Really need help

[FroggieThePunk]

Okay, my girlfriend is on call this weekend so she cannot leave her Dorm. I want go down there and be with her, but she doesn't want me to go becuase she says that we would have nothing to do. I do not mind going down there and snuggling with her as we watch movies. I think that it would be kind of fun. At least then she would have company. What would you do? I don't want to have to go two weeks without seeing her, but I also want to respect what she wants. She is the mst important thing to me while she and I are stationed here in South Korea. I do not know what to do. If I go I might be able to make her happy and get a good nights sleep. If I don't go, I sleep poorly and I have to go two weeks without seeing her.

[Kyra Kismet]

Talk to her again and make sure that she doesn't want you there, I personally would go anyway take a big bunch of flowers and chocolates and suprise her!

[maroon_5]

just give it a lil time, after a few days maybe she will change her mind.....Use what us blokes call MaLe initiative, suprise visit her(i would but my girll says not to)...or send her a few things that would make her miss you....im sure she would miss u ne way but giving the " i miss you card" a helping hand cant hurt right?

[claxon]

I'd go and supprise her anyway. You could always try the, "I was just passing by..." routine. :ballonsmi

[happyprincessfairy69]

Maybe it's not that she thinks you'd be bored, but rather she just needs some time alone. We all need time alone, particularly from intimate relationships, and yours sounds pretty intense if you're both based in South Korea. Respect her wishes, surprising her will risk really annoying/upsetting her because she asked you not to come. It could just all be a polite way of saying she wants time by herself. And no, you don't need to take that personally or stress about the relationship. I had a boyfriend who couldn't stand not seeing me for two weeks and it drove me nuts!!!!! Have another chat to her and if she insists she doesn't want you there, then leave it at that and take comfort in the fact that at least you have someone to care for and to care for you.

[FroggieThePunk]

Thank you everyone for your thoughts and ideas. They are much apreciated. I really want to go down there to see her, but like I said, I want to respect what she wants as well. I think that I may just have to put up with a weekend of being miserable to make her "happy" or whatever. I really wish that she and I were not stationed at bases so far away from each other. Oh well, what are you going to do? I love her and I will just have to see how she feels about it tomarrow. I'll bring her some gifts when I do come down or when she comes up again. I just miss her so much during the week, and the weekends are the only time that I get to see her. Oh well, I guess I can live without seeing her or holding her for another week. *sigh* oh well.

[FroggieThePunk]

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