Please keep our family in your thoughts

[RavensEye]

Please keep us in your thoughts and prayers tomorrow (Feb. 10th ) we have to deal with a social worker and interviewing the kids. Cloey has to deal with it at school, which I am really worried for her (this is the second time she has had to deal with a social worker). I have total confidence she will be honest, but it is how the social worker takes what she says I am worried about. As for Sakura it is her birthday and I am just upset this is going to ruin things for her special day. And as for Sylvan well I am not sure what she will do with him..

Oh and just so you all know it was my mom who called social services cause she had her nose out of snit for something that happened at Christmas, and she made accusation of physical abuse because I was sick and depressed before the holidays – so according to her.

Anyways I so sick of my mom being so spiteful, and no sense talking to her about it either which is frustrating… Anyways I will let you all know how it goes tomorrow, night.

[Dashifen]

:hugz:

[Faeawyn]

My prayers are sent for you and your family :hugz:

[RavensEye]

Thank you both very much.

[lil_suzie]

Thats horrible.
God why cant people just mind there own busness social services
are so awful the way they twist everything around and make it out
so much worse then they are for real. Why cant they just leave
people be already?? I cant stand them. I *realy* hope everything
works out OK for you, Bran Iolair. Realy. :hugz:

[Wintersteel]

:hugz: Prayers and Energies sent...

[RavensEye]

Thank you everyone.

[Faery-Wings]

You got it hon.

[RavensEye]

Ok iti s an hour to go till she is her and I am so jumpy everytiem I hear a car door shut I am jumping off of the cloor, my arms do not feel right either they have a weird feeling in them, I mean energy.


I am really scared you know my daughter Cloe has been taken from me once becuase of someoens lies and I could nto stand to have it happen to the others. Anyways I am going to go spend time with my birthday girl and wait for the worker to show up. Talk to you asap.

Thanks for your support every one:thewave:

[moria636]

my prayers are with you...

[WhiteDragon]

Good luck hon...

I will be thinking about you all.

[audi]

wow. what a situation! i really hope things turn out the best for you all. take care! *hugs* and happy birthday to ur little one! ;)

[Rowan MoonDragon]

on the way, Sweetie. *hugs*

[RavensEye]

She just left but yah she will be back. I am so mad at my mother I could spit nails she went and told her more stuff, then she told me she said, and dam it I am just wanting to call her and tell her off but do not worry I will not. So the worker is going to call next week for another visit.

And she will be interviewing Cloey after lunch. I feel like puking.

thanks everyone for your prayers and thoughts.

[Hippywitch]

This is such a horrible situation for you. As a mother myself (and I soooo hate that phrase) I really feel for you in this.

My son's school has contacted social services twice about our family, for no good reason, and the social workers have been good enough to point that one out each time. But it's a fact that they have to follow up every reccommendation they get (too many c's?).

I really hope everything turns out Ok and also that you are able to smooth things out with your mother, as that seems to be at the root of these problems.

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. x

[RavensEye]

But it's a fact that they have to follow up every reccommendation they get (too many c's?).
Hippywitch thank you for your thoughts, and yes I know they have to follow through , but still when the person making the accusations is not exactly stabel or trustworthy it is all the more annoying and hrutful.

[RavensEye]

Cloeys interview has caused us some new concerns that the social worker may take the wrong way which was what I was worried about, but I guess we will take it as it comes.

[Lunacie]

...just now seeing this. Sending energy that the social worker will see what a truly loving mother you are and will do what is best for your family.

Don't they keep some kind of records so that if a person makes a report that turns out to be false more than once, then they will simply ignore that person's allegations in the future?

[RavensEye]

Thanks Lunacie. I know in British Columbia they do, but not so sure here in Alberta. The social worker was glad that I told her about my moms past phone calls, but still that does not solve the problems at hand.

[Faery-Wings]

Bran, wishing you the best.
We have a similar situation here withmy son and his school. They interpret everything he does as eveidence of a deeper psychological problem.

Being a teacher, I understand that they have laws and reg's to follow, but as a mom, it makes me want to scream, leave these kids alone!

[DragonsChest]

Just saw this, Bran dear. I hope you all come through this unscathed and that the little ones are okay. It sounds like a horrible situation to be in. :sniffsnif

[Myzttycal]

Just saw this today. I hope things went well, :hugz:

[mol]

How is everything going, Bran?

[Raven Reed]

Ah man. We had to deal with Social Services twice and what a mess. Both times they didn't find anything, but the stress is awful. I am so sorry.

*hugs*

[RavensEye]

Well the worker has not come back and taken the kids away yet, but still not sure. I was fine till I reread this thread and now I want to get sick again my nerves are on edge. My mom think she was doing this for the best of everyone yah right since when is giving me panic attacks for the best of everyone?

I just felt awful that yesterday we did not get to celebrate Sakuras birthday the way we had planned. I did not even get her present finished At least Sakura was happy with the day except she was weird around the worker.

Anyways I have to go calm down now, since in less then 45 minutes i have to go see Cloeys counsellor I am going to be asking him for opinions abut what to do about my mom since I think her behaviour is affecting Cloey a bit more then anyone else realizes.:goodgrief

Another thing that make me angry is the teachers Cloeys and Sakuras teacher aid and teacher did not follow the school policy of talking to us about any concerns they have, but go blab to the worker. That makes me mad, I regret in certain ways even permitting Sakura to go to daycare because we believe something may have happened that hs scared her so much to even go to the bathroom at school or at home, the one incident I was not told about until I pushed the issue. Anyways I am sick of people who expect us to act a certain ways and follow rules but cannot do it themselves at least now thanks to the Vice principal of the school I will be having a more detail report about Sakuras day. I think I should since teh Vice principal told me about Sakura Screaming the other day and not getting her pants on in the bathroom at school, and then allegations she smelled like urine on Tuesday when she arrived which we do not get where they figure that.

oppps sorry I guess that was a rant :gagged: maybe I will take this over to the other forum where it should be..

But thanks everyone for the support I will let ya know what happens next week when the worker calls again to arrange another visit.

[Lunacie]

*sending more energy for the best possible outcome*

*and energy for Mary to find peace and calm and someone to support her case in the system, and deal with your mother too*

*and energy for this to be as little a disruption as possible for the girls*

Huggs for everyone at your house.

[RavensEye]

Thanks I am so in need of it I just got back from the school and the counsellors appointment went well, but when we went to pick up Cloey we found out her teacher told her to keep her glasses in her desk and we could not get them. Cloes teacher bitches to the social worker she needs her glasses but yet prevents her from taking them home to use anyways Cloe has now got a bad headache cause she has strained her eyes from trying to do her reading homework. I am not impressed and if it was not for Astron having to go to work on his day off I would have dam well dealt with it then and there. One of the teachers aids in Cloeys class was listening to our conversation when I was telling Astron she needs her glasses at home and I was going to get them, said she did not have the permission to get them either and I could not since The teacher had the class room locked and she would have a talk with the teacher on Monday. But a lot of good that does, in the mean time

Anyways talked to the Vice principal on the phone and told her the counselling appointment went well then about the concerns with the glasses, and even though she told me that sometimes the teachers ask to leave kids to leave their glasses at school I told her it is absolutely hypocrital that she says Cloes having problems seeing and reading at school and then why would she think that is not a problem at home she needs them here as well. So even though I was going to talk to the teacher on Monday the Vp is going to do that and let me know on Monday.

Now back to the counselling appointment it went well and the concerns I had and things I was going to do in order to protect Cloe from my mom the counsellor thought was a good idea, also the issues of Cloe's grieving even was brought up to so we have some areas to work on to improve her self esteem and just deal with her being very empathic which the counsellor agrees she is. And anyway that is all for now.

I am going to go make dinner and then try to cheer up by making valentines cards for the kids and my in-laws see ya later.

[RavensEye]

Sorry to eb a pain in the butt but can you please send extra energy to Astron, he is so stressed about this i am concerned about his safty at work. Thanks.

[Lunacie]

You got it! Calming energy for Astron as well.

Did you guys pay for Cloe's eyeglasses, or did the teacher pay for them? The only way I can see that she would have the right to demand that Cloe leave the glasses at school (especially for the whole weekend) is if she bought them herself. Otherwise they belong to Cloe and she has the right to her own property. Doesn't the teacher expect her to read ANYthing for the whole weekend?

At least it sounds like the school counselor is willing to work with you and not dismiss your concerns as having no validity. That's good news.

[RavensEye]

No the problem is she mentioend about getting the glasses brought into her and he would take them up to the clinc to get them fixed. instead Astron actually got them fixed but the next day when Cloe went to have her surgery done they fell out of her pocket on to the snowy/icy drive way. so up until last night they were fixed again and then today she tells Cloe to leave them at school.

And yes Lunacie that is what I told Cloe, is that just becuase she is her teacher she has no right to do that and I told Cloe to tell her that she needs to bring them home. And I also told cloe she should wear them till she leaves the school then that way she would not have a problem or at least I hope. And the reason I say Cloe wear themt ill she leaves the school is so they do not fly off of her face and break on the ice again.

As for the counsoller he is there to help deal with Cloes probelms of being easily frustrated and such and yes he is a big help. H even gave us a bit of advice on how to deal with the social worker and the comments that Cloey made to the Soical worker. And actually i beleve he is the same counsoller we saw 2 years ago to see if he could help cloe with Grieveing counselling.

And thanks Astron will appreacite it .

[Boogins]

Sorry, I'm slow on this, Mary, but :hugz: and energy to you and Astron and the kids. Things are going to get better.

[semi]

I was walking behind Boogins so I'm late with this, too. Love to you and your family, Bran.

[RavensEye]

It is ok boogins I know that you have had stuff to deal with to, but now ya know why I said Mf is the only thing giving us hope now. And semi thanks

:huddle:

[RavensEye]

---- now as for the reason I am back here I just got off the phone with my mom, she called to ask me if she should go see my uncle who has been in the hospital - 3rd floor because for some reason he lost it in the emergency room so he was put in even though he was banned from the hopsital and the 3rd floor in the past, which means he must have really been out of it.

We then talked about her giving me money for Cloeys glasses and such then after that discussion I told her that I was surprised that I was even talking to her due to all the stress lately with the school, and at first evne thought I was not mad about what was done I was mad about the crap at school, but then I did tell her what was going on here and the problems she caused and things went fine until l I asked her why she did not tell me her so called concerns before... anyways she denies what she said before and because I asked her about why she said anything about the state of the house when she knew it was clean before she made the call and she said it was not. She asked how I knew when she called the worker and I told her because she told me mid January which is exactly when the worker received the complaint anyways.


Anyway my mom got the paper with the name of the worker and it was not the same one who is here visiting. So I told her it was mostly likely an intake worker she called. Anyways my mom stopped listening and said something else along the lines of finding out who she talked to and I repeated most likely it was an intake worker they have been busy that is why it took so long for her to come and see us and that it was NOT the same person she talked to. So I will not be surprised if she says more after this and causes more problems.


Anyways I asked her again why she did not confront me about her concerns about the dishes and such and other stuff, she said she did and I said no she did not. And then she turned around and said whether I want to hear it or not that

I act to much like my uncle in his always wanting to cause a fight and that is why she did not say anything at Christmas. I pointed out to her at Christmas time that was not the case and it was the fact she did not want to listen to me over the stupid vacuum hose and I just hit the roof and I said that she was one to talk if anyone was like him it was her, when she looses control over people she gets mean like he does, and that I have had it stay away from us and that she can keep in contact with Cloey via letters but that is it....

[ObsidianSunrise]

:hugz: Positive energies on the way for everything to work out in your favor with child services and calming energies for all of you!

[RavensEye]

Thank you.

[Faery-Wings]

Oh yuck, what a mess. :(

One of the hardest things in these types of cases is that you aren't sure what the "right" approach is. Do I open my mouth like I want to, at the risk of making things worse? Or shut up, and hold all of the crap in?

I am sending so much energy to you and your family.

:hugz:

[RavensEye]

chryssi1 thanks for your thoughts and ya know what it is true but I cannot keep it inside anymore it will make me stressed out more then I am already so I do not fell bad for what I did and I do not have any regrets.

I told Cloey what happend and explained to her that as her mom i have to do what is right for her protection and the rest of the family. And re explained to her about My moms mental illness and why grandma does not always remember things or act appopriatley and that I did not want to see her get hurt. She cried but she siad she understood so the limit is to seeing my mom if Cloey wants to write to her that is fine but that is it.

[Lunacie]

I think that's a very good idea while the girls are so young. When they get older they can decide for themselves if they want to have more to do with their gramma. I'm so sorry you and your mom have so much trouble. I wish every mother and daughter could have a good relationship like my daughter and I do.

[RavensEye]

Well I wish I can to but I am greatful at lesat for the past 11 years I ahve gotten to know my mom anyways, and yes when they are older it is their choice whether or not to see her. In the mean time i am glad that Cloey has taken this so well. I do think it will be for the best for me and my stress levels to :)

So now we just have to deal with the worker and that is it.

EDIt to add: I have nto felt this relaxed in ages and happy ya know_cloud9_

[Infinite Grey]

I don't know if this means anything, but I thought of you today, which is strange because usually I don't dwell on other people's problems or even remember them until I speak to them.

but as it seems to be panning out all right for you maybe it's not really necessary but I will send you energy. And I hope it all works out for the best:thumbsup:

[RavensEye]

Of corsue it does mean something and thank you and yes please any energy would be appreciated it is that lovley time of the month for me and I have been really shaly since last night and really low energy.

[RavensEye]

Well my mom called yesterday to let me know she was sending stuff that she had promised... And I said ok, and we talked about our previous call and she did not hear me say I did not want to have contact with her but only not to come and visit. Anyway I told her no I said also not to have any contact with the family except if you want to send Cloey a letter etc. I explained to her I am sick of the fighting I do not know why she could not explain to me her concerns at Christmas or even after when she knew things were improving and she still went and called. I told her I have to do what is best for my family and me and that is why I think it is best by distancing ourselves by not having her come for her visit in April and limiting the phone calls to Cloey and me unless it is an emergency etc. I also told her that I would not be asking for help from her financially anymore either. I told her I have many positive things going on here now and I am going to focus on that instead of her.

Also the social worker called us today, and we had a phone conference with the person who is going to be helping us with services. And I asked the worker about Cloeys interview and her comments on fighting and lets just say there is nothing to be worrying about. The worker has no concerns :D Cloey said we fight over what to make for dinner and sometimes she has to break us up…

So next week we have a meeting with the new worker to make sure things are ok here and I have dealt with my mom to a point where I feel at peace with everything. Ahhhh and the sun is shinning and I am feeling great with the exception of my dam wisdom tooth :D That will hopefully be the next thing to work on getting done with Cloes other medical appointments in March :D

so thank you everyone for the energy and kidn words :hugz:

[Lunacie]

I'm proud of you for finding the strength to stand up for yourself and your family. :boing:

[RavensEye]

Thank you Lunacie it is a mjor breka through for me :D:sunny: