Are you happy?

[lil_suzie]

Well are you? And I dont just mean right now or even just lately
but I mean about everything, are you happy with your life.

[RowanMegaera]

In general, yes. I am very patient.

[Raven Reed]

I have been really sick for about three years... I suffer from a mood disorder and I got to where I couldn't work, couldn't go to school, couldn't get out of bed.

I am much better now. But am I happy? No. I am still not working or going to school and feel like a big loaf. I hate it. Also, financially, things just suck right now. Other than that, I guess I don't have too much to complain about. I have MOMENTS of happiness, which is better than I was a year ago. So things are relative.

[Infinite Grey]

sure why not? :tub:

[Angelus_Errare]

No.

[morrigan]

i'm happy.. if there is something i dont like or something makes me unhappy i change it.. not point playing the victim.. that wont change anything.. the only person that can make sure that I am happy is me.. its my life and so its my responsibility do make sure it is as close to how i want it as i can.. for the things i cant change i dont dwell on them i get on with life and deal with the rest as it comes up..

[WynnJera]

:weirdsmil ... Mostly I am ... Just would like to move on with my life with hubby instead of our health rutt we are in while we wait for a match :weirdsmil

[Flaire-FireStar]

Aside from all the shit that's been going on lately, it's okay. Could be better, could be worse. I'm on the middle ground right now.

[FaerieGothMommy]

No, i'm not. I am not happy with the way my life is right now. I am happy with my children, i love them to peices, but my life as it is now, nope! Which makes me real sad. I am getting my life in order, it's very hard at the moment, but it WILL happen, i'm determined about that :)

[Earthy]

Most of the time,yes :)

[Sommerfugl]

Well are you? And I dont just mean right now or even just lately
but I mean about everything, are you happy with your life.

Yep. All my limbs work and i have a roof over my head.

[trippingdaisy]

No, but I wouldnt say I was unhappy. I'm a little frustrated. I have some things I need to work through, and once thats sorted out, things will be better. its a beautiful day here today, though- always puts a little skip in my step, woohoo :abanana:

[enchancea]

yes

[Sommerfugl]

Well are you? And I dont just mean right now or even just lately
but I mean about everything, are you happy with your life.

Are you?

[lil_suzie]

Are you?
Yes I think so. Everyones always saying to me when I talk about
my life how it must be so awful for me, there all "you poor thing"
or whatever and its real nice of them to say it but I dont get
it, why they say that. I'm pretty happy usualy and dont let things
get to me to much, I like how my life is and I dont realy want
to change it much at all so isnt that being happy? Actualy the
only times I'm not happy usualy is when things happen that get in
the way of me living my life like it is so that must mean that
I'm usualy pretty happy with it like it is. So yes.

[Æon Flux]

No... my life and the people in it can have it's bright moments, and I guess I wouldn't want to change places with anyone... But my life has been a lonely hell since as long as I can remember and I would have to say I'm not happy with it. MAybe I'll never be...

ETA: no.. you know what? Maybe I am happy with it. I quite like being a miserable loser. Seriously... I do, it gives me a perfectly good explination as to why I am this messed up!

[Sequoia]

I am with the people who mean the very most to me, and whom I love more than life itself. It wouldn't matter what else is going on - as long as we're together, I'm happy. It's as simple as that.

[RubyRose]

Seems like this should be an easy question to answer, though I'm finding it rather hard. On the whole I guess I am happy, but I'm a little restless, and unsure in a few areas of my life.

[Romani Vixen]

Overall, I'm rather happy! I've been doing a good job at controlling the depresson lately! :)

[flar7]

I have a chronic illness that limits my activities, has no cure, and that some say I am at the end stage of.... I have huge debt, small fixed income with no way to change my financial status for the most part.....I have a terrific wife and terrific friends. Parents that love me even though times are hard for them under the current administration.... and I am Happy.

Happiness is a choice. You decide it. You can be neck deep in crap and still be happy, or be the richest dude on the block and miserable.

[lil_suzie]

Thank you flar7. :hugz:
I like that, what you say that happiness is a choice I think
alot of poeple need to hear it to. BUt I dont get though why
then do so many people choose to not be.

[lil_suzie]

And thank you to, to everyone thats posted and for being so honest
about it all, see I made this thread cos there seems like theres
so much sadness around all the time and so many people who arent
never happy no matter what. I dont mean about depression or things
like that just how some people are just always complaning about
stuff and never realy doing anything about it, its always confused
me sinse I also see so many people who have alot of reson to
be unhappy but they seem OK. And I was wondering what makes
some of us happy with things like they are and what makes some
of us unhappy with things like they are sinse it doesnt seem to
be the things so much as the people.

[flar7]

they dont realize its a choice. They think that because something, some aspect of life is not working that they must be unhappy. If you will just decide to be happy, things do get a little better and life is more enjoyable. This doesnt mean that the problem gets fixed or goes away, merely that you decide to be happy regardless of it.

You can scream at the storm, or do your best to shelter from it, ride it out, and enjoy what you have even if its only this moment, this breath, the next breath, these are no small things.

[flar7]

oh, dont confuse sadness with happiness. You can be sad and happy at the same time. How do I find the happiness in the death of my grandmother? You find your own happiness in your memories, but you still have the sadness in you as well for the loss.

[Élistariel]

For the most part I am. I don't think I'll be experiencing true joy anytime soon. I hate having to hide my religion. I hate not being able to speak with my immediate family.
I have sisters and a brother whom I have never spoken to face to face. They are half siblings. One lives with her mother in Georgia. The other two live with our dad. I love the people who raised me, but I hate that I can't speak openly around them. I miss my mom, and she's still alive, yet I am basically not allowed to go see her. I have 3 families, and access to only one.
:wah2: I want my mommy!... and my sisters... and brother...

[Bix]

In general, I'm a pretty happy person. But college is just kind of draining me right now.

[Faeawyn]

In general..yes, I'm very happy. Do I want more? Of course....but I'm very blessed and happy with my life as it is now as well.

[MoonDragn]

Happiness transcends the boundaries of your life. It's essence is a wildfire that burns ever strongly inside waiting to get released to suffuse you with joy. It is a passion that knows no bounds waiting for the flood gates of your emotions to release. Some people hold it back because they think they have nothing to be happy about. While they are busy looking at the little wreck in front of them, they are missing the big happiness train passing behind.

[Sleet]

Quite.

[Ben Trismegistus]

Thank you, Suzie, for this thread. And thank you, flar7, for saying what needs to be said.

Yes, I'm happy. Deliriously happy. I've got a loving wife, a beautiful child, a fantastic house, and I'm embarking on an exciting new career. There are plenty of bad things in my life, from medical issues to my tax bill to an ongoing identity crisis, but these things are all secondary.

Flar7 is absolutely right that happiness is a choice. You need to acknowledge the sad and bad things in your life, and then let go of them and let the happiness come back through.

My friend Tatiana put it in perspective for me a few weeks ago. She was complaining about something -- work, and day care, and something else -- and suddenly she smiled and said, "Oh what wonderful bourgeois problems we have." It's true. None of us are starving to death, none of us live in oppressive terrorist regimes, none of us are living on the street (or so I assume) - so we've all got it pretty good.

[Faeawyn]

There are plenty of bad things in my life, from medical issues to an ongoing identity crisis, but these things are all secondary.


Don't worry Ben....we'll love you even after your gender reassignment surgery :)

[IvyWitch]

Yes, I am. Things are wonderful, save for a little bit of college related stress, and even better now that I am purging some toxic relationships, as it were.

[Brielle LaLune]

No, not yet. :) But I will be.

[Ben Trismegistus]

Don't worry Ben....we'll love you even after your gender reassignment surgery :)
You're a laugh riot.

[Faeawyn]

You're a laugh riot.
:smooch:

[Valerie]

Well are you? And I dont just mean right now or even just lately
but I mean about everything, are you happy with your life.

No. As sad and depressing as it sounds, no, I'm not. :sniffsnif

[Catiana]

No

[Shanti]

There are many reasons not to be happy, especially if you look for them. For me, for every reason not to be happy, there is a reason to be happy.

Some reasons to be miserable:
My health sucks.
I live in an old falling apart trailer thats way to small for a family of 4 but cant afford to change that.
I'm middle aged and lost the glorious appearance of youth.
I dont have family outside of my own kids.
I am discriminated against for my beliefs, mixed race and my relationship.
My InLaws are not nice.

But I am happy because:
I am alive.
I am not homeless.
My age might be showing but I know a hell of a lot more than when I was young!!! The trade off is worth it.
I have my kids.
I am secure in my beliefs that I have choosen. I love my heritages. I love my SO.
I dont allow my in-laws to mess with my life, their bull is their prob. Plus they remind me that no family is better than a deceitful family.

Like Flare said, its a choice. You can dwell on why its a miserable life or dwell on the why its good. I rather concentrate on the why its good. I am very happy and very blessed.

Hell, I look at it this way.
That homeless person that no one knows, that no one cares about, is a person. He/she came from somewhere. It could of been me but its not. I am not alone in life. I am not freezing and shelterless in winter. I dont get my food from a garbage can. I dont where rags for clothing. I dont go without the ability to bath and infested with lice. I dont spend my time sitting in the gutter with really no life.

I have in dam good. I have a life!!!!!! Hell yes I am happy!!!!!!!! :)

[Earthy]

I totally agree with Flar and Shanti.
Happiness is a choice....something it has taken me almost 20 years to learn, but i'm getting there.
Sure, bad things happen,but why should i let the past take control of me now?
I'm alive, i have my family and i have my home..i have much to be grateful for and be extremely happy for :smile:

[WitchJezebel]

Hmmm - I'm not unhappy, I've just got some really frustrating things going on right now that I'm in the process of dealing with so I'm a little frazzled. Otherwise, yes I am happy.

[Boogins]

Yes, I am--my bipolar cycling and other problems may seem to cloud the surface, but I'm really quite happy... because I know where I'm going and what's needed.

[Hærfest Leah]

I'd say 95% of the time I am happy.

[ravenmyst]

Yes, I am still breathing, it could be worse

[ollathair]

Sure I'm happy. I'm alive, I'm not starving, nor am I cold. Ummmmm, I'm pretty healthy. I'm married -- happily :p

So, I am happy, happy, happy :clapping:

[Lewen]

i'm happy.. if there is something i dont like or something makes me unhappy i change it.. not point playing the victim.. that wont change anything.. the only person that can make sure that I am happy is me.. its my life and so its my responsibility do make sure it is as close to how i want it as i can.. for the things i cant change i dont dwell on them i get on with life and deal with the rest as it comes up..

This is exactly how I feel too. Right now I'm happy, even though I'm going through some major Sh*t. I've learnt long ago, it's how I CHOOSE to go through something that makes the difference in my attitude and how I end up.
Well Said Morrigan.

[semi]

I can't answer that with a Yes or a No. Sometimes I'm happy, sometimes I'm not. I'm not all that concerned about being happy. I have things that I'm trying to accomplish. Being happy or not is irrelevant to getting them done. I enjoy life very very much, even the adversity that pops up now and then, but I don't know if that means I'm happy. I love life with great passion whether I'm happy or sad.

[Kadynas]

Not really but I'm trying to force myself to look on the bright side... :) Everyone defines happiness/misery differently. For me, that area tends to involve my relationships with others. For some it could be their jobs or money issues, etc. So even though I'm not "happy" right now, I guess you could say I'm "content enough". I look at those around me and know my problems might seem petty next to theirs, so I try to be appreciative of what I do have rather than focus on what I don't.

[MoonDragn]

I'd say 95% of the time I am happy.

except when your kids are awake LOL ;)

[soilsigh aingeal]

Yup

[Maeglin Ancalime]

Sure why not ^^

could be better could be worse...could be dead

[wakywitch]

YES I am!

[Aconite]

Honestly, couldnt tell you...*didnt vote* I mean some days ill wish i was jsut dead, otehrs im so happy to be alive, there are some thigns about my life i hate horribley, and some i cant stand to be without.

[Tsuchimaru]

I am, and yet I am not. I have my precious Silphy, whom I love with all my being. She gives me life. Reason. Love. She's everything I've ever wanted in life. And yet, at the same time, I worry so much about losing her that I'm almost driven back to my pessimistic, depression-ridden self.......Every now and then, I ask myself what I would do if anything were to happen to her. Would I cry? Would I scream? Would I go for the nearest knife? Maybe all three? Sometimes I think about how I used to be months ago: resentful, bitter, cynical, and suicidal. I didn't care about anyone. Everyone returns to the soil eventually, so why bother caring? It seemed like such a trivial thing. And yet I've become so attached to this one person, that I've been completely changed........

Boy, did I go off topic.....sorry folks.