have been with my SO for 6 yrs and we plan to marry in about 30 years!!!! :)

[Aleigh]

We were best friends for a year, dated for 2 months before we moved in together, another 2 months and we got engaged. We were engaged for 9 months. :)

[Haruka2077]

My husband and I dated for a year and a half before we got married. We decided to get married, got our license and eloped, all in his 10 days of leave between boot camp and SOI. We might have waited longer if he hadn't joined the Marines, but it was important for us to be together and being married made it easier. We've been married 6 years now and have a brand-new daughter! We've been in love the whole way. _cloud9_

[Iseult]

We've been together for 7 and a half years, from the day we met, and neither of us see any purpose in marriage.

It wouldn't make the slightest bit of difference to how we feel about each other. To suggest we would somehow be more committed to each other if we got married would be to suggest that we weren't really sure up to that point.

I think it would be difficult if either one of us felt differently, but then, we'd probably not be together anyway, because we'd have very different outlooks on the world.

I'm interested to know the thought process behind getting married after being together for quite a few years. I understand, more or less, why people get married within a couple of years, and I understand why people simply don't get married, but I don't understand waiting for so long.

Iseult

[Autumn]

We have been together 16 years, 6 before the ring and we celebrate our 10th annv. on march 11 2005...

He's still the ONE and the only...

[Élistariel]

well I can't do this for me. so
My mom's sister and her husband knew each other for a week or two (can't remember), and married. They have 3 kids, 1 grandkid and are still married. Don't consider it a good thing though, when she was pregnant with my older first cousin, she smoked marijuana. My first cousin has also been arrested for possession. My "aunt" has been arrested for assulting a police officer, and her grandkid? - the mother is my first cousin, who was still a teen at the time (she's married now), the youngest is on the honor roll, which is a miracle if you ask me. I'm not allowed to contact that part of the family.

My mom met my dad in April 1982. They married Oct 31, 1982. I was born August 8, 1983 (6 weeks early). They divorced in 1990. My dad turned out to be a major JA. I seriously think he should see a psychologist/psychiatrist? Something seriously snapped. :shaker:

I'm not marrying ANYONE until I know them at LEAST 2 years.