Brother and sister sharing a bedroom?

[Jade Moon]

My question is much more benign than it sounds! We just bought a new house - and I have three kids with only two bedrooms for them. My oldest daughter is nine and she is an early bloomer. She is desperate for her own space and some privacy. I really don't want to make her share a room with her 6 year old sister. My 6 year old daughter and my 3 year old son play well together, as they are both still interested in toys and cartoons, etc... Would it be terrible for a girl and boy to share a room if they are in bunk beds? We will be building another bedroom in a year or two, so it won't be forever.

[Shanti]

My 6 yr old daughter and 4 year old son sleep in the same room. Neither is 'brave' enough yet to go to their own. They dont want to be alone. I dont see nothing wrong with it. My grown kids decided when they were at the age of needing privacy, which is differant for each kid.

Its not like they are being forced together.

Its your 9 year old that is ready for her own space!!!!! :)

In a year your second oldest may be saying 'I need my own space' too!!! :)

[~SleepyWillow~]

Considering thier ages I don't think thats a problem at all...right now..of course your 6 yr old daughter is not far off from your 9 yr old and so you may not have too much time in which you will be able to comfortably keep your younger son and daughter in one room. I think it should be fine...

[Tzhebee]

I think it's fine! My kids each have thier own rooms (two girls age 8 and a boy 7) and most nights, you'll find them all camped out in one room anyway! So long as the kids are comfortable with it, you're fine.

BUT! You may want to check the laws of your state. Once children of opposite sex reach certain ages, they are technically not allowed to share a room. I have no idea how or if this is enforced, but it's a law just the same.

[Ceres]

My children shared a room at this age too and they cants tand eachother now (not BECAUSE of room sharing lol) I think they will let you know when they feel they are getting too old for it.

[DragonsChest]

It's fine! They will be great, and the promise of the new bedroom being built should keep most of any friction that might occur down.

[LadyTrinity]

I shared a room with my brother until I was 9. My mom only had the one room for us. But we let her know that we wanted our own space. I think sharing a room made me closer to my brother. When we had our own rooms.. we kinda werent that close any more. We dont get along as well :T

[lovemy1dane]

like everyone else said. It is fine. My kids also shared a room until they were7 and 8.

[Semele]

My brother and I shared a room and even had bunk beds. He is two years older than me. It was a lot of fun. In fact, we had blankets draped down around the bed and were pretending we were in the mystery machine..and my goofy brother, in the driver's seat, put a bobby pin in the light socket! It was a hair raising experience for all of us.

Ah, memories!

[BrigidMoon]

My brother and I shared a room and even had bunk beds. He is two years older than me. It was a lot of fun. In fact, we had blankets draped down around the bed and were pretending we were in the mystery machine..and my goofy brother, in the driver's seat, put a bobby pin in the light socket! It was a hair raising experience for all of us.

Ah, memories!

LOL....Poor bro. The things we do with our siblings when we're young. :)

[MammaStar]

I had to share a room with BOTH my brothers while we were teenagers. Mom had to make a "schedule" for us, to have "alone time". We had a tiny 2 bedroom apartment and had to live that way for a long time. When i moved out to go to college, they took over.

Wasn't the best arrangement but we came out relatively normal.

[pawnman]

I think it's fine! My kids each have thier own rooms (two girls age 8 and a boy 7) and most nights, you'll find them all camped out in one room anyway! So long as the kids are comfortable with it, you're fine.

BUT! You may want to check the laws of your state. Once children of opposite sex reach certain ages, they are technically not allowed to share a room. I have no idea how or if this is enforced, but it's a law just the same.

I had never heard it was illegal to share a room with a sibling of the opposite sex. I wonder if that applies to cousins as well. My brother and I were often migrated from out bunk beds to the floor when our female cousins turned up for the weekend.

[Calen]

It sounds like a fine arrangement for the time being. It will probably be fun for them, and like you said, it's not forever!

[*Rain*]

I think it's usually 9 years old when the law puts it's foot down so it shouldn't be a problem. They'll probably have a great time.

[pawnman]

I think it's usually 9 years old when the law puts it's foot down so it shouldn't be a problem. They'll probably have a great time.

What state do you live in? I've honestly never heard of this law...I wonder if it's just a local thing, or if it just isn't publicized.

[MammaStar]

i'm curious too. cause if that's the case. Several families I know are breaking the law as well as my own.

[teh_fae]

Sharing a room at their age now seems fine. They're both young and have the same interests, especially with toys. It doesn't sound like a problem for them to share a room.

[faerieridingdragons]

I think it's usually 9 years old when the law puts it's foot down so it shouldn't be a problem. They'll probably have a great time.
I believe it's the same around here,but unless you have dss knocking on your door it's not enforced.

[Tzhebee]

I live in WA, and the only reason I know about this ridiculas law is because when "the ex" was trying to get custody, we were investigated by CPS. They came to check out the house, living conditions, etc. and made a huge deal out of making sure the boy and the girls had separate rooms.

It's OK for them to share up to a certain age (I think it's 6 here). But, like faerieridingdragons said, I don't think its something that is actively enforced...unless you are being investigated.