help of a cosmic nature?

[hamletincarnate]

i could really use some foresight to help me with a big painful issue right now. the guidance would be a blessing. any psychics here interested in helping out a confused and broken heart?

[Amethyst Rose]

Um, do I have to be a psychic to be able to help? Forsight is really pretty useless, considering the future changes with each decision we make. Maybe I can help just by talking?

[hamletincarnate]

yeah .... you make a good point. what has happened is, i had relations with a friend of mine, and he was going to break up with his gf, and then he didn't and we decided that was fine. but then he quit talking to me because we're attracted to each other and he is to fearful to breakup with his gf. he was my best friend and i miss him so much. it is tough because he was the first i trusted after a big bad breakup, and also because we were so close. also, we share a very small campus, which makes matters tough. i see his graffitti every where and it makes my heart leap into deep loss. i feel bad about whining about all this ....i go to a great school and have great classes .... but i'm in pain, and disillusioned now about trusting others. i know it is a lesson, but i'm just trying to navigate through being safe in myself again.

thanks for listening.

[Carickah]

Hugz to you. It is not an easy thing to deal with, but we go on. rejoice in the good that you shared, for that is something that can never be taken away. I know it is hard, but you will find the strength to get over it. Hugz, again.



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[LunaLena162]

Wow, that's a real bummer. I'm so sorry that he can't deal with whatever emotions are going on in his heart. Maybe you should take him aside and calmly discuss what happened between you. No commitments, nothing like that. I think if you two understand each other's point of view, you'll be able to more easily work out your feelings toward each other, plutonic or otherwise.

[hamletincarnate]

yeah .... especially because we were so close and now he doesn't even look at me. he acts like i burned his house down.

i miss my friend but he's been so awful that i don't know if i should even have him in my life. i'm so confused.

[Maikafuiniel]

Sad to say, it wouldn't have worked out between you two anyway. But if it makes you feel any better, it's not going to work out between him and his current gf either.

But don't worry- give it two more years, and you'll find your true love. _inlove_

[Xander67]

yeah .... especially because we were so close and now he doesn't even look at me. he acts like i burned his house down.

i miss my friend but he's been so awful that i don't know if i should even have him in my life. i'm so confused.

If anyone burned his house down it is him! I'm sorry, but I feel that his "I cant be friends with you because ...." is a cop out. If he truly cares about your friendship I would think he could controll his urges... a guy CAN be friends with a girl and it not be physical, even though there are attractions... he is looseing a good friend in my opinion, :awwman:

[Xander67]

Sad to say, it wouldn't have worked out between you two anyway. But if it makes you feel any better, it's not going to work out between him and his current gf either.

But don't worry- give it two more years, and you'll find your true love. _inlove_

I am inclined to agree.... He is letting his body rule his actions. If he loved his gf he would control his passions.. you dont want to be in the middle of it when it goes down, (if he cheats on his gf)

[hamletincarnate]

Maikafuiniel –
you seem to have insight …. this in-two-years guy ….is he who i think he is?

Xander67 –
you’re right. the bottomline with him is that he is afraid of change and growth – he practically told me as much.

.... to both of you .... is it worth talking to him? or is he just going to hurt me more? i miss my friend.

[Maikafuiniel]

I've only been doing impressions for a while, and psychic guidance less. My instinct tells me maybe, my logical sense is saying no. So I checked the cards, and here are the answers I got.

Is her true love who she thinks it is?
1st time: Likely no
2nd time: Likely no
3rd time: Likely no

After reading those cards, I dropped one, which means (if you don't know) that this card needs to be read for some insight into the question. I got Trickster Gnome. He helps us break silly habbits, by showing us how silly our habits are. He brings creative chaos.

So... My help? Have some fun. Go for a guy who'll be good to you. Somebody you can have a good run with- and nevermind the future for now. My insight tells me that you're trying too hard to have a set future, when you still have a little more insane running around to do. Take a leap of faith- you won't find the perfect man when you leap, but you just might fall right on top of him on the way back down.

[hamletincarnate]

i'm drowning.

[Carickah]

i'm drowning.
There's no reason to let yourself feel this way. You can try to talk to him, but he probobly won't listen right now. It's ok, though, for friends to let a little distance to develop for a time.

What you might try doing is writing him a letter, as a friend, telling him that you understand his needs, that he has hurt you as a friend by shunning you, but that you forgive him and welcome him back as a friend. Then give it to him and ask him to keep it, but not to open it for a certain period of time. 3 months, 6 months, maybe a year. Then worry about him no more. When he opens it and reads it, hopefully enough time will have passed where he understands. It's just a thought.


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