Horrible de-broom closet experience

[phoenixsong]

Today my 'best friend' found out I was Wiccan. I thought she'd be sound with it, after all she is an untrained psychic. So anyway, she completely rubbished the whole idea of Wicca, witches and magick. It was just so unexpected and horrible, and I had no idea what to say to her. Then she told me, 'If you're a real witch, cast a spell and get me off the art test after break.' Course I didn't want to, that's not how spells should be used. And we had a big row.
But worse to come. At break she went home sick, missing the art test and I haven't heard from her since. What if she thinks I cast a spell and made her sick or something?
This is not a good day for me.

[Lilu]

I'm terribly sorry you had such a bad experience. You could always tell her she should be careful what she wishes for ;) She wanted out of the test, she got out of it.

Sure it's not a nice way, but it's out. And if she is an untrained psychic as you say - it's possible that just her saying it perhaps put into motion a chain of events to get her out of the test like she wanted.

You could try contacting her via phone or something to talk, or give her a few days to deal with the whole thing and come to you.

*hugs*

BB
Lilu

[yemayasdaughter]

I agree completely with Lilu!! My Grandma's favourite expression when she was still on this Earth was, "God don't like ugly!!" And I like to say the Goddess dosent either.

Sometimes you want to put something out into the Universe, and challenge the Gods and the Goddesses.. they will show you in your own way.

Try talking to your friend.. tell her that it was disrespectful for her to ask you to "make a spell" for her. Tell her that you expected better from her and she disappointed you.

I hope everything will work out for you.... I will keep good thoughts for you!!!

[loopy]

That really sucks, phoenixsong. :( It should have been a day of celebration and relief and freedom from hiding, and it became something ugly. :(

Good luck with your friend, and please let us know how it turns out. :) And congratulations on coming out of the closet. :D So to speak. ;)

[willowfairy]

that's what i'm afraid will happen to me. actually, i KNOW it'll happen to me. :( just everybody will be against me and i wont have any friends and they'll all look at me weird. a big SIGH goes here

[Sequoia]

awww!!! for both of you! *HUGE HUGGLES* aww. . . I'm sure it'll get better. Things always do.

I kinda know how you feel. My dad's been weird around me ever since I told him I'm pagan. . . he seems to think it involves Satan somehow. . . nomatter WHAT I say to him. *shrugs* oh well. . . his loss, I suppose.

*HUGS* things'll get better. I know they will ^_^

[Dagda Moon~Lily]

I'm sorry you had such an bad dispute! If you really want to keep this person as your friend, then ask her to sit down with you and LISTEN to you. Explain the basics to her so she can make an EDUCATED decision about the religion... <grumble, grumble....never have liked narrow-minded people that would rather discredit something before they know the facts!....end of grumble, grumble>

If she can't accept you for who you are.... :ugh:

[Myst]

Tell her to stuff it :D

Untrained psychic? We're all untrained psychics. Except for those guys, who are, like, trained psychics. We all have those latent abilities at least if they aren't obvious.

Ok, I realize I'm a cynical person most of the time. Frankly if my friend did that to me I'd tell her off, truly. Then again I was always the kind of person to not take that, not hug people when I should be telling them to suck my big toe, ya know? It took me awhile to learn but frankly I feel sometimes you're better off without a friend then trying to deal with issues. *shrugs*

So if you want to keep her as a friend sit down with her sometime and tell her you want to have a mature discussion - act like adults, ya know, no need to call names. Dagda's suggestion was absolutely right. There's no reason why you can't discuss things and learn to like eachother's differences. If she can't then she was no friend in the first place, find better friends. She doesn't have to agree with your beliefs, just understand that as a friend she should at least support your being happy. And like I said, if she can't think about your friendship and your happiness over her own feelings then you deserve better friends. Period.

That's my 2 cents.