Energy for SO to not quit so soon

[bladeraven]

Al Franken:
Mistakes are a part of being human. Appreciate your mistakes for what they are: precious life lessons that can only be learned the hard way. Unless it's a fatal mistake, which, at least, others can learn from. :sadeyes:

While at work there was a derailment...no one was hurt and it was empty cars out in the railroad yard..but SO is taking it pretty hard...they have him training on field so he can learn from an employee's perspective what it is like and how to handle the situation...trouble is that he is so so so nervous and a perfectionist so he doesn't take making mistakes easily (plus he's ex Marine..*Semper Fi*)...

Please send him some positive energies that he realizes to err is human....I talk to his manager/boss/friend after he called and they were...look we know it was an honest mistake...we've done it ourselves and he needs to just take it easy...but SO txt/call me as soon as it happen and told me he was quitting and coming back to Texas...OMG...I hate to think what he would have done if he had tripped....

I told him..you do that..and it says a lot about your lack of character...people make mistakes..he's not God..and that's how he is supposed to learn..right now..I don't if he is on his way back or what...he just finished an interview Tuesday and his boss told me, he impressed everyone and that not only is he a strong candidate but that when he gets the job..he's looking at 60-75K initially.....

So basically SO is about to really screw up because he's not thinking and is dealing with wounded pride because he is supposed to "know everything"...the guy giving him directions screwed up on the call and is the one in trouble..not SO..but SO has it set he should have known.... :geez:

They were working at 1:20 in the morning and those tracks are dark and last I check...he can't see in the dark.......sigh...just worry about him and his boss is freaking out...even the VP had called SO saying...this isn't a legit reason to quit....and felt SO needs to learn patience..he can't have everything at once.......

Please send him energy that he uses this as a learning experience..he's always been impeteous and quick to do things and impatient...I feel Karma is teaching him..he can't live life all in one day....

[melantha rose]

Positive energy sent. I sure hope he does not quit this dream job. I know what you mean about the mentality of an ex-marine. A dear cousin ("little brother") of mine is an ex-marine turned cop/detective. You want to talk about being a perfectionist! He has a reputation where he lives for being an asshole. It's just that he is full of pride and hates to be wrong in anything. But, a good thing about being a marine is it makes you a tough SOB, with almost no fear of death or anything else physical. The bad thing is, it makes you lose the ability to be vulnerable and to handle emotions, and that can be dangerous here in the real world. I wish you well in loving your man, bladeraven. You are a hell of a woman. :hugz: :hugz:

[bladeraven]

lol...don't feel like I'm doing much and just aggravating the situation...tried calling SO and even txt him so he's not answering...yeah on pins and needles now...hoped his boss made him just go back to the apatrment they are sharing and sleep it off.

I even told his boss..what can I do..it was 3:30 in the morning my time I got the call and I'm just a mess at the moment..I quit my job this past monday to prep for the move out there and now I'm wondering if he's on the road to run away from wounded pride...

Melantha you hit it on the nose about the ex-marine...they are prepped for life on the combat field but it doesn't work in the real world...a lot of people including myself have seen his a donkey's butt but it's part of their training at the same time...it just doesn't translate well in the real world. I had even thought maybe he was bipolar..but more and more ...I think more and more it's just the fact that Marines are a special breed in a way and takes a certain mentality to be in it...they are for people who are over-acheievers and perfectionists...it goes back...it's great for combat but real world..people see them as jerks and donkey's butt..

Sigh...I'm sick with worry now...His boss was basically...he (SO) needs to get an apartment, you hurry and move here and SO just needs a normal life outside of work to ground himself...even his boss whose sharing an apartment with SO told me that he thought SO was a donkey's butt sometimes but mostly because he takes things out of proportion...His boss reveal to me that he put SO in this position on purpose to ground him and help him learn to see things from an employee's perspective and went...I wouldn't have had your SO move out here to California for me if I didn't think he was the best of the best but even the best has to learn to fall too...

So ..my SO needs to wake up and realize he has the golden ring here...and a hell of a boss who wants him to succeed....I told his boss...I will break up with SO and disappear if that is the only way to get SO to wake up to the opportunity he has at hand..his boss was, "don't do that don't do that"...but I told him...honestly...if this is the only way I can see SO succeed at this job, I will do it...I love him and think he is an idiot to walk away...I much rather live a million miles apart and see him succeed then have him come home pending an interview that went great and gave him the dream job he is wanting just because someone else screwed up and made SO realized he was human...

[melantha rose]

:hugz: Like I said, you're a hell of a woman. :thumbsup: Since you've already quit your job, now you can ride out there and kick his donkey butt into submission! I hope ya here from him soon, to ease your mind. And, I hope he's still there and hasn't left yet. It can be very difficult dealing with a hard-headed man. My husband's not an ex-marine, but he acts like just like one (he's a perfectionist, hates to be proven wrong, and knows it all!). Good luck!! :hugz:

[Aleannah]

calming and rationalizing energies sent :hugz:

[bladeraven]

Thank you..I had done a reading on him some time back and wondering if this is a reflection of last night:

1. What was going on in the past that he needed to remember.

2. What he had to remember about the present

3. What he should think about regarding his current situation.

He got
1. Death

2. ten of wands reversed

3. Seven of Swords


I know he's on the threshold of making a serious mistake and that scares me so so bad

[bladeraven]

Thank you to everyone who took the time to send energy to SO's way..he had to go back to the same place again last night and tonight again and he is still shaken up bad and nervous....sigh

[moria636]

positive energy sent