So... what would YOU do?

[stupidcupidzvictim]

Who's ever had problems expressing something to someone they care about?
that's the story of all of our lives, isn't it?
EVERYONE has these problems.
Especially when it comes to someone we love.

WE can give the best advice, but when it comes to our own, deeply personal issues, we're helpless.

We can't find a way to talk.
Why do you think that is? Why is it so hard to express yourself and explain that asking someone to abandon a friend... it's just not right.

So... why is it that no matter how hard I try to explan that I have a friend who is up and down and we fight a lot, but we're still amazingly close _pounce_ to someone I'm seing, who thinks that this person is going to bring me down, and basically refuses to see me "hurt myself" by seing this person? it sounds simple, but for some reason... there's more. I just don't know how to stand my ground... or find that self-esteem that got lost in the mail somewhere allong the way.

I just can't avoid being manipulated by words and circumstance. I know I had a fight and it was bad, but Just because we were able to reconcile after my friend was very harsh, doesn't mean that someone should loose all respect for me. I shouldn't have to choose.

right?

[Pilot]

Yeah, I have had that problem as well -

[Pilot]

It is hard to say, why these problems come about. But it may be a dependency issue, such as this certain person doesn't like you having others to think of as well. That was the problem for me anyway.

Honestly?! I could give you advice but it would be nothing more than JUST THAT. WHat does someone do to tell this other person their feelings? Simply tell them, or so I say. If the truth hurts this person, and you are afraid of hurting this person, tell them anyhow. Otherwise you may just be broken from the inside out until you crack (or so it was in my case).

Sorry if I rambled...

[stupidcupidzvictim]

Sorry if I rambled...
Naw, you? never. Thanks Pilot. I've missed you.
and I have [said something... more than said, plain out argued]. But I keep getting manipulated. I can't seem to win. I feel like I'm compromising myself at times, then I take it back.

:RuNew: GAH

you might be right. dependancy issue. almost dead on. but you feel helpless when you're in the situation. I'm more concerned about my entire life changing and shifting away into something entirely new.

[Pilot]

Naw, you? never. Thanks Pilot. I've missed you.
and I have [said something... more than said, plain out argued]. But I keep getting manipulated. I can't seem to win. I feel like I'm compromising myself at times, then I take it back.

:RuNew: GAH

you might be right. dependancy issue. almost dead on. but you feel helpless when you're in the situation. I'm more concerned about my entire life changing and shifting away into something entirely new.


I miss you as well! I hope to talk to you soon yeah?!

[stupidcupidzvictim]

I miss you as well! I hope to talk to you soon yeah?!
But, OF course!

SOONER THE BETTER!!!

[GEBS]

I'm more concerned about my entire life changing and shifting away into something entirely new.

Is that a bad thing?
I've found that changes, even unwelcome changes, usually put us in a better situation. Don't be afraid of change. Welcome it.

One of my favorite quotes:

Change has a considerable psychological impact on the human mind. To the fearful it is threatening because it means that things may get worse. To the hopeful it is encouraging because things may get better. To the confident it is inspiring because the challenge exists to make things better.

I know that doesn't really help with your situation but I don't want you to fear changing. It may be just what you need.

[stupidcupidzvictim]

Is that a bad thing?
I've found that changes, even unwelcome changes, usually put us in a better situation. Don't be afraid of change. Welcome it.

One of my favorite quotes:



I know that doesn't really help with your situation but I don't want you to fear changing. It may be just what you need.
wow. thank you. you're right. and that is amazing advice.