Is it possible?

[greenwitch]

that when you break someone else's heart, you break your own at the same time... and you weren't actually committed to that person, or going out with them or anything... and yet thats the sense that you break the heart?

did that make sense?

[katie727]

do you mean you weren't committed to being w/ that person or that person in general? and its possible to not think you care about someone that much, then when they aren't there any more you realize how much they meant to you and it hurts like crazy.

[greenwitch]

no I mean like... we both liked each other, but we werent together, had talked about getting together, but I told him that I couldn't... because I was still in love with someone else.... and could be for a long time... and that broke his heart... but at the same time it broke mine....

I was wondering if it's possible to do.... cuz damn did that hurt... :wah:

[SilentDreams]

Its possible. You obviously cared enough for him to value his feelings and hurting him(although unintentionally) still hurts you.

[QUEEN OF THE DAMNED]

I understand what you mean GreenWitch. I've done what you are talking about. The pain will go in time.
I think, in hindsight of my own experiences that your heart is breaking for causing the pain....guilt is a very powerful thing...try not to punish yourself too much.

Another thing (from my hindsight again) I got very confused as to whom I did care greatly about, either way in your situation you are going to hurt someone, and it hurt you to hurt someone else. I advise to write down your feelings about this to try to abate confusion over the issue.

I'm here for you :hugz:

[QUEEN OF THE DAMNED]

Oh....I wanted to add: You never miss your water 'til you are dry.

[greenwitch]

the thing is, he's my best friend too. and he was so upset... he was trying so hard not to cry, and he NEVER cries, he hasn't cried since he was five years old, and now he's 16...... and I told him, yeah I think maybe I'll get off the phone... and he said yeah, maybe thats the best idea. and then he hung up.... *holds back tears* it's just so bad... :geez:

[QUEEN OF THE DAMNED]

:hugz: I know it hurts now for both of you but the pain will pass and in time you may be able to resume your friendship. I would advise to give him space for a while though (a month or more).
I sooooo understand where you are at hon :hugz:

[greenwitch]

I just want to curl up in a corner and die...

I hate hurting people to begin with but now this is Brett and it makes it a million times worse...

[QUEEN OF THE DAMNED]

Honey, even though you have hurt him you know it is for the best right? You wouldn't have done it if it wasn't for the greater good (the bigger picture).
:hugz:

[Athena-Nadine]

that when you break someone else's heart, you break your own at the same time... and you weren't actually committed to that person, or going out with them or anything... and yet thats the sense that you break the heart?

did that make sense?

It makes perfect sense. My own heart has been broken every time I've had to hurt someone else, no matter what type of relationship I've had with him/her. Part of it is my slightly empathic nature, and part of it is just that I care too much for people in general not to hurt for them.

[Kalika]

I think its possible. You can care for someone... maybe more than you realize, and hurting them hurts you in return.

[greenwitch]

It makes perfect sense. My own heart has been broken every time I've had to hurt someone else, no matter what type of relationship I've had with him/her. Part of it is my slightly empathic nature, and part of it is just that I care too much for people in general not to hurt for them.

I'm VERY empathic... I swear I felt his heart breaking right in my own chest.... I was trying to do the right thing and not lead him on or anything, just tell him that it wont work because my feelings for someone else haven't left.... and it hurt him so bad... more than I anticipated... :wah2:

[QUEEN OF THE DAMNED]

:hugz:

[greenwitch]

I talked to him today... he seems to be doing alright.... :dontknow:

[Athena-Nadine]

I'm VERY empathic... I swear I felt his heart breaking right in my own chest.... I was trying to do the right thing and not lead him on or anything, just tell him that it wont work because my feelings for someone else haven't left.... and it hurt him so bad... more than I anticipated... :wah2:

_pounce_

[QUEEN OF THE DAMNED]

That's great news! :)

[greenwitch]

*weak smile* still feel bad... it feels like he's trying to act like it's no hard feelings and nothing is wrong... but deep down it still really stings... I can pick up emotions like that *snaps fingers* especially his... I feel so bad.... :sadman:

[QUEEN OF THE DAMNED]

:hugz: You will both feel better in time. In the mean time, have a cookie _cookie_ :boquet: :abbed:

_happydanc And let your hair down. No I didn't put any green stuff in the cookie :woah:

[greenwitch]

:hugz: You will both feel better in time. In the mean time, have a cookie _cookie_ :boquet: :abbed:

_happydanc And let your hair down. No I didn't put any green stuff in the cookie :woah:

hehehe thanks Queen :hugz:

[merlo]

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