grrrrrrr- I'm so STUPID!!!!

[abbyseyes]

Kicking myself, kicking myself, kicking myself! What in the h*%$ is wrong with me?!?! First my closest friend & my "DH" have an affair and now this! For the last few months I thought we were "working things out", trying to stay together. HA! He's been, very slowly and methodically moving his and our most valuable collections and various other things out of the house! RIGHT UNDER MY NOSE!!! And I've been off in la-la land trying to be a better wife the whole time! I know some of you are wondering how I could be oblivious to it. We -I sell antiques & collectables online. Which means my entire house is a warehouse - every room but our bedroom. And we have a unit at a storage facility. Everything is in a constant state of rotation. I do the computer/office related stuff and he does the antique hunting and all the moving & physical stuff. I've noticed over the past week, that alot seems to be going out but nothing coming back into the house. So, tonight while he wasn't home, I started digging around and certain things that weren't supposed to leave the house are gone. -along with some things that I have acquired only this week. What am I going to do? I've got to find a way to get some of that stuff back in here before he realizes I know what he's been up to. That's why I'm here. If anyone has any ideas, I'd much appreciate the input. I stand to lose everything that's worth anything. And the online business is my only income. JEEZ- how could I have been so stupid & blind?!?!
Cat

[Xander67]

I have several options that I can suggest, that are within your legal rights, but I need a "secure place" to send them where you dont have to worry about him seeing the letter...

[Xander67]

nermind ....check your pm

[Starlight]

What an idiot this guy is!!!!! You're not the stupid one ...he is! Would I ever like to tear a piece out of him right now if I were you! Best of luck. I hope everything works out for you alright!
*big hug*

[abbyseyes]

Hi. I wanted to stop in & say thank you for letting me vent. I've cooled off a little since last night -at least I'm thinking rationally. And I know how I need to handle things in the very near future.

Again, thanks for letting me vent. It's a fine line between venting at the right time and blowing up at the wrong time.

Cat

[Xander67]

well thats what we are here for..

[cybele]

You are not stupid. It is not your fault for being taken advantage of. YOU are being the best you are, and someone you gave your best for has been overwhelmed with lust and greed and bad judgement. It is the other party who has been stupid. As much as one tries, you have to leave them (those?) to their decisions and yes, do salvage what you hold as important. Don't blame yourself as "should have been better...( fill in blank)". One can still be a trusting, giving person and not have their best qualities used against them. It is not a weakness on your part but theirs.

As a fortune cookie I had once said, "Give until it hurts, but not until it hurts you." ( "in bed")

.........O.K. I made that up, though it is a good fortune for you. ( the "in bed" is a fortune cookie running joke that I hoped would make you laugh)

Bless,
Cybele

[bansidhe]

hang in there hun!!!
*wonders if she can get over there somehow and maim someone with a food processor...*
its not your fault, so dont you dare go about blaming yourself!!! and vent all you want here...:)

[Faery-Wings]

[QUOTE]Originally posted by cybele
[B]You are not stupid. It is not your fault for being taken advantage of. YOU are being the best you are, and someone you gave your best for has been overwhelmed with lust and greed and bad judgement. It is the other party who has been stupid. As much as one tries, you have to leave them (those?) to their decisions and yes, do salvage what you hold as important. Don't blame yourself as "should have been better...( fill in blank)". One can still be a trusting, giving person and not have their best qualities used against them. It is not a weakness on your part but theirs.

She said it best!

(((HUG)))

As much as it hurts right now, in the long run, it will feel better knowing exactly where you stand with this "man." You will find someone who will love you for you and treat you the way you deserve to be treated. And I hope since he is taking things from your business, you can recoup some of your losses legally. Lots of luck and love to you,

Chris

[Da Witch]

Oh hun, you are not the stupid one............he is the one who never thought you would notice all your stuff going out and none coming in and I am almost positive he does not expect a confrontation. Always give them what they do not expect;)