need advise , please

[soltiger]

okay heres the deal, theres this friend of mine that borrowed something from me but they broke a promise to return it to me, i tried a spell to returned wat was rightfully mine, i casted the circle using the LBRP, i did the spell, i thanked and dismissed the arkangels and closed the cirlce, the spell was intended for the person return it to me when the day ends, but an hour before the day ended, i got an instant migrain and when it passed, i felt as if our friendship just broke, but what really concerns me like an hour or so before the migrain, i got the feeling that i was being tied, could be i was binded but i dont know, of course it didnt work cause they havent returned it but the friendship is gone and i wanted to know what happened there. i mean i dont feel anything for this person its like they went from one of my best friends to total strangers. and i dont understand how that kinda of spell would effect our friendship?

[KEishin]

Can you post some details of what you did - was this candle magick, herbs, chanting, etc and so forth? that might help us help you.

The migraine is likely ungrounded energy from your spell. Did you ground afterward? It also could be other magicks, but not as likely an answer as energy issues.

[soltiger]

it was none of those it was personal, which pretty much visualization, and meditation, and i used a singel white candle as my focus factor. i didnt want to make it to intricate and no i completely forgot to ground my energies. thanks that explains that,

[~Elise~]

ummmm...my advice...pick up the phone and call 'em. Or drop 'em an email.

Why use magic for something so mundane?

JMO and YMMV,

Elise

[Faeawyn]

You say that you used visualization, so I'm assuming that you visualized the object that you wanted returned? Otherwise, I was thinking that because you weren't specific about what you wanted back, the spell may have worked on something else. However, if you visualized the object and focused, then that shouldn't have happened :whatgives:

[dragenfly]

Did you charge your candle? Just curious about that. I agree the migraine sounds like you didnt ground yourself properly after the fact. Maybe your thought form wasnt specific enough, or your thoughts wandered without you realizing. Chuck it, two tears in the bucket. I agree pick up the phone and call. Good luck Blessed be x3

[Grey]

Another thing is they are perhaps avoiding you because of guilt... I know a spell used by a local girl that caused the person to feel more guilty than normal about having stuff of hers as a bit of a reminder.... That would explain the person being more distant, wich could explain why you feel a lack of frienship there.
Or perhaps thats all in YOUR head because you decided to use magic on a friend to control them... I know that would put alot of strain on any relationship I was in no matter the kind.

[soltiger]

thank you all i now know what i have to do, grey, you bring up a good point, as for everyone else, thank you for your help, i'm grateful, i now know what i have to do, i must forget about what was taken, the friendship is alot more important to me, thank you, and blessed be to all.