Age Gap Relationships

[~*Ginger*~]

Is anyone here in an age gap relationship?
What problems do you face in your relationship?
What do you love best about it?

If you are not in an age gap relationship, what are your opinions on dating someone several years older or several years younger than you?

[enchancea]

Im 19 and my bf is 25. We dont really face any problems both of our families are very accepting. But then again I dont think its a huge age gap.

[Druchii]

I don't think it's about the age, because I am 30 but everyone says I act like I am in my early 20's. It's all about the maturity level. :)

[Kaylara]

Xen is 8 years older than me and it hasn't been a real big deal with us thus far. Just some jokes back and forth about robbing the cradle or the grave. LMAO

[Yvonne Belisle]

Well there are 11 years between my husband and I. There aren't really any problems between the two of us due to age but when we are at restraunts sometimes when people realize we are a couple they pull their kids away as if I might molest them. Most people though just take it in stride. There were some initial problems with both of our families about it but those have gone away over the years we have been together as our families see that we balance each other and are good for each other.

[misschief]

my husband is only two years older than i am, but my ex husband was 30 when i was 22... not a huge gap, but we got along perfectly. i don't think it really matters as long as everyone is legal.

[Faeawyn]

I'm 42 and my husband is 29 :D. The only problems that we really ever face is that he still wants to party and go out alot....and I'm starting to wind down and enjoy being home. For me...it's "Been there, Done that...Created the freakin t-shirt"....But other than that, we get along amazingly well.

[AnFoghlaiBanrion]

I've never been in any other relationship than the one I'm in now with someone only 6 months older than I. However I know a number of people who have been used by older guys because their lack of experience made them easy to fool and take advantage of. But love is love... just look at Emmett and that old guy on Queer as Folk :)

[KEishin]

I'm single now, but my last BF was nine years older than me. The problem is that most of the guys my age (mid-twenties) are not mature enough to be date-worthy. (They think a night spent playing 'Grand Theft Auto 3' is a hot date. :uzi: )

Whatever.

I find that the older guys really have the whole chivalry thing down too, which is nice. They treat you well, cherish you even, and they have steady jobs and careers.

Yeah I'm picky. But I know what I want!

[Earthy]

My SO is 3 years younger than me, but both my exe's were 12 years older than me-i do have a thing for older men,my SO ribs me about the "old" actors i like :lol:

[Karma Chameleon]

Is anyone here in an age gap relationship?
What problems do you face in your relationship?
What do you love best about it?

If you are not in an age gap relationship, what are your opinions on dating someone several years older or several years younger than you?


Well my only complaint is that if you are with someone older than you, they forget that you are younger than them and expect you to behave as if you were their age. Other than that I have no complaints!

BTW: I am in a relationship with someone 11 years older than me.

[RavensEye]

I was in a relationship that the guy was 30 years older then me...



I don't think it's about the age, because I am 30 but everyone says I act like I am in my early 20's. It's all about the maturity level. :)
Dru that is so true, and just so you know I am one of those people who thought you were in your early 20's :D

[Aleigh]

Dan is 8 years older than me, and the only problem we have ever had is occasionally he'll mention a show he loved as a kid and I'll have never heard of it because it was on before I was born, and then he feels old. :p The reverse also happens when I'll mention some cartoon I loved when I was a kid and it turns out he was in high school and didn't watch it, and then he feels old. :lol:

[Kaylara]

LMAO I don't have that problem with most things if for no other reason than we're not from the same country. So more likely than not we haven't seen most of the shows from each other's childhood, save a few.

[LadyTrinity]

My ex was 26 I am 22 The prob was he wasn't an old soul like me and traditional and old fashioned and plain out mature.

My new bf is 24 and he seems to be more responsible.

I guess everyone is different. _happydanc

[Cielamara]

I was always attracted to older men before I met my Finn. My ex was three years older than me, and the guy I liked for so long before him was two years older than me. Now, I've gone the opposite direction...I'm older now...by twelve days and a few hours. And it's wonderful. :)

[Boogins]

Well, I'm a walk-in, as I've discussed before... the body's 42, and my boyfriend is 28; but if you compare my "arrival" date in this body to his birthday, he's 10 months older that me. :D Whatever, we get on perfectly. :hugz:

[Amethyst Rose]

That is so cool Boogs :)

I am 3 months and 4 days older than my husband. :) All my other past relationships have been 1 year older than me....the oldest was 5 years old than me (I think). I, personaly, prefer not to have big age gaps.

[9-2-2]

My fiance is 10 years older than me. My family loves to harp about it behidn my back, but eh, they can't do anything about it. They tried before, oh man, it was bad. Trying to set up one or the other for a break up, that sort of see-through trash. Heh, they weren't very good at it. But now, they just content themselves with gabbing.

One of the issues we have is, I have a lot of immaturity in this relationship. He has to end up "fathering" me sometimes, to keep me from doing something stupid. Man, I often feel like an idiot when that happens. I wonder if he knows how much I appreciate his concern and love when he helps me look at my stupidities? :heyalove:

[Radocs]

I've dated people a few years youger and a few years older than myself. Never had a problem.

[Angelus_Errare]

*winces at the thought now* My dad is cheating on my mom with someone who is younger than me, (I am 19) and something else to makes me think its bad idea just in general but that is only my experience here. :)

[Angelus_Errare]

Oh and yeah I have dated two guys that were about a year younger than me, and I have dated some guys that have been 1 to 6 years older than me. I have never dated someone who is the exact same age as me. Which is kinda strange.. but anyways, I don't know if I ever will date again. I know I am only 19 and will probably change my mind, but someone special it would have to be. *thinks about him* The guy lives really really extremely far away, like across the seas. I just have been hurt so much that I will have to really consider it for a while. :)

[Teresa]

I am 40 and my SO is 33 and we get along greatly.It seems we think alot alike.Both of us claim to be big babies and take turns being coddled and spoiled. We have been together for a while now and nothing has come up from the age differance except some teasing. _wiz_

[Lady Jade]

My Ex husband was 24 years older than me and I can say that it caused significant problems. I was very young, 19 when we met, so I had not experienced everything I wanted to by that time. I feel like I missed out on a alot of stuff, like hanging around with friends and going out. We ended up divorced 5 years later when he left me for an older woman, go figure! That whole thing left me feeling pretty crappy since older guys are supposed to want younger women. That's my personal experience with age gap.

Once, we took his 12 year old son out to dinner and the waitress asked, "Coffee for you, sir? and what will the kids have to drink? LOL It was not funny at the time, but I see the humor in it now.

My current husband is 4 years older than me. Much better suited...

[Flar's Freyja]

I've been in several. I think it largely depends on the physical and mental ages you both are at the time more than the actual age difference.

In the one with a 12 year difference, me being older and around 34 - I was more ready to settle down, he was still in play mode. A lot of fun, but not for putting long-term hopes into.

My first marriage - I was 19, he 31. He was still in "I don't know what I wanna be when i grow up" mode - so the age difference wasn't the issue. His lack of maturity despite being older was.

Flar is 9 years my junior. We are both old souls who have been through a lot in this lifetime, so mentally and spiritually we are in the same place - so age is not an issue.

Now here's a tidbit of hope for the 30 & 40 year old single ladies, who face a shortage of men their age. Yes, most of them are with 20 year olds - but most of those 20 year olds won't stick around, so they'll be breaking up and available again soon, usually within 5 years ;)

[Xentor]

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[Xentor]

I'm in an age-gap relationship. 8 years. I was a bit self-counscious about that when I fell in love. Earlier I would not start relationships with people I had a crush for because of that age difference. I'm glad that we kept the ball rolling though. At this point, I don't care about age anymore. I'm happy. And I hope to be even more happy when she actually moves in with me.

[Flaire]

I've been with a few older, 2 younger. The biggest gap was 5 or 6 years, I think. I don't recall anymore. Another was 4. Those two were the biggest problems.
I try to stay within my own age range now.

[RavensEye]

good for you Xentor, wish you all the best. :D

[Xentor]

good for you Xentor, wish you all the best. :D

Thank you!

[Calyx]

Hubby is 7 1/2 years older than me. It's never been a problem. He just turned 43 and I'll be 36 in February. The only differences we really have is a musical generation gap. :T Other than that, there's never been a problem.

I really feel that if you meet someone you really connect with, age is all relative. Older, younger, same age, it doesn't matter if you are happy together.:)

[Pandoras]

Is anyone here in an age gap relationship?
What problems do you face in your relationship?
What do you love best about it?

If you are not in an age gap relationship, what are your opinions on dating someone several years older or several years younger than you?
When I was 19, I dated a man who was 33. It was a good, happy relationship, but it didn't work out because we were in different stages of life. He was ready to settle down and I was in college and on my own for the first time. Marriage was not on my radar. We just wanted different things.

I don't generally see a problem with age gaps in relationships unless we're talking about minors with considerably older partners (like 15 and 30).

[Ravyn Sylverwyng]

Threre is nearly eight years between my husband and I and things have been going great for us for eleven years. We just connect and usually don't even disagree. I was married once before to someone that was six years older than me and he was still just a child. I think that it just depends on the amount of maturity of each person.

[OriginalWacky]

The age gap between The Mate and I is 15 years. (He's older) We haven't run into anny real problem that I've known of with th age difference. Strangely enough, I was friends with him and his ex-wife before I left my ex, and they were in a very open relationship, while I was very monogamous (but being cheated on left and right by my ex, so I was very not a poly kinda gal). After I left the ex, The Mate and I started talking, and he came down to visit me (with his wife's encouragement). The first time we met...POW! I was head over heels.

Even then, I never had a clue that he and I might be able to have a serious relationship. He was married, and I was rebounding. I was dating another guy at that time, though I wanted to be with The Mate more than anything. When the chance came for me to spend nearly a month with him (set up again by his wife, while she went to visit her boyfriend, I jumped and took it. During that time, she informed him that she didn't want to come back. He asked me to move in, and after some really interesting times (which I won't get into here), I moved in with him the very day she moved out.

Since he had been poly, and pretty adventurous, he's most certainly gotten the whole party syndrome out of the way. As he put it, he's already lived most men's fantasies, and now he wants me, and only me. Since I'm pretty insecure, and by no means up for any kind of poly activity, this works out very well. It's been over three years now since I moved in, and I think I love him even more today than every before.

Every so often there is a show he watched that I haven't (though with Nick at Nite, I've seen a lot of them), and once in a while something I watched is not something he was into; but for the most part, we mesh up pretty well in what we like in TV or movies. We also have very similar tastes in music (quite eclectic). We have pretty similar religious views, and agree for the most part on how to treat the kids. We even like many of the same foods, though I canNOT do spicy, and he adores it.

There's some teasing about robbing the cradle, and we often make sly comments about how he was almost graduating from high school when I was born, but for the most part, family hasn't been an issue. His parents passed while he was in his teens, and I only met his sister recently (she's quite a bit older than him). He hasn't met my family yet, except for my kids and my ex, but he has emailed with my father before. We have similar tastes in humor (he reminds me of my Dad in some ways), and we both like similar weather and vacation ideas.

I guess all I can say is that I am so freakin lucky that there are times when I have no clue just how to let him know how much he means to me. Even now I still find it hard to believe that he could really want ME. This man has had models lusting after him. This man could have most any woman he wants. But he's with me. How cool is that?

[Shanti]

Age dont mean squat. It only depends on the people involved. You can have two 20 yr old with a gap if one acts older and one acts like a kid!!!!

Me and my SO are of same mind and heart...our 20 year gap has no influence.

[soilsigh aingeal]

The biggest gap for me was 5 years and even that, I wouldn't consider a gap. I have no problem with what other people do as long as everyone involved is legal.

[kissesree]

I have a 15 year gap between myself and me hubbie, but we have been married for close to 3 years with no major malfunctions. I think this is because we have so many things in common. we also like to talk._cloud9_

[~~Cypher~~]

Is anyone here in an age gap relationship?
What problems do you face in your relationship?
What do you love best about it?

If you are not in an age gap relationship, what are your opinions on dating someone several years older or several years younger than you?


The love of my life is 7 years older than me... she's 24 ;) and I love her with all my heart. She is my heart and my soul, It hurts when I cant talk to her, It hurts when I think about her, I cant wait for us to be together... unfortunatly we are 1300 miles apart, and I hate it... every day that I wake up I think about me just reaching over and holding on to her before I get up for work, I dream about the day when we can drink coffee together and laugh at the antics of the kids. Ah well, all good things come in time, and we all know the saying that time just makes things sweeter :heartthro

[Shadowulfe]

me and my fiancee have a 6 year gap. we are so much alike it is like looking at yourself in the mirror. we have hit a rough spot in the relationship and are slowly working things out.

[banondraig]

i'm 28, b/f is 21. we're new, but so far no problems.

[Tarbh Nathroch]

I am ten years older than my wife. Day to day I don’t notice the difference, I don’t think she does either. But every once in a while I’ll say something like “hey do you remember back in 1983 bla bla bla” and she’ll say “No, I was two” Other than that the age difference has no affect on us. Although I am bummed out sometimes because I know she is the one that will be left behind, most likely I’ll die first.

[~~Vampy's~~Boo~~]

:shhhh: dont tell anyone but im a cradle robber 6 yrs difference and i am a woman!!!lol (usually the men do that stuff lol) but he is just sooo irresistible i just adore him and the way he loves me and once in a bluemoon _tsk_ i wanna rip his head off when he wont let me go on and on :ballonsmi about something BUT i do have a tendency to go on and on when i really should shut up so really its a good thing "he keeps me in line" thats just what i need now :shhhh: dont tell him i said that _inabox_

[Kalika]

My husband is 6 years older than me. We get along great. :) But, then again, I've always gotten along better with folks who are several years older than me.... than those my own age!

[Morrighan61]

Is anyone here in an age gap relationship?
What problems do you face in your relationship?
What do you love best about it?

If you are not in an age gap relationship, what are your opinions on dating someone several years older or several years younger than you?
I've nearly always dated older and I like it that way for the most part, a guy being a few years older than I am. Most of the men I like to look at are in their 40's though of late I'll admit to mentally robbing the cradle now and again as with Tom Welling and Orlando Bloom. (Sue, me who WOULDN'T think either man was a hottie? I prefer OB as "elfboy" myself though...)

I used to get all bent out of shape over that, liking the looks of a guy who was barely out of crib, but I'm getting over it though I did have a year long thing for James Marsters. at one point. I kicked myself for it until I realized the guy was OLDER than me by a year or so... And there's Jon Firth (Yeah, Colin Firth's baby bro) who's a year younger and definitely on my list of "hot" and interesting guys...

I've come to the realization that age is pretty relative once they're legal and that as long as I don't allow myself to lust after someone below the age of consent (Like say Daniel Radcliffe who admittedly I think is a young heartbreaker, and who I would no doubt have had a major thing for had I seen the kid when I was 14..LOL) I'm in no danger of becoming a pedophile...

There are men who are older than me who I think are STILL sexy as all get out though. Richard Dean Anderson is aging VERY well indeed, and so is my 1st major crush, Misha Baryshnikov.... I still drool over both to this day....

I say be happy and don't mind the years so much.

Unless you're 20 and she/he's 80 you shouldn't concern yourself too much. Or you're not legal and the other person is, which can get both of you into BIG trouble...Gotta WAIT in that event, ya dig?

There are trade offs when one partner is older than another, but true love, and happiness are rare and if it comes with a little snow on the roof? As long as the gaze is warm?

I say go for it!

Morrighan

[Bellefoy]

I've dated guys from a year+ younger when I was in highschool, to more than 20 years older (I was around 28, I think). The relationships I have fond memories from were with one guy 10 years older and one almost 13 years older. The age difference was never an issue because we "clicked," and I think that's definitely the key.