Empath desires support

[fallingwater]

I am strongly empathic. I am looking for others who share this gift/curse to talk to.

Please don't suggest ways of grounding or centering to keep me from plugging in to others. I have tried them all and none of it works.

I was just wanting to chat with others who share extreme psychic/empathic abilities.

Thanks...sometimes it's lonely trying to talk to others who don't understand what I go through.

[Luminessence]

I'm an empath as well, and I also have trouble keeping from taking on other people's emotions. I think there are a lot of other empaths on these forums, as well, so you'll probably have no problem finding others.

[Meadhbh]

Welcome to the club, it can be hard at first remembering that other peoples emotions are not your own. Given time you'll adjust to the fact that people can alot more emotionally complex than you thought they were.

[jcldragon]

Welcome to the club, it can be hard at first remembering that other peoples emotions are not your own. Given time you'll adjust to the fact that people can alot more emotionally complex than you thought they were.That does appear to be the Key to it... a strong sense of self, which will allow you to distinguish between your own emotions, & other people's.

When my empathic abilities first kicked in big time, I was also into Channeling. The result was that I began feeling all of the emotions of people all over the city of Boston, all at once. Luckily, I was able to use my last thread of sanity, & relocate myself to a small town in rural Mass on the NH border. Even then, it took me a few years to chill out...

[Xentor]

Check out the Empathic Bunker in Hot Topics of Just Talk.

[KEishin]

There are many of us on here . . . chat us up in the Bunker.

[fallingwater]

I also take on others physical symptoms. I was a massage therapist for only 4 months and had to quit because the aches, pains, sore throats and headaches of my clients would become my own. They would leave feeling great and I would have their sickness.

If I take my neighbor who has alzteimers grocery shopping for the afternoon I come home for the rest of the night with the same symptoms. I forget things and feel zonked out. This stuff is real.

I can tune in so completely I merge with another. Sometimes I have to stay in my house for 3 days and just rest, meditate and regroup...cleanse myself.

This tendancy is getting stronger and stronger...

[BrigidMoon]

Definitely plenty of us on the empathic bunker. :) I feel the same pains as you do too with other people and sickness.

It's okay you're not alone!

[Meadhbh]

As do I which is really bad since I devote some of my time to the healing arts. I've found that if I remain detached it can be helpful when I'm around a sick person. I use it as a back up for what the person is telling, and looks like ect.

[~*Ginger*~]

:wave:

Now lets go find the bunker...

[AstralMagick]

I am an empath and it's very tiring at times...

[BelovedDru]

I too am extremely empathic. But I try to consider it a gift than a curse...Unless someone I love is in pain or in deep conflict and I can't help them...that's when it becomes a curse...

Sorry for the dramatic answer...just trying to say I know.

[PoisonIvy]

Welcome to the party! :achug: I got hit really hard the other day buy a girl at work! Not physically! She was so afraid that she was gonna get fired and for some unknown reason she decided that I was the only person that she could talk to about it. She started crying and said that she was sorry and that she hadn't cried infront of anyone else and asked me not to tell anyone about it. I told her that I wouldn't and as she went on with her story and started crying more wouldn't ya know....I felt her frustration and sadness and then it was all over for me. I started crying and I wanted to hug her to ease her pain a little,but ya can't just up and hug someone at work. I felt a lot better after she left work.

[Meadhbh]

Your right the fact that you know a person is upset can be as bad as anything. I hate when you know somethings bothering a person and they want to keep quiet about it. I for one want to help them, but like you said it would be plain odd to go up to some one out of the blue and give them a hug, however tempting it may be.

[DracoJesi]

well i am to, and know you don't want to hear this but you kind of just have to deal with it, but you could try shielding, but that only works to so well :rotfl:

don't worry though, im shure you will learn to control them, I don't think you'd have them if you couldn't, well id hope not :)

theres no quick fix or anything although meditation helps as well as various other ways of relaxation, and i find it realy annoying that sense their not technically your emotions, you cant always deal with them like their your own (if anyone knows how, feel free to let me know :) )

if you ever need someone to talk to im always here :)

[DracoJesi]

Your right the fact that you know a person is upset can be as bad as anything. I hate when you know somethings bothering a person and they want to keep quiet about it. I for one want to help them, but like you said it would be plain odd to go up to some one out of the blue and give them a hug, however tempting it may be.

yeah and usualy when i know someones depressed or somthing and i try to talk to them about it, they ignore me , so much for trying to help :rotfl: allthough i suppose it would be a little unsettleing if someone knew exactly what you where feeling so I dunno, I try to not talk unless I know their realy feeling down

[jcldragon]

I also take on others physical symptoms. I was a massage therapist for only 4 months and had to quit because the aches, pains, sore throats and headaches of my clients would become my own. They would leave feeling great and I would have their sickness.

If I take my neighbor who has alzteimers grocery shopping for the afternoon I come home for the rest of the night with the same symptoms. I forget things and feel zonked out. This stuff is real.

I can tune in so completely I merge with another. Sometimes I have to stay in my house for 3 days and just rest, meditate and regroup...cleanse myself.

This tendancy is getting stronger and stronger...That level of attunement affords a great opportunity. The trick is to not allow such insight into the patient's condition to infect you. What you must consciously do instead, is to place the consciousness of what healing processes need to be initiated into the patient. By getting those vibrations into the patient, and getting the patient to consciously maintain them themselves, you complete the 2nd half of the process, and healing will commense at a rapid pace. This should also prevent the "blow back" of taking on your patient's condition.

[DracoJesi]

That does appear to be the Key to it... a strong sense of self, which will allow you to distinguish between your own emotions, & other people's.

When my empathic abilities first kicked in big time, I was also into Channeling. The result was that I began feeling all of the emotions of people all over the city of Boston, all at once. Luckily, I was able to use my last thread of sanity, & relocate myself to a small town in rural Mass on the NH border. Even then, it took me a few years to chill out...


everyone in boston? thats got to be hard, i dont think i could deal with that i mean so many people, what was it like if you dont mind me asking, was it just like feeling someones emotions just multplied or does it feel different?

[Teresa]

Looks like you are in the same boat with alot of us hun! Practice shielding ,but it only works so well .There will be times that You just get overwhelmed but know that You are not alone.:hugz::hugz:

[jcldragon]

everyone in boston? thats got to be hard, i dont think i could deal with that i mean so many people, what was it like if you dont mind me asking, was it just like feeling someones emotions just multplied or does it feel different?A massive amount of Channeling... and that from several hundred thousand people all at once. Luckily the vibrations did manage to average out to the mundane level of people working, and living as people generally do there. There are no shields for this. You have to ride the energy cascade without attaching yourself to anything that is flowing through you. Arrangements were quickly made that allowed me to move out of there. BTW, there are Adepts in Boston. I was friends with one, and the others assisted me through the Spiritual Plane. The Gift of Prophesy comes from this sort of full spectrum attunement.

[leo482]

there seems to be a high number of empaths on this site.Is empathy really such a common ability

[jcldragon]

there seems to be a high number of empaths on this site.Is empathy really such a common abilityAll people have the capacity. Whether they develop it or not, depends upon whether they exercize it. This is a Pagan board, and since Wicca is a part of Paganism, you can expect that there would be a number of people with a working knowledge of Empathic abilities around.

[Aleannah]

I am also an empath...like the others have posted here, it can be both a gift and a curse. Knowing that someone is hurting and you can't help is the hardest. Going up and giving someone a hug out of the blue is not really an option. You just have to learn to shield and filter in order to get through the intense times. I wish you the best of luck with this. BTW - if I had the option to not have this ability, I would choose to keep it, because that's how you gain insight to helping people. :hugz:

[Lunacie]

That level of attunement affords a great opportunity. The trick is to not allow such insight into the patient's condition to infect you. What you must consciously do instead, is to place the consciousness of what healing processes need to be initiated into the patient. By getting those vibrations into the patient, and getting the patient to consciously maintain them themselves, you complete the 2nd half of the process, and healing will commense at a rapid pace. This should also prevent the "blow back" of taking on your patient's condition.

Ah - good point.

What I finally began doing that works much better than shielding was to simply become aware when I was picking up feelings that I hadn't felt just a few minutes before, realizing that they weren't mine, and I don't have to hold onto them. I make a small gesture with my hand holding it right at gut level, pushing the other energy away or rejecting it with the palm of my hand turned outward, then turning my palm in toward my gut (my center) and curling it inwards. Basically I'm saying "That is your energy, this is my energy."

[jcldragon]

I am also an empath...like the others have posted here, it can be both a gift and a curse. Knowing that someone is hurting and you can't help is the hardest. Going up and giving someone a hug out of the blue is not really an option. You just have to learn to shield and filter in order to get through the intense times. I wish you the best of luck with this. BTW - if I had the option to not have this ability, I would choose to keep it, because that's how you gain insight to helping people. :hugz:Empathy is also great for spotting scammers. You can be gone before they even knew you were there....

[fallingwater]

You guys are awesome!!!

I feel so connected to you...it's exactly how it is for me!

Hey guess what? I went to a healing class for empaths two weeks ago and I learned how to 'patch my aura,' how to fan myself with smoke the smoke of a Peruvian herb stick that clears the aura, how to say to myself...I am Julia, I am here in my body, I am grounded in the earth, I send my roots down, anything that is not mine may now leave.

BUT...the coolest thing is my Boji stone. It keeps me from feeling stuff that's not mine. I don't get as sensitive and irritable when I have it on me, which is most of the time. I don't know where you get them, I bought mine at the class afterwards.

We did an experiment having a partner get into our physical space with and without the stone in our hands. Our eyes were closed. It was amazing how I felt my energy aura tighten around myself. The other person felt it too.

Thanks everyone for all your help. The techniques DO work when I actually DO them!!!

[Teresa]

You guys are awesome!!!

I feel so connected to you...it's exactly how it is for me!

Hey guess what? I went to a healing class for empaths two weeks ago and I learned how to 'patch my aura,' how to fan myself with smoke the smoke of a Peruvian herb stick that clears the aura, how to say to myself...I am Julia, I am here in my body, I am grounded in the earth, I send my roots down, anything that is not mine may now leave.

BUT...the coolest thing is my Boji stone. It keeps me from feeling stuff that's not mine. I don't get as sensitive and irritable when I have it on me, which is most of the time. I don't know where you get them, I bought mine at the class afterwards.

We did an experiment having a partner get into our physical space with and without the stone in our hands. Our eyes were closed. It was amazing how I felt my energy aura tighten around myself. The other person felt it too.

Thanks everyone for all your help. The techniques DO work when I actually DO them!!!
Thats great ! I am glad you are learning these things they will help greatly! I used to be very bad about taking on other people's illnesses. It doesn't happen as frequently now as I am now more aware of things. :hugz: