I need help...and my parents don't belive me.

[Sothis*Crowfeather]

I've been diaganoised with clinical depression before, I want to say almost six years ago. I got on Paxil for abour four to six months and it really did help me out. Well for almost a year now I've been feeling the depression creeping back and eatting me away from the outside, and now it seems to be alot worse that it was before. Before I was mostly just dark and gloomy, and had the occasion suicdal tendency. Well now I have a whole lot more of the depression symptoms, I can hardly eat, can hardly sleep, I get so anxious I make myself sick to my stomach even over the simplist matters, my grades are falling rapidly, I am losing intrest in things I normally love, I don't seem to find anything good about anything in my life, and I get upset and self concious over the stupiest things.

I know that it is time for meds again, and I don't have any worries about getting back on them, the trouble lies with my parents. Mostly my mother, she belives that depression is "just a phase" and it's something I will get over. She dosn't think that I need professonal help or medicaine to fix me...well I do! I would know how my body works and I know that this is gone to far. I asked her about it six months ago and I got the "just a phase" answer, and knowing I wouldn't win I left it at that. The first time I got on medication it was only becuse my middle school called her and treatened legal action if she remained in denial. Well now that I am 19 and in college I don't think thats going to work. What wake up call is it going to take now?

I don't want to have to do something horribly dramatic to show her I need help, I just want to talk to her and have her listin to me. How do I do that?

[Silverwolfthorn]

When people dont believe you shock tactics work best. If you burst into tears and say you really want to die to your mum she should shut up and listen. Explain that the meds helped you last time and you want to try them again. Tell her its not just a phase its a clinically recognised illness otherwise anti depressants wouldnt exist. But surely if your 19 you can go to the doctor and get them yourself?

Depression is both an illness and a mental state. Meds can help but sometimes you have to help yourself. You have to force yourself to smile and keep on saying to yourself that life is good. Eventually the front you put on will become reality. Well thats what happened with me.

Blessed be
Silverwolfthorn

[Sothis*Crowfeather]

But surely if your 19 you can go to the doctor and get them yourself?


I really wish I could, this would make things so much easier, but I don't have any income for the moment, nor do i have the slightst clue how insurence or any of that works. I am completly dependant on my parents. :nuhuh:

[blueangel]

Can you ask your doctor to speak to her? She might see the truth if she is told by someone outside the two of you guys. Plus she can hardly argue with a professional, can she? I really hope you get this sorted out before something dramatic forces her to believe you. Stay strong and get the doctor on your side. Best wishes x

[Jenett]

Does your college have medical care or mental health care? Even if they can't do the prescription for you, they can probably explain how insurance works for you, what your options are, and can help you talk to your parents at the very least.

If you don't have access to something like that, do you have an academic advisor or dorm advisor (if you live at school), or someone else who can help you with your parents?

[wintermagick]

I've had this problem before in my life too - oh, wait... WE HAVE THE SAME SET OF PARENTS. The only thing I can think of is next time you have a dr. appointment for your asthma or something, also bring up with the dr that you are having these problems again and that you have a history of them. (Surely Ma stays out in the waiting room at this point, and if she doesn't please ask that she does this time and just don't even mention anything to Mom until you've already spoken to the doctor). But instead of daily pills like Paxil or Celexa, a "take as needed" pill like Xanax seems to do better for me, and may seem a little less "non-threatening" to the folks.

[bardruari]

CHild ... please do not do anything dramatic... you came here to seek a way because the ways that come to you are not right. If you do something dramatic, you will further alienate yourself from your family, and create a personna that they will deal with in place of you. Better to seek an aly at your school, or church if such you have; someone with whom your mother has no reason to question their aims. It is hard for Moms to acceept that their is a problem that they cannot help you with and yet the help you plead for is the one thing they cannot give..understanding. We are here to listen... to share... to offer an outlet, if need be, but please find someone in your world to speak with your mother in her own world. Hugs....s..
Ruari


I've been diaganoised with clinical depression before, I want to say almost six years ago. I got on Paxil for abour four to six months and it really did help me out. Well for almost a year now I've been feeling the depression creeping back and eatting me away from the outside, and now it seems to be alot worse that it was before. Before I was mostly just dark and gloomy, and had the occasion suicdal tendency. Well now I have a whole lot more of the depression symptoms, I can hardly eat, can hardly sleep, I get so anxious I make myself sick to my stomach even over the simplist matters, my grades are falling rapidly, I am losing intrest in things I normally love, I don't seem to find anything good about anything in my life, and I get upset and self concious over the stupiest things.

I know that it is time for meds again, and I don't have any worries about getting back on them, the trouble lies with my parents. Mostly my mother, she belives that depression is "just a phase" and it's something I will get over. She dosn't think that I need professonal help or medicaine to fix me...well I do! I would know how my body works and I know that this is gone to far. I asked her about it six months ago and I got the "just a phase" answer, and knowing I wouldn't win I left it at that. The first time I got on medication it was only becuse my middle school called her and treatened legal action if she remained in denial. Well now that I am 19 and in college I don't think thats going to work. What wake up call is it going to take now?

I don't want to have to do something horribly dramatic to show her I need help, I just want to talk to her and have her listin to me. How do I do that?

[polarcat]

Are you in U.S.? If so, you don't need your mother's permission to get help, even if you are on her insurance. You are considered an adult. If you are suicidal or thinking of harming yourself in any way, go to the nearest emergency room. That is the quickest and easiest way to get the help you need and they will help you regardless of ability to pay or parental consent. You have to take care of you. I understand. I'm bipolar. I've wanted to die for 2/3s my life. My mother wouldn't listen either. She doesn't understand clinical depression is a serious illness that you can't wish or smile away. If you're not suicidal, go to your college's med center if they have one. Your school might have a counselling center you can go to and they can get you more help. If your school offers a psychology degree, go to one of the psychology professors (they'll talk to you even if that's not your major) and ask them where you can go, explain your situation. Is there a United Way near you? They're another source. Go to your family doctor; you can get antidepressants there. Since this is your second episode of major depression (at least), you really should consider therapy in addition to meds. Maybe a little down the road your mom would be willing to come with you to therapy and your therapist could help you explain to her what you're experiencing. Hang in there and get the help. If you don't, it's going to take longer for the depression to go away and you're increasing the chances it'll come back some day. Good luck!