Problems with my boyfriend....

[emraldshadowcat]

My boyfriend and I had an arguement the other day about me being Wiccan and him being Christian. He feels like my depression is caused by my religion and told him that even Christians can suffer from depression. I respect his choice in beliefs, and even though I don't feel comfortable with it, I go to church with him. I occassionally ask if he would like to take part in any of my rituals, and when he declines, I don't push the issue, because I respect him. But when I don't want to go to church, he gets upset and accuses me of not wanting to spend time with him.
The thing is, I'm happy with my beliefs, and I just wish that he could accept me and not try to make me feel like I'm the one in the wrong. We have had several problems with this and I just don't know what to do. I'm sorry that I'm venting at all of you, but I'm glad I have friends here that will listen and try to help.

Thanks for letting me vent,
Blessed Be,
Emerald ShadowCat

[Radocs]

Well you obviously respect his beliefs... Doesn't seem like he really respects yours though. :eyebrow:

As for Christians having depression: Absolutely. I know more than a few people that suffer from depression (as opposed to enjoying it >_<) who are christian.

[Xander67]

shadow cat,

I feel that respect for a persons individualism is important...and even more important is a common ground spiritually...
I guess what I mean is, being on thesame path is ideal but at least there should be respect for one anothers beliefs and values...

I think the two of you need to have a serious talk, this is a major important issue...

good luck

[Da Witch]

Originally posted by Xander67
shadow cat,

I feel that respect for a persons individualism is important...and even more important is a common ground spiritually...
I guess what I mean is, being on thesame path is ideal but at least there should be respect for one anothers beliefs and values...

I think the two of you need to have a serious talk, this is a major important issue...

good luck


I have to agree with Xander, if the two of you talk and nothing changes then (sorry to say this) it just might be time to part company

[emraldshadowcat]

Thanks you guys, I'm glad that I have you to talk to. I hope it doesnt come down to us having to part company, but if things don't get better, that might be the best answer for the problem.
Thank you all very much for your help!
Blessed Be,
Emerald ShadowCat

[Sita]

Originally posted by Xander67
shadow cat,

I feel that respect for a persons individualism is important...and even more important is a common ground spiritually...
I guess what I mean is, being on thesame path is ideal but at least there should be respect for one anothers beliefs and values...

I think the two of you need to have a serious talk, this is a major important issue...

good luck

I may not be a reletionship expert, but one resiliance day, way back in grade 7, I was stuck in 'healthy relationships'. I agree with Xander.

[Demeter]

Depression is like diabetes, your religion has nothing to do with it. I recently lost my mother to depression, so I hope you don't mind if I say I hope you're getting appropriate help for it.

Regarding the boyfriend, if he doesn't give you the same respect you give him, I'm afraid there will be continuing problems. I've seen a lot of people hurt by religious differences over the years.

[emraldshadowcat]

I am getting proper help for my depression, thanks for your concern. Things are getting better, me and my boyfriend had a long talk and he says he is willing to try and learn and understand. Thank you all so much for your concern and support!