Upset...

[WaterLilly]

Today my mom called my up and said maybe I should call my cousin, who's my closest friend, because she was pretty upset. When I did, her dad told me she was out with her boyfriend and was having a pretty hard time. It turns out that her friend Joanne was found murdered in her apartment this just passing friday in the morning.

I'm devastated. I never really knew Jo personally, but my cousin talked about her so much that I felt like I kind of did. I know it's pretty natural to be shocked, but I feel more than that. I feel like I've lost someone in my life. I don't really know what to think of it. I'm having a hard time knowing how to react other than crying. I feel like I've lost a friend just as much as my cousin did.

I just don't know why this had to happen! She was only 17! She was a straight A student, worked hard at two jobs, lived on her own and was the sweetest person from every impression I've been given of her. I just don't understand... Why?

[Yvonne Belisle]

There are no easy answers and most of what anyone can say including I'm sorry can sound pretty patronizing right now but if you want someone to talk to and just get it out you are welcome to im me.

[Lilu]

*hugs* I'm terribly sorry to hear that you are going through such an awful time. It's heartbreaking to lose someone you are close to - or even felt close to, as in your situation. I wish I could do something or say something to help take the hurt away, but there is no simple solution :( Take the time to grieve and feel through your emotions, and I think almost everyone here would be willing to listen if you have to talk. I am online a lot through the day during the week if you need someone to talk to - my IM information is in my profile.

Bright Blessings and *hugs*
Lilu

[Adrenaline Junkie]

I'm truly sorry. It's not easy losing someone. May the blessings of the Gods be with you both and aid in healing and bring justice.

Everyone has a function here on earth. Maybe Joanne gained all the knowledge she needed and it was her time to leave. The universe works in strange ways.

Joanne will live on in the hearts of her friends and family. She'll have a fresh beginning now as the cycle continues. Try not to be upset over the death, instead honour Joanne by taking her what lessons she taught you and applying them in your life.

Joanne is not gone and she will never be.

(Sorry if this sounds like a lecture.)

I'm not shrink, but if you ever need a friend to talk to give me a buzz. We're all here for you.

[Llilith]

oh, I am so sorry. :( There is so much that doesnt make sense in this world.
I will keep you, your cousin, and the victims family in my thoughts.
Blessings and moonlight,
~Lil

[Raevy]

***BIIIG HUG***

I'm so sad that you have to experience this. It's natural to be devastated when something terrible happens, even if you didn't know Jo better.

If all you can do is cry, then cry, let the pain out and mourn. I'm sure this will help you a great deal and will also allow you to be there for your cousin, to get through this hard time.

[WaterLilly]

I'm trying really hard to work through it. I got sent home from work a few minutes ago, I couldn't make it five minutes without crying. I do think I just need to grieve and try to make sense of it. Thanks for all of your support, everyone.

[Wiccan Maeve]

{{{{{{{{{{{{Water Lilly}}}}}}}}}}}

[Yvonne Belisle]

Letting it out is the healthyest way to do it. If you need someone as you've seen you have an assortment to chose from.

[Merrie]

Love and ((hugs)) to waterlily and her cousin.
May the gods bless you and hold you tight, honey.

[NightFire]

I don't know what I could say that might comfort you.

I will burn a candle for you and your cousin.

Like most everyine ellse here, if you need someone to talk to, I'm here.

Love and Light

[MammaStar]

I wish I had the words to find you some comfort for yourself & your cousin. It's hard to make sense out of something as tragic as a young person's death. anyone's death for that matter.

i will keep you & your cousin in my thoughts.

[Lavender]

There's never a good enough reason why bad things happen. We're all here to send you our good energy & thoughts.