Do opposites attract ??

[Celeste]

Hey i was just wondering if you think the saying "opposites attract" is true ??

Celeste

[Myst]

Yes obviously some people are attracted to their opposites and some are not.

Relationships are unique and yes sometimes they adhere to that adage. For instance my very independent, strong friend chose a very dependent and shy husband. But then me and my fiance are both quite similar - down to the opinions of users, interests, attitudes, and even astrological signs. We have different opinions on some things (isn't that what makes a relationship interesting?) but for the most part we are very alike.

[random]

I am usually attracted to opposites... My past relatioships always involved someone who was VERY different from me... My best friends are also VERY different from me... It doesn't have to be that way, though. I met someone who was almost exactaly like me, I found I didn't like that person very much, as he didn't like me... So, I guess it worked out... I probably couldn't stand living with/dating/being friends with someone who is like me...

[random]

& WELCOME TO MW....

[Earth Walker]

Ariel is passive, while I am assertive....but other than that, we
are pretty much alike. :)

[pinguino]

Hummmmm.... My ex and I were VERY much alike. Infact we still get along very well. So for 5 years opposites did not attract.

I'm still of that school. I really don't want someone that doesn't like to do the same things as I do... Where's the fun in that?! It's important that both parties are the same on many levels.... Especailly when together for a long time.

Not to say that couples should be clones of one another. It's defentaly a plus to have one person complament the other. One's a little shy the other's a little social, for example. Little personality differences are not only good but inevitable. (try living with someone you love.....you'll see what I mean) Major personality differences-- 100% opposites I just don't see working.

The big things that couples fight about are money and sex. Both have to be on the same level or at least agree to parameters on these issuses. In the long run not having issues like these dealt with tear people apart. So major domestic differences-- money, politics, sex, kids, etc. would no dout drive couples away from eachother.

The way I see it is that couples need a good combonation of both personality and domestic traits to get along well. Some differences are good and healthy, but others just eat up the relationship. Last of all they need just to have things in common.

[Shadowulfe]

Im not attracted to opposites myself.....i found a "mirror Image" of myself in my fiance...guess that is one of the ways i live up to my zodiac sign......Leo

[Twilight Garden]

This is obviously one of those "depends on the person" kind of questions. I think the saying can be true. I am about to marry my opposite who is just like me. He has many qualities that on the surface make him appear to be my opposite. But underneath it all we are actually very similar. We are actually more alike and compatible than anyone he or I have ever been in a relationship with.

An example...
...of how we're opposite: He has a very stable job in computers, makes great money, and knows how to balance the check book. I am a house-(soon to be)-wife, never made over $10/hour in my life, and am horrible at trying to keep up with where all the money is spent.
...of how we are similar: We have the same beliefs in how a family household should run, similar family backgrounds, strong similar "religious" beliefs, and even how we argue is the same.

I could go on forever on our differences and similarities, but I think this is a good example of how: on the surface we are opposites, in the deeper things we are very similar.

[Wyrdsister]

Magnetically speaking? Sure... :D

Wyrdsister
ever the physics geek

[MammaStar]

Eshallet and I are of the similar-but-different catagory. He's shy, as you can tell, he posted like 2x here! I'm loud, kind of obnoxious sometimes & love to go out w/my friends and have a good time. Eshallet, is quiet, at first. You have to get to know him before he starts talking. :D Plus, I'm a former traveler. I'm a Deadhead and toured for a REALLY long time, he hasn't seen much of the U.S. or anywhere for that matter.

But, we come from the same kind of background. In fact, Eshallet & his twin brother were raised by their Mom alone, the same as I am (or was) raising my son. He's very understanding, kind. Will bend over backwards for a friend. I'm fiercely loyal to my friends and family. No one messes with them & gets away with it. :evilway:

We both have the same twisted sick sense of humor, though sometimes I wonder if he's just a tiny bit more evil than I am:devil: We both love lots of the same stuff. RPG's, computers, music (basics the same), movies.

But my Ex, i was total opposite of. He never wanted to go anywhere. Very selfish. Only cared about himself. It was sad, and I'm glad I found Eshallet after. Our 2 year anniversary is coming (dating) on Nov. 1. It's been the best 2 years not only for me, but for my son too. He loves Eshallet just as much as I do.

[LadyWinter]

I dont know about in relationships but I am total opposites with my friends....I am very outrageous in what I do and say and hold with no convention....My two best friends are Catholic, very settled in life and very calm and quiet...and I love them for it...They keep me grounded and centered and try to help me mature....hopeless cause though it is.....I am a free spirit...(as free as you can be as a law school student)

Slan Astar
Winter

[Xander67]

Opposites, sure they attract...
its nice to have common ground though,

i think haveing someone exactly like you wouldnt be healthy, unless of course you were incapable of respecting someone as an individual and loveing them for who they are :)

[Lavender]

I think no matter how much of an opposite you & your mate are, there are common grounds. I think, deep down, the things that are important are similar.

[willowfairy]

i agree with wildchild.

as far as guys go: there is no guy like me. :mad: there is hardly and intelligent mind in my small school worth ~liking~.