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Threase
January 25th, 2005, 01:16 PM
Okay, I'm not looking for pity, I just need to get this off my chest... I can't talk to my parents and most of my close friends because they'll either think I'm pathetic or they'll get annoying that I'm "bitching" again... so here it goes...

My gym class is actually 2 classes (a grade 12 boys class and a grade 12 girls class) put together, and most of the people who join are fiercely competitive. I myself only joined because you get to do a lot of amazing things for this class, like camping, rock climbing, archery, bowling, billiards, aquatics, etc... I don't even mind badminton, because it's either a one-on-one or a two-on-two thing.

The classes I absolutely refuse to do are soccer, basketball, and volleyball. I'm petrified to team sports like that, because I don't know how to play most games and I'm afraid of the ball (yeah I said it, I'm an 18 year old that's afraid of a soccer/volley/basket ball.). I'm also afraid of letting my team members down while playing, cause like I said they're VERY competitive and they tend to yell at their teammates if someone screws up (at least the boys do, some of the girls are nice...). So anyways, I got lucky this year and didn't have to take a single one of those sports.

That is, until I walked into the big gym yesterday and was told that we had to play ALL THREE of those sports all afternoon. We were put into 6 teams and told which sports we had to start on. My team started with indoor soccer, which is the lesser of the 3 evils. I grabbed a pinney and took my position at the very edge of the gym, where no one would ever pass me the ball. My teacher didn't like that and kept urging me to get in the game, but I wasn't going to budge. Then one of the nicer girls came over and told me that she didn't really know how to play either, but that I should try and I might end up liking it. So I started edging towards the middle of the gym, trying to pick someone to block. Just then, one of the more competitive guys kicked the soccer ball right at me. If I hadn't put up my arms to block myself, I'd have been hit in the face.

As soon as I got hit, I started freaking out inside. I started shaking and I couldn't breathe properly, and soon I had tears in my eyes. I knew I was being stupid, crying over getting hit in the arm, but I had truely been scared... My teacher said it was time to go to Volleyball (the worst of the 3 evils), so I tried to give her my pinney and I told her I couldn't do it. She understood why I was upset, but she only told me to go to the bathroom and take a minute to compose myself. I practically ran into the washroom and started crying. I was hyperventiliating badly as well. I sat in that bathroom for at least 15 minutes, just trying to calm myself down. I thought I was okay again, so I started walking from the changeroom to the gym... but when I got close to the gym and I heard everyone shouting and stuff, I started hyperventilating again. It took me another 20 minutes just to get myself in the gym. But by then, there was no way I was going to play. I sat by my bag and curled into the smallest ball I could, but my other teacher saw me and told me to get in the game... all I could do without bursting into tears again was shake my head and look down at myself... one of my male teammates looked absolutely disgusted with me as he told my teacher that I hadn't played all period...

I'm so humiliated, I don't want to go back to that class again. I know that if I have to do that again, I'll just freak out and people will think I'm pathetic. One or two of them stared at me in the hall today, looking as if I were an insect... I normally brush it off, but I can't today and I don't know why...

Wolf O Volos
January 25th, 2005, 01:33 PM
Aww Threse... What a mess. And what a bunch of insensitive jerks... well, all but the girl who tried to help ya get into the game.

Sounds to me a little like you have a mild phobia of the team sports. Not just scared oif them, or not having an understanding of them... but a phobia. The Hyperventillation, the reaction that even You thought was irrational, wanting to curl up and make it all go away....
And for the teachers to not see that, or understand it, is kinda sad.

And you know, if they look at you strange now because of it, tell em all to Piss Off. Someday, when you are a friggin pop star, and you don't have a phobia about singing on stage in front of millions... to me, THAT takes a lot more courage than playing with a bunch of adreniline junkies in a gym class.
:hugz:

Keep your chin up Kiddo, someday, all the BS of your "past life" in school will be a distant memory, and hopefully, you wil just remeber all the cool times ya had instead, eh?

~SleepyWillow~
January 25th, 2005, 01:41 PM
Awwwwwwwwwwww....Huge HUGS for you!!!!! :hugz:

I'm sorry if i come off a little too much on the mommy side today but Im pregnant and hormonal LOL!!!!

Look...it took a lot of guts for you to even try to go back when you were feeling so freaked out! So good for you! Maybe you should just approach your teachers about this and let them know you don't want to participate in those sports. Im sure there must be something else you can do. Maybe you could be ref or something rather than being right in the game. Try not to worry what your classmates think...some people let that competitiveness go to thier heads and you are obviously not one of those people. It's not a flaw. I was never good at or comfortable with those sports either...I actually got hit in the thigh with a baseball once and I could never get up to bat again...it was scary for me..my Dads wife called me a suck and said I was a chicken...getting hit with that ball didn't tickle I had a bruise the size of a large grapefruit for 3 weeks so YES I was scared!

As for not being able to brush it off...well we all have our sensitive days. For me lately its more often but even when Im not preggo I still have them...I feel like I just absorb EVERYTHING and it's hard to contain my emotions. Go home have a nice hot bath, wear some comfy jammies, drink some hearbal tea and just relax...tomorrow Im sure you will feel better.

Aleda
January 25th, 2005, 03:54 PM
I have a of phobia of sports balls too, its nothing to be ashamed of. Once all my "friends" tried to cure me by pummelling me with netballs.. it hurt alot and I cried alot too. That must've been so hard for you today -.- Sometimes people just dont understand..


(ps, i'll do your picture request soon as I get some new batteries for my graphics tablet n-n'')

MoonDragn
January 25th, 2005, 04:43 PM
Wow, hugs, I guess dodgeball is out of the question huh? They used to make us play dodgeball when I grew up. They try to hit you with a basketball at about 10 feet away.

Have you ever looked into why you have a fear of balls?

Threase
January 25th, 2005, 05:17 PM
Wow, hugs, I guess dodgeball is out of the question huh? They used to make us play dodgeball when I grew up. They try to hit you with a basketball at about 10 feet away.

Have you ever looked into why you have a fear of balls?

Aww, thanks guys...

lol actually, I like dodgeball... it turned out that that's what I missed today, I'm a little bummed...

I'm not entirely sure... I know that I never used to be afraid of balls, I used to play baseball and I was fine...

Moonlight's Daughter
January 26th, 2005, 01:40 PM
What goes through your mind when you try to play these sports? maybe if you follow the thought processes, it might be easier to see why you are afraid. What do you think might happen if you get hit? what is the worst case scenario? the best? You might want to go through it one step at a time in your head to get some clarity.

Hugs,

Brandiwyn

audi
January 26th, 2005, 01:44 PM
*hugs*

Rowan Darkmoon
January 26th, 2005, 01:58 PM
I think that Wolf O Volos is right, it sounds like you have a phobia of these sports. It's not unusual to develop phobias of things that you used to not be afraid of after you have a particularly bad experience with them. I myself used to love storms, and now being in them makes me have panic attacks like the experience you described with the hyperventilation.

I would advise seeing the school counselor or an "off site" counselor about your experiences. It sounds to me like you had a full blown panic attack, and a counselor can help you to develop techniques to calm yourself when these occur. They should also be able to write you a letter for your gym teacher, if you so desire, telling them that you have a phobia of these sports and to assign you to participate in something else if they don't want this to occur again.

I think it was very very brave of you to participate today with you knowing that you feel this way. :) Hope it helps, and that you feel better after talking to all of us here at MW! :huddle:

Élistariel
January 26th, 2005, 02:06 PM
:hugz: I can relate. I hate team sports too. I don't know what a pinney is or why your classes are segregated though :huh:
By soccer do you mean with the black and white round ball, or the brown lemon? :lol:
Getting hit with a ball HURTS. I've been hit with many a stray basketball. The worst though, was when we were playing horseshoes near the end of the year. I got hit in the shin with a shoe. Not the plastic kind, the REAL kind.
You need to figure out what it is about team sports that you don't like. It's not the ball you dislike, I don't think.

I think you are SO lucky to have archery. I think that got banned from our school system around the same time the javelin toss got thrown out. Someone got a javelin through the eye! :hairred: Didn't see it, we asked a teacher why we didn't have that sort of thing, he told us....

MorningDove030202
January 26th, 2005, 02:34 PM
I was the random ball magnet in HS. It would alway hit me even if no one was actualy throwing it at me! LOL I understand about being afraid of the ball.

But seriously what is there to be afraid of? If you get hit and you get a bloody nose, then everyone wants to help you out and feels bad for you, right? I mean you can play the "Damsel in distress" right? If you just block it then they get ticked that you didn't try. Just try, and if you get hit, enjoy the attention and the break from gym class. At least they can't get mad at you for not trying.

And remember, ultimately weither you grow up and pick a good job, and a good spouse, and have a great life doesn't have anything to do with gym class.

Dove

MoonDragn
January 26th, 2005, 03:45 PM
Aww, thanks guys...

lol actually, I like dodgeball... it turned out that that's what I missed today, I'm a little bummed...

I'm not entirely sure... I know that I never used to be afraid of balls, I used to play baseball and I was fine...

OK LOL that makes no sense, if you are afraid of balls why do you like dodgeball?

I hated basketball cause it seems every time I play one of my fingers would get bent backwards when someone threw the ball at me. Football stunk cause I swear that ball wasn't made for humans to catch. I loved baseball but I got beaned by the ball alot.

Team sports in gym class sucked cause they almost always pick me last. I didn't wear glasses in gym class, maybe cause I was very skinny.

Threase
January 26th, 2005, 03:47 PM
OK LOL that makes no sense, if you are afraid of balls why do you like dodgeball?

cause the dodgeball balls are soft and small, while the basketball/yolleyball/soccer balls are hard. Not to mention, in dodgeball, you run away from balls. you don't try to run AT them!

MoonDragn
January 26th, 2005, 03:48 PM
Oh, the dodgeball I played in school was with a normal basketball... It hurt when they hit you with it.

Threase
January 26th, 2005, 03:49 PM
Oh, the dodgeball I played in school was with a normal basketball... It hurt when they hit you with it.

Not with us... they use smaller foam balls, we use I think 6 of them...

Draco Celtae
January 26th, 2005, 04:01 PM
It doesnt help that her boyfreind is a cluts.
I broke my arm playing soccer, have 57 stitches and 3 surgeries to show for it...haha, *Sigh*
Youve got more courage than I baby jam...I wouldn't have gone back in at all. (as always) i was impressed when you told me you did. *kiss*
Youre amazing...Just think, the semester is over now...no more balls!

Calen
January 26th, 2005, 05:04 PM
I can empathize. First term of last year I was in a Physically Active Lifestyles class, which was a lot of the same stuff. I like dodgeball too, but I don't like playing volleyball or soccer or basketball, both because I'm not very good, and because the team aspect of it gives me anxiety, because like you said, I don't want to screw up and piss everyone off.

*sigh*.. it isn't easy being green. Or, afraid of team sports! :D

Élistariel
January 26th, 2005, 05:18 PM
in dodgeball, we used kickballs