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[devilsangel20]

Has anyone ever done something and in a way regreted it for several months after? I broke someone's heart and I know that in the long run it'll make me happy, but six almost seven months later my heart still hurts when I find something they gave me or wrote me when things were great. I don't know how to get over this heartache. I am dating someone new. Does anyone have any advice for me? How do I get over this person? :dis:

[Bigboper123]

Close your eyes and free fall out of yourself. It took me a while to get over the one I thought was the light in my life. I tried to cover it with false anger and hate, but then I just one day said she is not coming back I have stuff to do and a life to live and then I did a free fall out of my misery and into my life. I am sure he forgives you and would do anything for you if asked, but it is time for you to forgive you and move on before it injures your current relationship.

[devilsangel20]

but i don't know how to forgive myself..... i've tried.... and i can't.... is there anything else i can do?.... i can't go back.....

[Bigboper123]

Don't look back never look back you must simply learn to let go. Look within your heart that is where your answer lies. It is what you find in your heart that you really need to take hold of. Brian Loves you and you love him release the past and lease a new life. It is your time and you must grasp that which you hold dear and hold tight as if life itself depended on it.

[Akhkharu Asgard]

I think moving on is the key. Living life. Eventually it won't be a primary thought in your life. It may take some time and may hurt for a while. I don't know the details of what happened in your situations, so I can really only give vague suggestions.

[Spera]

I did this. I broke up with my last boyfreind 2 thanksgivings ago, and I felt so guilty about it for about a year. but eventually I tarted to remember that I was a real person, and that the realtionship made both of us miserable. Whether he could see it at the time or not. You ahve the right to your happiness, if you just go back to him, it wouldn't be real asanyhow, you must trust that his life will be moving on and let him have it. And give yourself permission to have it too.

[devilsangel20]

thanks everyone..... i know that he has moved on..... and in a way i have too..... i just haven't let my heart say good-bye yet..... maybe in time it will be able to.... thanks again....

[Bigboper123]

You will get there just keep your chin up..... Squitchal

[Mistress_Ravenshadow]

this is probably going to sound cold but you need to come to the realisation that guilt and regreat are a waste of a persons time..these things stop you from getting on with your life and they stop you from enjoying your life..
in this situation the best way to move on is to get rid of everything this person gave you.. a big spring clean of sorts.. by getting rid of everything from this person you will also get rid of the emotional baggage in the process..

[Xentor]

but i don't know how to forgive myself..... i've tried.... and i can't.... is there anything else i can do?.... i can't go back.....

You don't need to forgive yourself. You made the right choice: the choice that is best for you. I'm sure it was a tough choice to make. You have the right to be selfish. Anyone expecting you to defend or justify that choice is trying to take that ability, to choose what is best for you, away from you.

You can't go back, that much is true. Do you want to go back? I doubt it. Try looking forward. Take a hobby. Get your mind off things. Allow yourself to heal first, before striving to an other relationship.

Good luck!