stress

[Fairywolf]

Stress is a big factor in everyday life. It is also the down fall of us all. But how do you deal with it? How do you change the bad effects of it into the good effects? This is a question I ask everyday of my life.But what I want to know is how and why it effects us the way it does. Like right now I don't have a job and my husband is involved with matters that effect his job (he is a partner in there family trucking company) and all I want to do is go home to my mother (I am from Virginia origanally) and hide. Well most of the time. I don't like having these feelings of usefullessness as I do right now but I know there isn't a lot I can do about it. I guess I just need to relax but I don't know how to. How do we let stress run our lives as much as we do? I have friends who won't do somethings that really need to be done because it stresses them out to bad. What are some of the ways that ya'll deal with stress if it works for you maybe it can work for me. :)

[Dextra]

You have to think of stress as a form of energy. Energy can neither be created or destroyed, but it can change form and can be changed to benefit you. You have to take that stress and use it to your advantage. Instead of pacing the floor and biting your fingernails, you could be looking for ways to make your situation better. If the stress is so great that you can't think straight enough to do that, try grounding. Send that excess energy into the earth and out of yourself so it doesn't drive you batty. Of course this is just me talkng. I try to practice what I preach, but I got pretty upset over my phone bill and proceeded to throw a right good hissy fit. There's a million and one ways to deal with stress. Anyone else got any ideas?

(I also used to go out with my grandpa's shotgun and blast the crap out of a bunch of old cans, but that's just the redneck in me coming out :p)

[Yvonne Belisle]

I am one of those people who gets high on music I just put on some soothing music and blast away the stress. The other thing I do a lot is sit in a darkened bathroom with a candle lit in a bubble bath with a nice scented oil. If I can get my husband to climb in with me I take a scented bath bead squirt the oil in the tub then throw the bead at him and a war ensues!:) Fun!!!

[sherry]

My relaxation comes from time I spend on making me a better person. I found a great book on manifesting. In this book it tells how to completly relax. And this makes you a stronger person emotionally and then you can be strong for everyone else.
Also I use the tanning bed!! It is my 15 minutes for me with headphones and the music I choose. Uninterupted and no phone it is warm and you feel pampered when your done! Because you did something for you and you alone. I felt guilty when I first started it but now I realize if it keeps me from becoming angry and telling others what they really didnot want to know about themselves it is much better.

[Earth Walker]

I live in the poorest area of Canada, the Downtown
Eastside of Vancouver, and stress is an everyday
thing for all in the area.
Yesterday, a man was shot four times, as I was
walking by Oppenheimer Park.
Unfortunately, there are too many handguns here,
by people who resort to using one when angry, etc.




Walk gently with the Goddess. :sunny:

[Amora]

Meditation, Meditation and more Meditation... Ask your guides what could work for you, they know best!

Blessed be and good luck!!!

[Carmelo]

This may sound very primitive, but you might want to ponder it a little while.

I try to handle stress in many ways. I'll just give two.

1.) Go off in a little corner, or somewhere that you won't scare the bejeezus out of anyone, and just yell. Scream! Throw a fit! It may sound childish, but if you watch children and how they handle stress, you'd be surprised at what you see. If you have to, do it in your pillow. It's a type of way to release negative energy.

2.) Punch your bed or pillow. Trust me, thirty seconds wailing away at an inanimate object will not only wear you out, but will make you think about what was stressing you. You may find that you had stressed over nothing, or you may find a way to prevent whatever stressed you from rearing its ugly face again.

Of course, I'm a guy so it may not be the way you want to go. I know that everybody usually says to meditate or light a candle...but you're still human.

[Niamh]

This is a tough situation, and I can understand how stressful this is for you. My husband and I lived in Washington, DC a few years ago. He had a job waiting for him, and I, alas, did not. I sent out resumes by the thousands! Ok, not really, but I sent out tons of them. Once down there, I made phone calls, did tons of job hunting, and it was slow going.
He would leave the house in the morning, and I would clean, cook, unpack between mailing resumes and making phone calls. I felt useless and defeated.
One day I decided, after meditating for awhile, to leave the house from 9 to 5 for a few days straight and let the powers that be do thier thing.
I walked, I window shopped, I ran, I toured the whole city.
I got a job.
Stress is not an easy thing to deal with on a large scale. You have to find a way to make it work for you, not against you, as everyone has been saying. I personally like the screaming into and beating up a pillow....

[Ozymandias]

Not that I'm the best at handling it but I agree to use the energy constructively. I often find meditating does help but when angry I seldom think of it. I've found swimming or running through the woods helps me. I have found.....other methods but only if your mate isn't the cause of the stress. Tantra works wonders.

[lynx]

I used to handle stress by going off by myself and just giving myself time to think. Talking to myself actually helped to get the problem out in the open. I could then look at it from a different point of view.

Now, I just don't know what to do. I can't just go off somewhere with out my two year old. I just moved and don't know anyone really. So, I don't have my mom around anymore to watch him.

I also noticed that I have changed on just about everything that deals with emotions. I used to know what and when I was getting to close to enraged. Now? Not a clue. I could be smiling one minute and raging the next over nothing more than covering your mouth when you caugh. :meanface: For me, that's getting a little out of control.

I don't know anymore.

Could someone tell me what a breakdown feels like and what are the signs.

Lynx

[Ozymandias]

I'd suggest a little soul searching and meditation. Look for some trusted daycares or babysitters and take some time for yourself. If you don't find an outlet you'll only hurt those closest too you. Small consolation Lynx but I hope it helps.

[Niamh]

That sounds like a good idea. Finding time for just you without you family. Everyone needs "me" time. It may seem like you are ignoring your family when you do this or sacrificing time with them when you take a day or two, but really, you'd be sacrificing more by not doing it for yourself!

[Shalem]

OK, then the best way to cope with stres is (according to you) to meditate. What if i can't stop my head from spinning. I use to do martial arts to cope with stress, but I moved and there is nowhere close to my place qhere I can get. According to pharmacist, I'm taking some St-Jhon's Worth, But I still have trouble to handle my-self.

Shalem
What braught us here is not the path that lays before us, but the one laying behind us. (Morpheus)