Sex, Drugs, an drock and roll

[Bigboper123]

Now that I have your attention read this vvvv

You know sometimes in this world of fast paced technology and demanding jobs we forget things. I myself have forgotten something.....me. I haven't seen or known myself in quite sometime. I thought I had it again, but I was soo wrong. I have become that which others want and expect and it is leading me to do something I don't want to. I have been coaxed into dating again by my parents and her friends. I am not ready for this, but my choices were limited. My mother told me she was worried about me and it was a relief that I started seeing this girl, she also said that she was considering getting me help if I would not have gone out with the girl.

I know that she is not the one, but she is already falling for me. I don't want to hurt her and I don't want to upset my mom. I could tell her I want us to just befriends for a while, but the repercussions would be bad. I being the doormat I am, I actually think it is ok to just stay where I am even though I don't want to just to keep everyone else happy. I know what I want or rather who, but I won't get them.

A little known secret I haven't always been a nice guy. I changed my whole persona because I was tired of being the asshole I was. I guess this whole thing is a waste of space, but atleast I can say be yourself if you want true happiness. As for me I am soo messed up at this point I just can't make heads or tails anymore.

[Raidenmaru]

Ooh, identity crisis. This could be a plot element for a fantastic new series!

It's typical. If one does not take enough opportunity to express self. Now, it's good that you are evaluating the priorities of others and the group above the interests of yourself.
But dating is pointless. I would simply ignore that mother and her "friends" if that's what they feel is beneficial to people (far from it!). Forget any "help" she gets you - you know what's best for yourself.

Messed up? Just say no to social life. Distract yourself with work to fill the void! Recieve business calls at home, skip that vacation and give voluntary overtime till it hurts (or you die an honorable death of karoshi).

[BrigidMoon]

Ooh, identity crisis. This could be a plot element for a fantastic new series!

It's typical. If one does not take enough opportunity to express self. Now, it's good that you are evaluating the priorities of others and the group above the interests of yourself.
But dating is pointless. I would simply ignore that mother and her "friends" if that's what they feel is beneficial to people (far from it!). Forget any "help" she gets you - you know what's best for yourself.

Messed up? Just say no to social life. Distract yourself with work to fill the void! Recieve business calls at home, skip that vacation and give voluntary overtime till it hurts (or you die an honorable death of karoshi).


Raidenmaru has a good point here.

[Philbo]

If I were in your shoes (and I think I was at one time) I would give myself a little retreat (and I did at one time), just to kind of get away from it all while I sort things out through my noodle-noggin. Many older cultures had a great cure for this through ceremonial rites of passage into adulthood, often involving a drug to help boost the spiritual journey. We don't have anything like this in our society these days, so it becomes more difficult for us to discover ourselves. Take some time to get away from it all for a while, preferably by giving yourself a challenging mission of some sort. The hard part is going to be convincing everyone else around you that you need this, as they seem to think that they're the ones who know what's best for you, when in truth, some random dude on the internet is the one who REALLY knows what's best for you. :huh:

[Raidenmaru]

Philbo;
haha, sounds like the ceremonial profession-change quest you do when you hit lvl20 :D

[Aconite]

If you dont like her, get out of it. Before she relaly falls for you and you hurt her more than needed.
Get out of it. Try and stop doing waht others want, and jsut do what you want to do.

[Bigboper123]

I followed your advice ya'll I told her it just wasn't right and that I would rather be friends.

[Earthy]

How did she take it?

[Jenne]

:hugz:

[Bigboper123]

well I suppose sounded sad, but it is better for both of us. Now I just have to wait for Ms.Right she will show up when she and I are ready.