Hi mom, I'm a witch!

[Pheonix]

Merry meet all

If their is already a thread on this please direct me to it. I thought i would ask because i know their alot of "out of the closet" pagans here. How did you break it to your parents. I'm 18 with a husband and 2 children and it's just occured to me that my lovely 2 your might blurt out any day that his mommy is witch! My mother is a baptist who belives anything not baptist or catholic is following satan's path. She already thinks I'm going to hell because I don't go to chuch and feels it's her god given duty to try and brainwash me into going by playing hymns and lecturing me everytime I see her. I love her dearly and I don't want to lose her but I also could never give up my path, please help.

[Xander67]

I am sure that there has to be something in here I will do a search... I wish you all the love and luck with this, it is not easy to try to get ppl that believe their way is the only way, to respect your beliefs, especially when you are talking bout a family member..

[Xander67]

I found 2

http://www.mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=70&perpage=15&pagenumber=1


http://www.mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=4032&highlight=telling+your+parents+you+are+pagan

[Pheonix]

Merry meet

Thank you so much! You have no idea how much this means to me.

Brightest blessing,
Pheonix

[Xander67]

NO, but I wish I could have had someone show me this a year ago ;)

I wish you all the best in this matter and I pray that the goddess infuse you with the courage to stand firm and that she give you the right words to say to let your family know you are still thier lil girl...but that they have to respect your faith as you respect theirs
Brightest Blessings and good luck

[Myst]

I don't remember if I answered your question in another thread already. For me, I just started leaving Pagan and occult books out, or read them in front of my parents. When my parents asked about it I just calmly told them the truth, and we ended up having some great discussions about it.

Tho it should be pointed out that my parents raised me and my brother such that we should find our own path anyway, and have always been supportive in that. When I did go to church it was of my own choice, they never forced me to. If you parents are a little more strict or "church going" then you may have to tread with care. Tell them yourself, don't let your child, because if you don't they will think you were hiding it. Also, you don't have to just blurt it out one day, maybe let them seeing you wearing a nice new hematite necklace or something and when they ask about it tell them how you like to believe it helps ground you. When they ask more questions don't be afraid to at first use words such as "tree hugger", "neopagan", or "new age" - people don't associate these things with Satanism. Then you can let them know how your beliefs are that men and woman are equal, that God is both man and woman, that you shouldn't harm people, etc.

I hope that's some help.

[Pheonix]

Thanks you guys I geuss there is really no way to do this easily. I'll just have to work up the courage.

[Xander67]

well, I think if you look at what Myst said, about leaving books around, and then perhaps haveing a general discussion about it, sorta easeing into it, but please bear in mind how your family will take it, most likely it may come to them as a shock and thier intial reaction would be one that is either irrational, and then after they have time to think about it, they may not be as emotional about it.... but whatever happens, we are all here for you!

[Dagda Moon~Lily]

I have a close friend that is uncomfortable with my choice of religion. So, recently, I printed off this page and gave it to her; just to give her an idea of my beliefs. You never know....it my ease some fears. ;)

http://www.thetoplinks.com/craftchristvswicca.htm (Thank you Silent Whisper, for posting this!)

:D

[Ball-Bhreac Ròn]

Great page! :D

[bansidhe]

yup, kewl page! i wish id had all this stuf a year or two ago as well! growing up in northern ireland with a strict protestant family, and living with a very strict presbyterian grandmother...*shudder* never again. but i had to do it, cos i was tired of lying and its hard going to church four times a week knowing that you dont wanna be there and theres other things that need to be done. sure, i ve got a great background in the bible but im sure theres a better way to get that!
i wrote a letter and gave it to her before i went to skool, i felt i could use my words more carefully and it gave me the day to plan a debate, organise alternate living arrangements and let gangan and the family cool down! gangans dead now, but ive got a feeling that where eva she is shes watching me, juss waiting for the opportunity to give me a smack on the ass for not listening to her! :) good luck either way, and stand strong in the knowledge that we re all here for ya!!!
take care and brightest blessings,
bans. :bubbles:

[Methanespirit]

Phoenix: It appears that many of you are in a "no-win" situation when it comes to an association with a church. According to Christian Theology: "by grace (God's unmerited favor) are you saved (from eternal punishement because of our ungodly nature) through faith (a total reliance on Christ Jesus, our sin payment for one's salvation) not of works ( benevolenct deeds or going to church), unless anyone should boast" (before God, about saving themeselves). Is it any wonder that many of those who have left the Church have done so because of an imposed legalistic necessity to attend (which is contrary to all Christian theological principles) And then, when they do not attend, then they incur the condemnation of their peers! Shame on those "Christians"!
Just a thought.........hugs .........Methane.

[Siren]

It wasn't an issue...*phew*....i thought it would've been.....

Although i haven't been Christian for a while now....the fact that i am pagan came up with my sister's fiance's parents.....to our family too....it's strange how things happen.....

My parents may have taken it better since my sis's fiance's parents really really don't like the fact that my sis is a witch....and then it was easy for me to say "i am too"...*grin*...i guess timing was right or something.....

But, my mother is trying to hide it from the rest of my family...*grin*....well, my uncle knows...lol,....and my aunt is a witch, which is well known throughout our family ......

anyway, the only place i am "in the closet" is at the CHristian organization i am working at *grin*...which deals with social services....it's one of those things you don't bring up....but it's a great organization and these people celebrate their God the same way i celebrate my gods and goddesses....through joy and happiness and helping others.....so it works out well....i'm just lucky i guess....

Blessings,

Siren

[Socharis]

When i told my family i just went to then and said, this is what i am, then gave them a simple book that explains Paganism very well, they didnt have a problem after readng it :thumbsup:

[Starlight]

I totally blew my mom out of the water. She kept asking me if i would come to church with her and one day I just blurted out "MOM I don't believe in that same stuff any more!!!!!" .......It started!
I wish you the best of luck Phoenix! I know how dificult mothers can be on this topic!

[Socharis]

Originally posted by Starlight
I totally blew my mom out of the water. She kept asking me if i would come to church with her and one day I just blurted out "MOM I don't believe in that same stuff any more!!!!!" .......It started!
I wish you the best of luck Phoenix! I know how dificult mothers can be on this topic!

then what happened???

[Pheonix]

Hi guys, sorry i've been away for so long but life has been very busy. I'm still working up the courage to tell her. (and might be for awhile) but I appreciate all the help and support and even if there is no easy answer at least i know I'm not alone! Thank you guys so much!

[Starlight]

Originally posted by Socharis


then what happened???

well she stared at me for about 5 minutes then she said "we're going to have along talk when I come back from church" but for a long while after that (days) she just acted like she forgot until I cornered her and sat her down and made her read selected pieces from the book I had bought! Now she's still kinda edgey but she's dealing because of the wonderful mother she is.

[Illuminatus]

Originally posted by Starlight


well she stared at me for about 5 minutes then she said "we're going to have along talk when I come back from church" but for a long while after that (days) she just acted like she forgot until I cornered her and sat her down and made her read selected pieces from the book I had bought! Now she's still kinda edgey but she's dealing because of the wonderful mother she is.

Now's the best time to take her out with those Hecateans that hang out down in the old abandoned warehouse by the wharf and introduce her to the wonderful world of animal sacrafice!!!

I'M KIDDING!!!!!!!!

- Ill

[Starlight]

Originally posted by Illuminatus


Now's the best time to take her out with those Hecateans that hang out down in the old abandoned warehouse by the wharf and introduce her to the wonderful world of animal sacrafice!!!

I'M KIDDING!!!!!!!!

- Ill

Before all that I don't think she knew the difference between a vampire and witch! :lol: