Somebody just club me...

[SimplyStrange]

That's right. Grab the nearest nightstick and beat me over the head with it...

*Sigh*

Sorry, it's just...it's them! My stepmonster...as well as my father...My dad very well knows that I have issues with my stepmom, the woman who waltzed into my life 6 years ago and tried to be my mother, a loving, kind, caring woman who was still there...and still is. And yet, it's as if my opinion matters not. With my father...it seems like he cares sometimes, but more often than not it seems he doesn't. I know I should be happy for him...I mean, if she makes him happy. But sometimes I doubt if she even truly makes him happy...or if he's just too insecure to live alone. I can't stand her...I hate everything about her. I even hate the fact that I hate her, because it makes me at fault. I'm just the rebellious teenager who hates authority...She's NOT my mother. She has NO authority over me...and it drives her nuts. God...I just hate the fact that everytime I come over here, SOMETHING I say/do is taken offensively to SOMEONE. I'm just one big walking talking slap in the face I suppose. I know she dislikes me. Because she's super strictly Mormon. Her whole way of life, her whole belief system is opposed by me. She is totally against everything I say, everything I do...everything I am...

Of course, my dad helps me none. He actually tried to talk to me. At least, I thought he was trying. I tried, guys, I really tried. I reached out to my dad...and what did he do? He gave me a guilt trip...he tried to make it my fault and that I was just the opposing teenage rebel again...It's driving me nuts! I can't talk, I can't move...I can't even FEEL over here at this house. If I were to be crying, it would never be "Oh my goodness, why are you crying?" or "I'm sorry I made you cry". It's "Why the hell are you crying?" :( Oh well...such is life I suppose...

...Sheesh...Thanks for listening, I guess...

SimplySad

[Lavender]

SS, can I give you a hug instead? I wish I had some words of wisdom to give you to make everything all better but I don't. I can give you my good thoughts & energy. It sounds like a tough situation for everyone involved. Hope it all works out for you.

hugs!

[SimplyStrange]

Of course you can!

*HUGS*

Thanks, Wildchild. It means a lot to me.

[Earth Walker]

Wishing you all the best, and hope it gets better for you.
Sending energy to you, and burning candles. :)

[flar7]

There you go, consider yourself beaten!

Go rent some movies for dear ol stepmom. The ones where the stepdaughter kills the stepmother.(kiddin')

Tell her that at least your book(if you have one) wasnt found out in the boonies behind a rock!(I love that story!)

or you could ignore them and wait for liberation day.

Lots of luck, well wishes, hugs, and fun. Always remember to have fun, cause if you dont then what the hell are you here for?

[MammaStar]

Hey SS. Honey, I soooo know what you are going through. I too have the step-monster from HE**. I wish I could tell you that it could get better. It can really, if she's willing to change, but if she isn't, and I'm guess she's not, it will be hard. I am 31 and still don't get along with her & what's worse, I have to share a house with her!!!! Your's sounds overly religous. Mine, is not only insecure, she's a raging acholic pill popper. I'm not making this up! She drives my Dad nuts!!! He's a recovering alcholic, BTW. I think at one time he did truly love her, heck, he left his family for her, but he's not happy anymore & that hurts more than anything she says or does. I don't like to see my Dad unhappy. I don't like her for her self destructive ways. I hate the fact that I live in the same house with her & my son is exposed to her behavor and that annoys the CR** out of me.

Okay, there's my little rant. SS, here's a hug from one step-child to another. I do my best to grin & bear it most times. I still talk to my Dad when she gets on my last nerve, but like you I wonder if he listens. She probably just sees you as threat to her because of your Dad, which is my theory about me & my bro with my step-monster too. Try to keep your relationship going with your dad and do your best not to let her get to you.

[SimplyStrange]

Thanks guys. And thanks Starlite. The support and understanding really helps...*HUGS TO EVERYONE* I guess this will just take time and lots and lots of sitting back and taking it. It just hurts, you know? The thought that nothing I do or say is right to them...*sigh* Oh well, at least I get to escape every other week to go to my mom's house...I love my mom...

[LadyWinter]

I too had a stepmother from he**....and I tolerated her and my step dad from he** because I knew when I was gone and out of the house this was the person my mom wanted to spend her years with as well as my dad.

Now I am a stepmom myself and I work very hard to be friends with my stepkids and to let them know although I do not want to take the place of their mother...I do LOVE them....and I am very honestly glad that I get to share in their lives......

However there is friction with some of my step children....No I am not your mother but yes you do have to respect me in my house and do the same things I expect of my children.

Good Luck with your stepmom and peaceful energies to you...I feel for you.

Slan Astar,
LadyWinter

[SimplyStrange]

Aww, LadyWinter, fear not. I'm not sitting here bashing all stepmothers. In fact, I've met some AWESOME stepmoms. The thing is, it's not the fact that she is my stepmother that makes me dislike her...It's her. The person she is. That's all.

[Swanspirit]

you have been beat up emotionally enough !!!! as if ANY were allowed!!!!!!!!!!! ONe thing you CAN do is taaah daah LOWER your expectations!!!! that is right......... realise that you are up against a brick wall and find the love you need from your own MOM .....and try to stop expecting the stepmonster to understand................just see her for what she is and ............... try and deal with what you can....... you might have to that with your dad for a WHILE too.........but holdout some hope ...... he might realise someday maybe just not anytime soon ........
In the meantime all the love and hugs you neeeeeedddddd
Swannie

[SimplyStrange]

Well, I don't like looking at someone with hate in my heart. I look at her and think "sheesh, if she hadn't grown up with this overly religious point of view shoved down her throat every waking moment of her life, she might have been neat." I mean, religion is wonderful. It gives people something to live for, and something to die for. Even though she won't see or understand my point of view, I would rather grin and bear it, sit back and take it with sadness and disappointment than stare at her as if she were some evil manifestation of "Satan"...I don't like the feeling of anger in the heart. I know she used to try...sometimes she still does, but her rudeness toward me has made me feel like I don't even matter. So I give them what they want. I don't matter...when I'm there, I'm the last of their worries...still, nothing is good enough. But I try...I know I hate her and it nearly kills me...but I do try to see her as someone with a different point of view who simply has a closed mind than someone I hate...It hurts, but I only have to endure it for 3 more years. I know I'll survive...

Till then, I'll just enjoy the b*tching and happily accept the hugs I'm getting. *accepts hugs*

[bansidhe]

*huggles* this is what me and my parents are like, and i dont even have step-parents! i wish i could tell you some magic word that would get rid of all the friction, but if there is one, i havent found it yet (oh im looking!).
but please dont do what i did and move out, cos trust me, it makes things worse, and i nearly screwed up my education over it. so now im back at home cos i know that only by finishing skool next year will i actually be able to leave and actually survive.
so hang in there hun, i know its hard, but im always here if you want to b*tch, have a huggle, what ever, okies ?!

take care and brightest blessings,
bans. :bubbles: