Getting personal

[Nyx]

What do you think of the so-called "Pagan personals"? Would you place an ad in one of the many online lists? Would you respond to an ad? Why or why not?


~~Nyx~~

[Mairwen]

Nope.

[kittiepoetrygod]

No ... they are probably a scam, and i don't really want 50 chain letters in my e-mail everytime i check it.

[Adrenaline Junkie]

I'm a naysayer as I say nay.

I just can't be bothered with that crap.

[flar7]

am still bailing spam from my last mistake...

[Myst]

Hey now, I've met some interesting people through them and through chatting online. They have their uses, there are people who use them and not just for looking for a date. :)

[Earth Shadow~]

I found the most wonderful man I've ever met. We went to the same site. It has forums like this one. At first we were just two people in the same community and then we were friends joking...then I posted my email address for him. Then I fell in love.

We are only having a few setbacks. But he is as great as I had imagined him to be if not more. I have to say that it's worth a shot. But actually going to a site to date people is probably not so cool. I knew him and the type of person he was before hand. A place like this allows you to get to know people before actually pursuing them. (Hint, hint). :)

But I am a hopeless romantic and I'd do anything for the chance at love.

How about you?

[Nyx]

I should add my two cents!

I agree with Willow and Earth that sometime, meeting people through online personals can be a godo thing. For instance, most groups don't advertise in the phone book, so, online personals can be a good way to find other local pagans.

On the other hand, I think usings personals for dating is a bit iffy. You never know who you maybe talking to. I know that sounds rather hypocritical, but you can usually investiagte a group more throughly than you can a person. You can find out information about them that will effect your decision to contact them. You can't always do that with people. The again, some people meet their soul mates that way...guess it just goes to show, you never can tell.




(I hope some of that made sense)

~~Nyx~~

[Danustouch]

I met my husband through a chatroom. Previous to that, I met and dated, or remained good friends with lots of guys I met through online personal ads. As a matter of fact, MOST of the guys I met through online personal ads wound up being WONDERFUL friends :) My best friend, Frank, is one of them. We Met through the ad, then talked on the phone, then met in person, decided we'd be better off as friends, and it just so happens that he's my very best friend in all of the world, now. It's no differen't than dating through personal ad phone lines, video dating services, newspaper ads, etc. Or even accepting a blind date that one of you're..."Friends" (there are many degree's of friendship, aren't there?) Besides...I believe that you never REALLY know ANYONE before you live with them. So you could meet a guy in a supermarket, a church, a club, any NUMBER of places, and the danger would be the same. They could turn out to be an axe murderer. Actually..I PREFER meeting over the phone, or computer. Because you get to converse with the person first. It's not solely based on physical first impressions. There are common sense guidelines you have to follow, of course. Personally..i made the guy give me THEIR phone number..so i could call THEM. Didn't release my number right away. We "MET" at a public place, I didn't invite them to pick me up at my door. I told a couple of my friends, where I would be, and what time i planned to be home, and that if the "date" ran longer, I would call them and let them know the new plans. And that I would call them when I got home. I also provided them with the persons name, and phone number..just IN CASE anything happened to me. You need to be savvy, in this day and age..no matter WHAT way you choose to meet people. In the case of my husband though..i was a little reckless. I was just "Lucky". Since he lived a state away, I invited him (after MONTHS of talking online, and over the phone) to my house. Luckily..I shared a house with my roommate..a Six and a Half foot gargantuan blackbelt in Judo, who had swords alllllll over the house. So...I had my roommate there for protection. I also lived, at the time, about a block away from my parents. I knew my neighbors, and...I had friends calling to secretly check up on me :) This isn't my PREFERRED method of meeting guys online. Meeting in a Public Place is ALWAYS your best bet. But...it felt safe at the time, and turned out to be fine. Anyway..this is my experience. If I were single..YES i'd meet a guy through a pagan single ad. But I'm not..so it's a moot point. :)

[feywytch]

Nope. Not I

[Amora]

I've never seen a Pagan personal page but I have met two guys on a personal site who I would consider good friends now. In fact when I travel to Australia in December I'm gonna hook up with one of them (bringing a friend with me of course, cause ya never know!). But I just came across a site when I was searching for spells (don't know how it came up as it differed from what I typed in but that happens frequently). They had pictures up and I emailed two people, both in other countries because I find that interesting. I don't have any intention of dating them obviously due to distance but I was just looking for someone to chat with online. It has been a very positive experience so far. One guy even calls me now and again as we exchanged numbers.

But my feeling is similar to others, as long as you're not looking to fall in love really, why not? Who knows what could happen? But I did set up a separate email account I used at first so if they turned out to be psycho I could just close it down. :bug: