New Job.

[Danustouch]

Need some advice, all! My husband just started a new job today. Of course, he had the new job jitters, as everyone does their first day at a new place. The job is really good. Great Pay, Benefits, etc. In his field (autobody repair) it's not always easy to find such a deal. Well...my husband is a very sensitive person. While the pay and the benefits are good, if he's made to feel very unwelcome by his fellow employee's (and there is ALWAYS a sense of competition amongst workers at such a shop)...i could see him starting to hate his job pretty quick. And we really have nothing to fall back on, were he to leave there for any reason. So.....my question is this. What kind of spell could I do to make it easy sailing? He's a great body man. One of the best. And he's a pretty friendly guy. But...he gets insulted fairly easily. So...would a spell to give him peace be the best route to take? Or should I cast a Peace Spell over the Job as a whole? Do any of you know of any spells to ensure happy employment? I mean..the prosperity spell has already been done. That's how he got the job. But...making it a likeable place to work, is a whole other ball of wax. Any ideas?

[slvr_phoenix]

The ball of wax comment just gave me an idea for a poppet-type spell you could use for his protection. Perhaps make him a poppet. Then empower some wax with emptionally protective energy. Melt the wax and then dip the poppet in. Heh heh. Add whatever other flaires of the dramatic you like of course. ;) Your statement just threw that into my head for some reason, so I thought I'd mention it.

On a similar note, and trying to put this as friendly as possible, being so sensitive is often times indicative of self-esteem issues, so perhaps just working on building up that should be the priority if that is indeed the root of the problem. Just a thought.

Good luck and I hope all works out well.

[Myst]

If I were you I'd light some candles that his new job be harmonious and good for him. The problem with doing the spell on him is what if someone comes along and does start saying bad stuff later on or criticizing what he's done, and he just doesn't notice because of the spell, and doesn't take the criticism and the person who gave it to him gets him fired? For instance if you do a spell on him what if he doesn't even notice when his boss is using constructive criticism? Not a good thing huh. So I'd just light some candles (white or yellow or even pink maybe), harmonious incense (nag champa or his favourite incense etc.) and concentrate on harmony and happiness at this job for him.

Just my thoughts :)

[slvr_phoenix]

Originally posted by Willow Raven
The problem with doing the spell on him is what if someone comes along and does start saying bad stuff later on or criticizing what he's done, and he just doesn't notice because of the spell, and doesn't take the criticism and the person who gave it to him gets him fired? For instance if you do a spell on him what if he doesn't even notice when his boss is using constructive criticism? Not a good thing huh.
That was why I suggested empowering the protection with emotionally protective energies, not with protecting him from all criticism.

[Danustouch]

Thats the kind of thing I was looking for....a spell for a harmonious work environment.....so thanks for the suggestions!

[Myst]

Yup I saw that. The problem with that (IMHO and experiences) is that "emotional protection" is too wide a term. Emotional protection from who? What? For how long? IMHO using something without boundaries at all like that could lead to a lot of problems.

[Myst]

Originally posted by Danustouch
Thats the kind of thing I was looking for....a spell for a harmonious work environment.....so thanks for the suggestions!

Ah, well then pick his or your favourite candle, incense, harmonious music, et cetera and awaaaaay you go ;)

[Swanspirit]

and it wouldnt hurt for him to carrry a bit of salt in his pockets........
I love the idea he is sensitive......... sensitive men are wonderful.........( and great lovers LOL) the sensitive male = low self esteem idea is worthless in my estimation.........and sexist as well..........
My opinion........
Also a working with all the words that convey the meanings of good working relationships to be specific to the idea .... along with a bit of prosperity and job satisfaction ... sounds very do- able full moon in Aries with the SUN in Libra is a gret time to do it wonderful energy there Aries .....NEW ventures and beginnings..... metals.....and mechanics are ruled by Aries and Libra ...relationships ........and diplomcy...... hmmm
does he do welding sculptures?? metal art??
Love and light
Swannie

[slvr_phoenix]

Originally posted by Willow Raven
Yup I saw that. The problem with that (IMHO and experiences) is that "emotional protection" is too wide a term. Emotional protection from who? What? For how long? IMHO using something without boundaries at all like that could lead to a lot of problems.
I would have to assume that whoever casts the spell would be defining the from who, what, and for how longs involved, if they felt that not being specific could lead to a lot of problems. If they don't feel that it could lead to a lot of problems, then perhaps it is the right thing to do. And so long as part of the spell includes a stipulation such as, "So long as it is for the best.", then how can it go wrong?

I know I've been pretty general, but I figured we're all pretty educated people so I don't have to be specific. As I said, it was an idea for a spell. I never expressed it as a spell itself, but just as a jumping board to use for writing a personalized spell if it sounded good.

[Danustouch]

Well..his sensitivity can be both a good thing, and a bad thing. Oversensitivity can be a problem. And he is that at times, oversensitive. And reactionary. The mix can be a bad thing. But I'm glad he's in touch with his emotions. The salt in his pocket..good idea.

Funny you should ask. My husband has worked on welding a couple of sculptures. But not ones that he desighned. He worked on a sculpture for Mohican Sun, a Casino in CT. The engineer desighned it, and gave him all the measurements, and my husband welded the pieces together.

But he considers ALL of his work, a form of art.

[Swanspirit]

I am a "witch" LOL and sensitivity and metal working for me = metal art which can be incredibly breathtaking ........... I once watched an artist ... a young woman who was this little petite delicate creature .. create this incredible Three Story high GIANT of interpretational metal ART in her garage .....which now sits in front a buiding in downtown Baltimore...... the only thing I didnt like about it was that she painted it VOLKSWAGON ORANGE ........eewwwwwwwwwwwww anyway I was picturing that when I was reading the post ..........were they large pieces??
Love and HUGS
Swannie

[slvr_phoenix]

Originally posted by Swanspirit
and it wouldnt hurt for him to carrry a bit of salt in his pockets........
I love the idea he is sensitive......... sensitive men are wonderful.........( and great lovers LOL) the sensitive male = low self esteem idea is worthless in my estimation.........and sexist as well..........
My opinion........
Also a working with all the words that convey the meanings of good working relationships to be specific to the idea .... along with a bit of prosperity and job satisfaction ... sounds very do- able full moon in Aries with the SUN in Libra is a gret time to do it wonderful energy there Aries .....NEW ventures and beginnings..... metals.....and mechanics are ruled by Aries and Libra ...relationships ........and diplomcy...... hmmm
does he do welding sculptures?? metal art??
Love and light
Swannie
And Swanspirit, you can take your mis-interpretations of my words and shove where the sun don't shine for all I care.

I said, "indicative", and, "if that is indeed the root of the problem". I merely offered a helpful suggestion because if the problem has a deeper root and you only work on the effects of that, then more effects will sprout from the root and nothing will be gained.

And I most certainly did not say, "the sensitive male = low self esteem", nor did I ever equate "the sensitive male" to anything. You will not find anything even close to those words in my post. The only one guilty of relating something sexist here is YOU.

So stop trying to bait people, or at least get better at it. If you're going to do it, at least find a way to turn exact quotes into something that sounds bad. Otherwise you're just wasting your time. And frankly, I'm sick of seeing you waste everyone's time with your sloppy attempts to bait people.

Normally I'd just agree with you that sensitive men are wonderful, that a sensitive man always has low self esteem is a worthless conclusion to draw, and that anyone who believes that it isn't a worthless conclusion is quite possibly sexist. But I'm not in the mood to be crafty. I'm feeling mighty blunt at the moment. So deal.

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Yes this is off topic. Yes this is strike one for me. I'm moderating myself for going off topic, but darned if it doesn't feel good to get that off of my chest in a way that warns people about Swanspirit's behavior instead of just handling it in a PM. So deal with it. :razz: There is no personal attack. I have not called Swanspirit names or said that she is anything. All I've done is go off topic, which I am certainly not the first person to be guilty of such, nor will I be the last.
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[Swanspirit]

which equates to what you suggested with ifs and maybe's .........That is MY OPINION........
I didnt see any request for help with the "sensitivity" or that it was even a problem. and please dont suggest I was trying to "bait you "
I was responding to the IDEA that a MAN who is sensitive MIGHT have a self esteem problem which is terribly sexist in my view.... and sad no matter who suggests it........ it isnt even new ........not a lot to "deal with" LOL:rotfl: you could have clarified yourself with a lot less animosity ........IMO ......and how telling someone to shove something ISNT AN ATTACK is a gross twisting of meaning ......... but again I expect it..........."shrug" and I think moderating yourself and including a "warning about my behavior in your self mod is an abuse of the priveledge ........ another scary opinion from Swannie
Love and Light
Swannie:rotfl:

[Lavender]

How about a herb bag to carry in his pocket? Filled with calming herbs & such and a small rose quartz crystal? If you're interested, I can dig up a list of herbs for you.

[Lavender]

Originally posted by Wildchild
How about a herb bag to carry in his pocket? Filled with calming herbs & such and a small rose quartz crystal? If you're interested, I can dig up a list of herbs for you.


Oops! Forgot to say congrats to your hubby on the new job! When does he start? I'll keep him in mind when I light my incense tonight. :)

[Danustouch]

Thanks Wild! I've got some lavendar, and some chamomile, i think. For tranquility. Do you think they would help? I've also got rose quartz. And he just started today!


And yes...swan..they were large pieces..large triangular frame type things, for something called "wambie rock". It's a simulated rock, inside the frame pieces, there were pieces of glass, and it's all lit up from the inside. Kinda cool, actually.

[Myst]

Originally posted by Danustouch
Thanks Wild! I've got some lavendar, and some chamomile, i think. For tranquility. Do you think they would help? I've also got rose quartz. And he just started today!

Lavendar is what all my Pagans recommend time and time again for peace :)

[Swanspirit]

got any piccies??? Congratulations on the job BTW........I wish I could get paid for my art ................ all in how you look at it I guess........ hehehe
I remember MY FIRST time in nursing school .... as an LPN student .. we were required to attend the graduation of other classes so they trooped us all down the auditorium to attend the welders graduation.......
Well we sat there ......dedicated and proud . and then someone in a speech mentioned how much the welders could expect to make ... and all the nursing students were muttering "WE should have gone to WELDING SCHOOL LOL"
Love and Light
Swannie

[Lavender]

Originally posted by Danustouch
Thanks Wild! I've got some lavendar, and some chamomile, i think. For tranquility. Do you think they would help? I've also got rose quartz. And he just started today!

Yes! Great combination! And maybe a pinch of pennyroyal for strength & peace & protection a well? How did it go for your hubby?