Breaking it to them...

[powder_tears]

I am soon moving in with my Aunt and Uncle, and I'm not so sure if they'll accept my path or not...So my question is, what would be the best way to say it to them, without offending anyone or getting myself into trouble?

I dont really know a whole lot about my Aunt and Uncle, they're from my moms side of the family, and I've only seen them twice in my life time...

Any suggestions are helpful. Thanks.

[cheddarsox]

Is there a specific reason to start right in discussion religion with them? Is there a reason to automatically bare all specifics of your lifestyle to these people whom you barely know?

I think that maybe just spend time getting to know them, finding out how to fit into their life, help around the house. Let them get to know you etc. Lots of info will begin to flow naturally as you live and work together. Even though they are relatives, that does not automatically mean you owe them an explanation about everything you think and feel on all subjects.

I have come across very few situations in my life where it was neccesssary or appropriate to announce my faith at the beginning of a relationship. In fact, usually, in my culture, that is considered rude behavior, rather pushy and aggressive. Such a personal thing as faith is not discussed with relative strangers.

cheddar

[Evendusk]

I agree. Feel them out first.

[CosmicWhispers]

Ditto. Very good advice!

[thirstforknowledge]

I am soon moving in with my Aunt and Uncle, and I'm not so sure if they'll accept my path or not...So my question is, what would be the best way to say it to them, without offending anyone or getting myself into trouble?

I dont really know a whole lot about my Aunt and Uncle, they're from my moms side of the family, and I've only seen them twice in my life time...

Any suggestions are helpful. Thanks.


If it were me, I wouldn't say anything to them, unless asked. There's no reason to just come out and talk about it, as it is something personal to you, and doesn't really have anything to do with them. If they ask something about religion, don't lie, but I wouldn't bare all, either, at least until you get a better handle on them and who they are.

[Viseux]

Yup!

What they said.

I just thought I would throw my vast influence behind them... LOL!

Blessings,
Viseux

[CzechWoods]

Wll basically I agree.

When they ask you, you can still talk about the path in terms of masking or being non offensive.

You could say, for example, that you see creation as God, for God is in all creation, so you honour the creation, thus you worship god. that when you want to talk to God, you rather go into nature than into man made buildings, and talk to a tree or a water because its originally god work, no translators needed.

this is all true, for pagan ways, and saying it this way will rather impress people about what a good believer you are, and they wont put you that into question

[merlo]

Stick to your guns. If they don't want you setting up alter in their house, that's their perogitive. Other than that, An it harm none...

[ap Dafydd]

Yeah. _Definitely_ keep religion off the agenda for conversation until you know what they're like. If they're in your face about it then you'll know fairly soon because they'll be, sort of, in your face about it and trying to get you to go to church with them or whatever. If they do turn out fundie, I'd probably just say "I'm not into that sort of thing" and leave it at that, dont' get into an argument, do your Paganism out of doors when they're not around, and just keep a vase of flowers or something equally innocuous in you room.

Then make plans to get your own place as soon as practicable!

Conversely you _might_ find out that they're totally laid back about things and are cool about you getting on with your stuff.

gwyn eich byd

Ffred

[powder_tears]

Thank you all for the suggestions. I guess I will not speak to them about it, until confronted. If they bring it up, I shall be happy to explain to them what I'm all about. I dont understand why I didn't think of it myself, but it might be because I didn't want to do anything that would make them upset. Thank you all so much.

Blessings,
Powder_tears

[Teresa]

Thank you all for the suggestions. I guess I will not speak to them about it, until confronted. If they bring it up, I shall be happy to explain to them what I'm all about. I dont understand why I didn't think of it myself, but it might be because I didn't want to do anything that would make them upset. Thank you all so much.

Blessings,
Powder_tears
:fpeace: I am sure you will abide by their wishes if they do not understand as you do not wish to upset them! :hugz: You are thinking clearly and have gotten wonderful advice!