Soul-companions & true love questions

[Mo'chroi]

Do you believe you have a soul-mate?
And that this spirit /person is your one true love?
Forever & always?
I do.
Am I a dreamer? Or a hopeless romantic?

[The High Queen of Faerie]

Do you believe you have soul-mate?
And that this spirit /person is your one true love?
Forever & always?
I do.
Am I a dreamer? Or a hopeless romantic?
no. i don't believe i have a soul mate. no, i don't even believe in love anymore.

you're a hopeless romantic. i used to be just like you.

[Joshua]

Well it's certainly a romantic idea; the notion that a bond between two people can not only transcend time and space, but also life itself is very romantic. If one believes in reincarnation, then it's certainly plausible for souls to have relationships that span more than one life.

Determining if someone you're involved with is actually your soul mate is tricky, and it's a judgement that should not be reached in haste. A relationship like that should last for decades before the possibility that they are your soul mate should even be considered.

[MoonDragn]

I believe we find people we've loved in a past life again, and sometimes it continues, and sometimes it doesn't

[~Elise~]

ONE true love? I don't think that exists...

That said do I believe in soul-mates, yes BUT I think that there are more than one type of soul mate. I think that there are friends that are soulmates, as well as lovers. Not all soulmates are romantic, I THINK, anyway.

Is there ONE person out there for everyone, NO...I think there are alot of possibilities and WE have to take the time to work through a relationship and all its ups and downs.

Nowdays in this instant-give-it-to-me-now, faster and quicker society that we are too quick to discard a relationship...we hit a snag, oops, so sorry, sayanora. We don't take the time to actually TALK to our mate. Where if we did take that time, we'd have a much more stable relationship.

Also, we get stuck on a treadmill of relationships--we tend to date the exact same type of person and wonder why it never works. Wanna hint? Get off the treadmill. I did and found my love.

Of course, this is JMO and YMMV,

Elise

[KEishin]

Why would one want just ONE true love? To me that seems like it would lead to stagnation not growth.

[Boogins]

I believe it. And it's hardly led to stagnation. I truly believe we've nurtured each other to new heights each time.

Is it true for everyone? Probably not.

[Katya]

i used to have a soulmate. but i can't be with him at this moment in time. maybe never. but that's the way of the world. i do believe in it, i do believe that there could be only one.

you may say you're a dreamer, but you're not the only one.

[Convallaria]

No, I don't believe we each have one true love.
I do think, however, that we each have a soul mate. Not mate in that you will love them and they're the only person out there for you.
What I mean by soul mate is that I think that many of us each have a person who we get paired with in every life, possibly to provide us with a certain sense of ease, and that we will meet them at some point in our lives.

[Wolfie Girl]

I believe that there are "soul clusters" Groups of souls that gravitate twards one another from life to life. Maybe those souls made a pact to stay together throughout time, or maybe there lessons from one another are not done yet. Maybe they owe the other one something or karma keeps them together.

I tend to find, more than once, that I either seem to know this person already before we are even intraduced; or we have some chance happening that sticks in my mind before we had offically met.

Like my currant best friend. Within five moments of meeting her I realised I loved her with all my heart. She felt the same way. We made a dinner date for our hubbies to meet the next day :) She is from my soul cluster. I want to do some past life work and find out who she was in a past life.

I feel that at this time I am with at least two souls from my cluster.


Wolfie Girl ^..^

[The High Queen of Faerie]

Nowdays in this instant-give-it-to-me-now, faster and quicker society that we are too quick to discard a relationship...we hit a snag, oops, so sorry, sayanora. We don't take the time to actually TALK to our mate. Where if we did take that time, we'd have a much more stable relationship.

Also, we get stuck on a treadmill of relationships--we tend to date the exact same type of person and wonder why it never works. Wanna hint? Get off the treadmill. I did and found my love.

Of course, this is JMO and YMMV,

Elise
yeah, that's a huge problem... communication, or lack thereof.

[butterflydreams]

I definitely believe in Soul-clucsters and am pretty sure I've met a couple of people in mine, my best friend included. As for Soul mates and the one true love. Well I do believe in a soul mate that is kind of our other half. I think the relationship can be romantic and should be but can also fail for many reasons. I also think there are other types of companions souls or karmic soul mates that we can keep reincarnating with and love over many lives and be very happy with. With those people you can still be happy enough to ever even need to think about whether or not there is someone else who is your soul mate.

Hope that makes sense.

[soilsigh aingeal]

I believe in soul mates but I don't believe that it has anything to do with being romantic. IMO your soul mate could be your best friend.

[soilsigh aingeal]

I believe that there are "soul clusters" Groups of souls that gravitate twards one another from life to life. Maybe those souls made a pact to stay together throughout time, or maybe there lessons from one another are not done yet. Maybe they owe the other one something or karma keeps them together.

I tend to find, more than once, that I either seem to know this person already before we are even intraduced; or we have some chance happening that sticks in my mind before we had offically met.

Like my currant best friend. Within five moments of meeting her I realised I loved her with all my heart. She felt the same way. We made a dinner date for our hubbies to meet the next day :) She is from my soul cluster. I want to do some past life work and find out who she was in a past life.

I feel that at this time I am with at least two souls from my cluster.


Wolfie Girl ^..^That pretty much sums up my belief here.

[Galaxia]

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[FestiveLeaf]

I think that love can develop...I don't think that it's just there waiting to be "found". Sometimes you can feel a stronger bond with certain people...but in my opinion "love" is just a feeling...commitment/loyalty/comfortableness are what keep people together (in my opinion).

Hah, I don't know though...this is one of those subjects thats open to debate with me.

[semi]

I think that the search for the soul-mate is just an unconscious desire to become more whole. People think that they can only become complete by attaining something outside of themselves. I think we are own soulmates and only we can make ourselves complete. The love of another just makes the quest for completion a more enjoyable ride.

[Tabby]

I believe in soul mates but that doesn't mean you don't have to work at the relationship.

[halfwaynowhere]

i believe in true love, and soul mates, but i don't believe that love always lasts forever, or that there is only one person for everyone.... I believe that paths change, and while some souls may stay together for several lifetimes, others may decide to go their seperate ways.

[Kadynas]

There seems to be a lot of threads about this lately! :lol:

I go with the idea that we reincarnate in groups and thus have more than one soul mate: be they friends, family, or romantic interests. And just because you're with a soul mate doesn't mean your relationship is going to be perfect; in fact it might even be harder! Along the lines of what semicivilizedman said, I think the happiest soul mate relationships tend to happen when you've worked on being "complete" in your own right; your soul mate doesn't complete you so much as help you move towards that completion yourself. :) It's amazing how much your relationships can change when you start taking responsibility for your own happiness... a lesson I'm just beginning to see in my own life. :)

[ravensongrocks]

I used to believe in soul mates, until mine started to beat me. I thought that I had somehow disapointed the universe. When I met my husband, we went to a club....while a babysitter watched my daughter from the previous "soul mate." I met my husband's friend, who said, "why did you marry him?" And I said, "Because, he's the one." He said that there is no "one." I remember realizing that he was right....and I said..."You're right, but I choose him."
I do not think that there is a specific soul mate. I believe that we all are part of a "Guff" or universe that makes us all soulmates...eventually, you find the one that makes your heart as full as you have emptied it.

[Druchii]

Do you believe you have a soul-mate?
And that this spirit /person is your one true love?
Forever & always?
I do.
Am I a dreamer? Or a hopeless romantic?


No, not soul mates, but I do think that there are people that can put up with us in this world. :D

My first true love and me no longer talk, soooo I guess no?

Nothing is forever and always.

I am glad you do. :D

Dreamer or hopeless romantic, either or are needed in this world as much as the pessimists are. :)

[Ashara^]

Like others, I don't believe we have 'One True Love', but I feel that there are people whom we may incarnate with multiple times. I don't feel that they will always be there in a romantic capacity, maybe sometimes a family member or close friend. I have also recently been introduced to the concept of 'Twin Flames', described briefly to me to be something akin to two people whose souls are so similar as to be cut from the same cloth, so to speak. I don't know much about this yet, still reading, but this concept also feels correct to me for whatever reason. What I've read so far has been compelling. Can't remeber the title or author of the book right now, I read it at a friend's house. Has anyone else any experience or knowledge of this 'Twin Flame' concept?

[charmedkisses1]

i dont see why not.

though i think you can have more than one true love

[fireswimmer]

Well it's certainly a romantic idea; the notion that a bond between two people can not only transcend time and space, but also life itself is very romantic. If one believes in reincarnation, then it's certainly plausible for souls to have relationships that span more than one life.

Determining if someone you're involved with is actually your soul mate is tricky, and it's a judgement that should not be reached in haste. A relationship like that should last for decades before the possibility that they are your soul mate should even be considered.

I believe that I have a life partner who is my husband and a soul mate who is my closest friend. We have been friends for about 12 years and came to the term soul mate at about the same time. We lived in different cities and we talked about it after we had talked to other people and referred to the opposite as our soul mate. I am nto sure that made sense the way I wrote it. I do not think it takes decades as in plural. I think one will doit.

I can nto imagine being married to him. We have recently discussed what if's. I think if we had become a couple it would have been a matchmade in hell. As my closest friend and soul mate I could imagine nothing better.

[Twig]

Do you believe you have a soul-mate?
And that this spirit /person is your one true love?
Forever & always?
I do.
Am I a dreamer? Or a hopeless romantic?

Yes yes YES!

Mo'chroi, Don't let anyone stomp on your dream because i am living prooof it Does happen. It can be a bitch when you are already mated but if it is true you find a work around to the problem.

Lest you think it's a flash in the pants, it took me 42 years to find her.

Peace
Twig
:elf:

[Lunadria]

Do you believe you have a soul-mate?
And that this spirit /person is your one true love?
Forever & always?
I do.
Am I a dreamer? Or a hopeless romantic?

Yes, I believe I have a soul mate because I already found him. Do I believe that person is my one true love? No. This person is my best friend, knows me inside out and can tell how i'm feeling just by looking at me, we have a bond that no one or nothing will break. I don't believe that anyone has only one true love, I think there are many people right for another person. Soul mates come in many different forms!

[charmedkisses1]

I think that love can develop...I don't think that it's just there waiting to be "found". Sometimes you can feel a stronger bond with certain people...but in my opinion "love" is just a feeling...commitment/loyalty/comfortableness are what keep people together (in my opinion).

Hah, I don't know though...this is one of those subjects thats open to debate with me.
hm...damn... :goes off to think:

[Boogins]

Yes yes YES!

Mo'chroi, Don't let anyone stomp on your dream because i am living prooof it Does happen. It can be a bitch when you are already mated but if it is true you find a work around to the problem.

Lest you think it's a flash in the pants, it took me 42 years to find her.

Peace
Twig
:elf:
Right on, Twig!

[shimaura]

I think that the search for the soul-mate is just an unconscious desire to become more whole. People think that they can only become complete by attaining something outside of themselves. I think we are own soulmates and only we can make ourselves complete. The love of another just makes the quest for completion a more enjoyable ride.

YES. I don't think we need other people to make ourselves complete. I do know for certain that some people follow each other around throughout lives, as mother/daughters, or lovers, or friends. One of my best friends --we've been that way since we were 2--was an intense enemy in a past life. Talk about weird.... :hairraise (ok, maybe not THAT wierd).

[charmedkisses1]

I think that the search for the soul-mate is just an unconscious desire to become more whole. People think that they can only become complete by attaining something outside of themselves. I think we are own soulmates and only we can make ourselves complete. The love of another just makes the quest for completion a more enjoyable ride.
perfect answer-
i'm so tired of people thinking they'd be fine if they "just had a boyfriend" or "found their true love"... crap. You need to be happy with yourself, and love yourself, before you can truly focus and give the other person the love they deserve.

[redlady]

I believe in soulmates, but not in the "wedding invitation" sense, if you know what I mean. I also believe that the relationships we had in past last lives affect those that we have now, like I firmly believe that someone I love in this life was my child in a former life, and that's why although we love each other we can never be lovers,etc. :sniffsnif

[FroggieThePunk]

Well, i may be a hopeless romantic, but I do not beleive that there is a pre-destined person for you. Anyone will do, really, as long as you are willing to accept them as they are, and learn to deal with anything they do/say/whatever that you do not like. (wish I had had this insight a loooooooong time ago........ *sigh* 20/20 hind sight and all that other stuff.)

[Rian]

Do I ever believe it!

I met my husband about a million years ago in a chat site online, and three days later I told my best friend that I was going to marry him. He was my "one".

No matter what happened in our lives, we always ended up back together. We had our up and downs...but everything worked out in the end!

As he likes to put it... Our lives are like the water flowing in a river. A boulder might get tossed in the middle of our waters, and we may go our separate ways for a while, but we will always find ourselves together again because we have the same goal in life. We're heading to the ocean.

[Mo'chroi]

Thanks to everyone
for your thoughts, energies and replies.

I have read all of the posts--

Such a rich and varied gathering
of opinions and beliefs,
emotions and experiences,
viewpoints & wisdom...
MW is amazing.

To those who believe as I do --and to those that don't-
and also to those in between
much love, light

m'c

[lednevir]

I'm a wood elf who's soul mate was a tree in a past life and their body is now many guitars so Noel is not a lover in this life ,more like part of me

[Black RiverWolf]

i belive in soul mates i have one though he is not my mate. He is the one person that no matter what has happend to me is always there or at least just a phone call away. when i am with him im am complete.

so yes i do belive in it is there just one person that we are all just destined to be with. don't know but I love my SO and i love my Glenn just in different ways.

[Katya]

maybe i'll find another soulmate one day...

[Threase]

Do you believe you have a soul-mate?
And that this spirit /person is your one true love?
Forever & always?
I do.
Am I a dreamer? Or a hopeless romantic?

Yes, I believe I have a soulmate. I'm with him right now. Draco is my one true love, forever and always... he and I both knew it from the start.

I think you're a romantic, not really a hopeless romantic... but a romantic...

[Iris]

I do agree with what was said here about learning to love yourself and surviving independently without a partner.

That said, I did believe that there was one person for me, who I was meant to be with, blah blah, and all that cliched nonsense...

Things didn't work out with that person. Now I don't know WHAT I believe. *shrugs*

[Niamh celtic mist]

I believe in true love and soulmates..I did not before I met my husband.

The odds of us getting together and also the strange circumstances that brought us together make us convinced. From the moment we started talking it was as if we had known each other forever... _catroll_