When you just KNOW

[Psypress]

When I make plans to do something, no matter how enthusiastic I get about an idea - I usually just KNOW whether or not it's going to happen.
I figure this is just common.
This morning, I was approaching the idea of switching to a different position here at work, and even though it's totally feasible, I could tell from the beginning that it won't happen. I went so far as telling my manager that I was interested in the other position and she agreed it would be a good switch.
But, upon telling the two attorneys that I work for, they were very hesitant to let me go. They are a bit too reliant on me. So, now I feel obligation to stay assisting them - and realize that maybe the grass isn't greener on the other side, anyway. I am very appreciated just where I am, so I think now it's not going to happen, even if the option is still open to me.
So, when I was telling my friend that I haven't put too much into the idea, because I just couldn't envision it happening, she seemed confused. Then I was an idiot and said the same to one of my attorneys. I said, "Well, it's just an idea, so don't worry about trying to find my replacement. I just don't envision it happening, but I wanted to approach the idea anyway." He had to ask, "What do you mean, you don't envision it?" I kind of got confused and didn't know how to answer - and ended up rambling like a fool. He totally didn't get it.
Is it common to envision the outcome? Like, if you daydream it in focus, you know it will happen, but if you daydream something and it is all out of focus and blurry, it never comes to be?
Anyway, I'm just a bit embarassed after seeing my friend and my attorney's reaction to my comment about "envisioning" it.
Does this happen for other people?

[Kendrah]

I do it. I usually know if something is going to work out or not. It always frustrates me.

[Luminessence]

I can sense it sometimes, although sometimes I'm wrong. If something is likely to happen, I sort of feel a clear path to it, whereas if it's not likely to happen, I feel a sort of resistance when I try to explore the path... it's hard to explain. It's not really a visual thing for me.

[LadyTrinity]

Yes! All my life.. I will be looking fwd to something fun or exciting and I just know that the plans arent going to work out. I never know the exact reason but I always tell my self.. this time it will be different.... and I should really trust my gut and stop being in denyal :fpatricks

[Ravyn Sylverwyng]

I know this all too well. I try to think that it is going to work out after all, but I know that it won't. It is so frustrating for me most of the time.

[Dio]

I don't believe that seeing an unclear, or blurry picture of future events really means that it won't actually happen. Especially when it comes to personal changes. For me, if I am unable to envision something occuring, it is because I didn't want it enough. It can't happen if I have feelings such as fear, guilt, doubt, or even just plain laziness holding me back. It may be these things that are causing your focus to blur.

The future is never set in stone. You can make any changes you want. The key is whether or not you want it enough.

[Psypress]

I don't believe that seeing an unclear, or blurry picture of future events really means that it won't actually happen. Especially when it comes to personal changes. For me, if I am unable to envision something occuring, it is because I didn't want it enough. It can't happen if I have feelings such as fear, guilt, doubt, or even just plain laziness holding me back. It may be these things that are causing your focus to blur.

The future is never set in stone. You can make any changes you want. The key is whether or not you want it enough.

Even though it doesn't really make sense, it's hard for me not to believe this when it happens, because my intuition and the outcome have been so consistent lately.
I have been very motivated with certain things, but even against my best efforts, situations around me cause them not to happen - but I'm just not surprised at all. And then I always say to myself, well, I knew it wouldn't work out anyway.
And it really only works when it has to do with personal changes. I don't have these intuitions with other people's situations - only my own.
It can be really small things, like plans with a friend for dinner - or with this case, where I have an opportunity to change positions at work, and I just know it won't happen because of all the times this particular sense has proven to me that it won't happen.
I don't know... I'm not claiming to be psychic, or anything - it's just strange. I'm just glad to hear other people know what I'm talking about. You don't know how dumb I felt when my attorney cornered me by saying, "What do you mean...?" I really HAD no explanation. I just assumed he would understand. It was just embarassing.
Besides... I would really like this position. It would mean less demands on me, more flexibility with my schedule and it's a position that is usually granted to employees with special certification or degrees (which I have none).
So despite all the signs that say it's a good thing - I know I won't take it, even after my manager just offered it to me.
Seems completely weird to me right now, but I bet in a while I'll understand and be grateful that I didn't accept the position.

[Dio]

Besides... I would really like this position. It would mean less demands on me, more flexibility with my schedule and it's a position that is usually granted to employees with special certification or degrees (which I have none).
So despite all the signs that say it's a good thing - I know I won't take it, even after my manager just offered it to me.
Seems completely weird to me right now, but I bet in a while I'll understand and be grateful that I didn't accept the position.

The only thing I see holding you back is the fact that you would feel guilty about leaving your current employers high and dry. But regardless of what you choose to do, the universe will make sure you get what you need.

I do understand the embarassment about trying to explain yourself to your fellow employess. Not much good can come of that, other than recognizing the wisdom in knowing when to keep silent :)

[Psypress]

The only thing I see holding you back is the fact that you would feel guilty about leaving your current employers high and dry. But regardless of what you choose to do, the universe will make sure you get what you need.

I do understand the embarassment about trying to explain yourself to your fellow employess. Not much good can come of that, other than recognizing the wisdom in knowing when to keep silent :)

Yes - I am probably just a pushover. :smileroll

And, I have learned an important lesson to edit my communications with co-workers. :shhhh: :lol:

[Tru<3]

i do it all the time...it is kinda frustrating for me and my friends when it comes to plans that we make and i know its not gonna happen...sometimes they get mad at me and say im a pessamist but i dunno...i think its just me...

[bshore]

I do it alot. Very often I know how a person will react to something, and I am very clear when I have to make a decision which one "feels better". Very occationally I will have a totally psychic or deja vu moment where I will know exactly when someone will do something or what someone will say. It's actually been getting stronger as I am trying to ground myself in earth spirituality, too. One of the many positive side effects of the path I'm currently on.

[-Ember]

I think I know what you mean,Psypress. Sometimes there are just things that just lack a sense of reality that other things have. Sometimes it could be a lack of motivation (although the whole cause/effect thing gets blurry...) but sometimes it is over things that my lack of motivation shouldn't have an effect on... like just not being able to get enthused or worried over a lecture or test or class because it just doesn't feel like the pieces can line up for it. And that was always the day it snowed out or the teacher was ill or something. And sometimes there is something that just feels so sure it makes anything that would prevent it have that pointless/non-real feeling.

[SacredWithin]

Well, it happend to me quite a few times, but one example I can really give is one with my first job. It had visited this place about a year before. When I left, I said I definately wanted to work there and that's where I'm going t work. So the second time I went there, I felt I most definately was going to work there, so I asked for an application. it took me a while to fill out the application b/c I was so anxious and nervous. My mom was trying to encourage me to apply to various jobs and get different applications in case I don't get hired at this one. I told her 'no' because I was going to get this one and she need not worry. So I filled out the one application I retrieved and sent it in. A while later I called back asking if they have an opening at the moment and that I sent in my application. The boss asked me to come in the next day for an interview at 9. I live about 10 minutes away from my job. I was home by 9:30 and scheduled to work the next day. My mom couldn't believe it and I almost didn't myself. And I still have that job up to this day and in fact, it's been a little over a year I've been working there.

But in reality, would something lie that be able to happen? I mean, what are the chances? Sometimes I'm able to do similar things for others, but I may not always be accurate. I also don't think that just because we feel the outcome will be negative that we should not go for it. But I would be wary and try to use various forms of judgement such as common sense, you know?

[saffron]

When I make plans to do something, no matter how enthusiastic I get about an idea - I usually just KNOW whether or not it's going to happen.

Anyway, I'm just a bit embarassed after seeing my friend and my attorney's reaction to my comment about "envisioning" it.
Does this happen for other people?

All the time. The trick I've learned (finally! at 36!) is to trust that 'knowing' when it comes. I've ignored it plenty, and suffered the consequences. I guess, when your friends or coworkers respond the way they do, just tap your forhead and jokingly tell them - "I'm telepathetic". :D

Saffron