If you don't click with someone does that make you slutty??

[LadyTrinity]

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[Karma Chameleon]

No, I don't think so. You have nothing to feel bad about in my opinion. Having sex with someone doesn't bind you to someone were you have to stay with them no matter what. In some cases it is best just to cut your losses and move on and doing that doesn't make you a sult, it makes you smart.

[gwendar]

No.
But I'm the type who will not call someone that.
I feel that it is rediculous to try and define someone by the number of sexual partners they've had.

[EponaCapaill]

No, not at all. If no promised were made, then I don't think there is a problem. Its not like you are out being with a differnt guy every other night! Things like that happen, don't worry about it! :bubbles:

[Darakash]

Uh, yur kiddin, right? 3 people in 4 years does NOT a slut make...though I hate that word anyway, it describes, to me a much more promiscuous person than thee! You are a grown woman who made a choice to try something that didnt work...your friend seems a bit of a prude in my eyes.

[QUEEN OF THE DAMNED]

Well if you are then what am I? I was in a two year relationship from age 15 to 17 and when I got out of it I just wanted to have some fun so I arranged with a friend to have 'casual intimacy'. Then that fell through, we both got bored and I had another set up like that. I was picked on all over the small town which I lived in and was branded a slut for ages. I moved towns but keep in touch with some close mates. I couldn't believe it. If the boys did it they were champs, but when I wanted to have a bit of fun after being stuck in a dodgy relationship for 2 years that's not cool.
It's all a load of crap. I've said it a hundred times and I'll say it again: I can never understand why anyone would care who anyone else sleeps with (unless it's cheating), it's none of their business.

You are not a slut Trin! I may have failed your test dismally but I know that much :smile:

Ignore what your friend says.

[GryphonGirl]

This is Nighthawk. The question is.. do YOU think you are a slut?

[Imbrium]

ahhh...well, I'd question your friends defenition of slut. Quite frankly, I'd rather be a slut than stay with a guy I didn't like just because I slept with him. Trust your instincts...if you don't "click" with someone then maybe there's a good reason for it.

[9-2-2]

Frankly, a "slut" does not exist. There's nothing wrong with liking multiple partners, or a line of them, in a casual (or intimate, or purple, or polka-dotted) sexual relationship. Jeez... no offense, but I think your "friend" needs a bit of growing up to do. Does she know that there's more to life than people's retarded social "rules" of acceptance and uniformity??? :huh:

[GryphonGirl]

Nighthawk again
Trin... what I am getting at is.. You judge you. I judge me. I do not judge you, nor should others. Do what you believe in. Follow your heart.

[farm girl]

I am pretty conservative in my thoughts and I definitely do not think you are slutty. Especially based on that. That's completely silly. When I hear slut, I think of someone who is getting it on with a new guy every weekend or something. I wouldn't worry about that obviously, insane comment.

[SS'sBaby]

Okay.. a friend's friend told my friend that I am a slut because I was intimate with one person after my ex and I split. It was one person only.
This was before I met my current boy friend. She says Im a slut because I didnt say with him so therefore Im a user and a hoe. Um. Okay. Ive been with my current bf for 7 months now and before that my ex of almost 3 years. I dont sleep around and I slept with the one guy because I thought he could potentially be something long term but it didnt work out that way.
Am I slutty
Short of hollering at you and telling you "get up you are asleep at the wheel", let me just say this:
The very obvious answer is no.
This "friends friend" apparently has a lot of personal issues. Why is she so concerned that you were with someone and it didn't work out?
And that "gasps in mock horror" that you were intimate with them and it didn't work out?

Sounds like her issues have nothing to do with you being slutty but rather with her being unable to mind her own business and get a life.
THis is her way of making herself look less slutty by default.
*not saying at all that you are slutty but rather that her implication that you are makes it okay that she is not active nor does anyone wish to be active with her*
Most likely she can not really get anyone to look side ways at her let alone date her on a regular basis.....
and saying things of this nature make her appear to others as if she could get someone but chooses instead to crown herself the ice queen of virtue. :wth:

Seriously this chickie needs to find better ways to spend her time than worrying over the fact you have been with three guys in three years.......
:p seriously.
She just needs to tare other people down to build her ownself up and those kind of people are not worth anyone's time.
Let alone listening to what they have to say. :mad:

*hugs*

Ignore the pissant.

[SS'sBaby]

ahhh...well, I'd question your friends defenition of slut. Quite frankly, I'd rather be a slut than stay with a guy I didn't like just because I slept with him. Trust your instincts...if you don't "click" with someone then maybe there's a good reason for it.
YESSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!EXACTLY!!!! :bigblue:

[DarkOrion]

Well to answer your question, I would have to say that whether you are
a 'Slut' or not depends on how you choose to define the word. You could
let other people (such as your friend's friend) place you in that bag. This
is what most people do in life, allowing others to define oneself. I urge you
not to think badly of yourself.

Sexuality and promiscuity have gotten a bad rap from conservative
thinkers since time immemorial. People have become obssessed with
being 'good' and 'bad'. It is better simply to enjoy what intimacies
cross your path then to bind yourself to social conventions of being
a 'good girl'.

As the old chinese Curse says...."May your life be interesting". Would
you rather be thought of as a 'bad girl' or never thougth of at all? And
besides I have gone many more interesting places with so called 'sluts'
than I ever did dating the 'good girls' :smoke:

[9-2-2]

I sometimes pick my nose in traffic to annoy others. I guess, by your friend's logic, I belong in a mental institution over such a menial task. :braindrai

[Sierra]

I would most definately say "no". The point is - do YOU feel comfortable with what you did? If you do, all the more power to you, and if it's not some sort of self-destructive path (which, unfortunately, some people go about by having sex with multiple partners), then what's the problem?

The REAL problem I see with all of this is:
1. How is this person your friend if they're saying these things about you?
2. Why do you care? Why let it affect you?

[SS'sBaby]

This is a friends friend.
Not her friend per say.

[LadyTrinity]

You are not a slut Trin! I may have failed your test dismally but I know that much :smile:

Ignore what your friend says.

Thank you :smileroll

[LadyTrinity]

This is Nighthawk. The question is.. do YOU think you are a slut?


No. I was rather suprized that I was even called one. I never looked at it that way at all :ahhhh:

[Kailen]

I can truly say without the slightest doubt in my mind that you are not a slut. If you were a slut you wouldn't have been able to hold a three year relationship in the first place. Best thing for you to do is raise your right arm, put that middle finger up and tell them where to shove it. Since when was it their place to judge you? Personally, I would say she's jealous.

I have a quote on judging, I will post it here for you to read.

When judging another beings view or path as wrong, stop for a moment. What do they see your path as? You think their path is wrong. Would they walk their path if it was not right in their mind? Would they not, then, see your path as wrong? But yet, they do not denounce your path as wrong, for they have accepted that your path is right for you. Just as their path is right for them. So then, when tempted to judge, think. Then accept what is. For what is, is neither right or wrong. It just is. - David Allain aka Kailen

[ravenmyst]

ahh, the double standard. NO not a slut. shoot my ex called me a slut and frigid in the same breathe, just trying to get under my skin, neither are true.

[Æon Flux]

No, you're not slutty. But then again I could be considtered a slut due to my adventures recently, so I might not be the best person to voice my opinion, but I still think it's wrong.
No one should be called a slut. The word shouldn't even have been invented.
That's my opinion anyway.

[Kyra Kismet]

Im currently sleeping with a guy cause I know it won't go anywhere, but its good sex!Im more slutty than you!

[soilsigh aingeal]

Okay.. a friend's friend told my friend that I am a slut because I was intimate with one person after my ex and I split. It was one person only.
This was before I met my current boy friend. She says Im a slut because I didnt say with him so therefore Im a user and a hoe. Um. Okay. Ive been with my current bf for 7 months now and before that my ex of almost 3 years. I dont sleep around and I slept with the one guy because I thought he could potentially be something long term but it didnt work out that way.
Am I slutty :huh:

Some people feel very strongly about sex and that's just the way it is. No, you are not slutty for sleeping with one person, whom I am assuming you were seeing. Now, if you were out sleeping around with every guy you saw, maybe, and since you had just split with your ex of three years, I'd say you had some things you needed to sort out before I would even throw the word "slut" out there.

:hugz: Don't worry about it.

[misty]

Oh jeez! You are not a slut. I quite honestly hate that word. Never should have been invented.

[Kaylara]

My dear, if you're a slut, I'm the devil incarnate... Whoops...

No seriously. You're not. And I think your friend needs a new definition of her sexual dictionary. What are we... 12?

[Patriciaj]

No, you are not a slut. What business is it of hers anyway how many people you sleep with. Sounds like she is jealous to me.

[yarrow_elfglow]

Okay.. a friend's friend told my friend that I am a slut because I was intimate with one person after my ex and I split. It was one person only.
This was before I met my current boy friend. She says Im a slut because I didnt say with him so therefore Im a user and a hoe. Um. Okay. Ive been with my current bf for 7 months now and before that my ex of almost 3 years. I dont sleep around and I slept with the one guy because I thought he could potentially be something long term but it didnt work out that way.
Am I slutty :huh:



you are far and i mean far from a slut!! i live in a town known as slut city. there is this one girl that i know and everybody calls her the tri-county bicycle. she's got one kid w/ one guy and was pregnat w/ another kid by a different guy. now that is what i would call a slut

[Sage Rainsong]

Woah 3 guys, sounds like a weekend for me. (j/k) No you are definately not a slut. And so what if you were? There is nothing wrong with it anyway. Your friend is just jealous of your obvious sexiness. Tell her to shove it. (sorry I am in a seriously weird mood today)

[LadyTrinity]

Thank's to everyone who posted! I tried to give out as much karma as I could but darnitt! It's got a limit :meanhead:

Thank you for all your kind words. You all made me feel 100% better! :hugz:

You all are the best!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! _pounce_

[Nighthawk]

Hey Trin, I gave you 'non-slut' karma.. he he

[LadyTrinity]

Hey Trin, I gave you 'non-slut' karma.. he he

:smileroll I saw that :smoochypo Thankies!

[Kalika]

I don't think so.

To me a "slut" is someone who goes around screwing pretty much anyone they can - and is really stupid about it. (IE, no protection)

I think you can be intimate with people that you aren't necessarily in love with, or have feelings for, or are even more than friends with. Just be "smart" about it. Use protection, know going in what it is... or isn't... all of that.
Doesn't make you a slut - just means you have needs that need to be met, and you're doing what you need to do to make that happen. :lol:

[Aconite]

Nope, you are soooooooooooooooo NOT a slut. Just becuase your not madly in love with this person doesnt mean you can't have fun! Sex is jsut sex, it's not that bog of a deal, i mean if you use protection, who cares!!!! NOT SLUT is the verdict..:D

[Calen]

Your sexuality is your perogitive. Maybe your friend's friend believes that sleeping with someone you don't love is morally wrong, but then, is calling someone a name like that moral? Sexually, you should do whatever floats your boat (and by floats your boat, I mean whatever you feel comfortable with and can be responsible about.)
Don't let other people's labels bring you down. If it was what you wanted and you protected yourself, you're fine.

[WokeUpDead]

Let's see. A guy has sex with a girl and he's a player. A girl has sex with a guy and she's a slut. Sounds fair to me. :holycow: [/sarcasm]

[Pure Ahimsa]

That doesn't make you slutty.

[Temptation]

I've been called everything from damaged goods to slutty whore by my very "loving" aunts and cousins. Don't worry, it only hurts the first time. ;) What matters is how you feel about yourself, not what ignorant, insensitive people think. :hugz:

[banondraig]

Okay.. a friend's friend told my friend that I am a slut because I was intimate with one person after my ex and I split. It was one person only.
This was before I met my current boy friend. She says Im a slut because I didnt say with him so therefore Im a user and a hoe. Um. Okay. Ive been with my current bf for 7 months now and before that my ex of almost 3 years. I dont sleep around and I slept with the one guy because I thought he could potentially be something long term but it didnt work out that way.
Am I slutty :huh:

no, but it sounds like this friend's friend is self-righteous and judgmental. not to mention nosy. i wouldn't be surprised to find she liked the guy that didn't work out for you, or something like that. gossipers usually have some stupid little reason like that for saying bad things about people.

[Valkie]

This is Nighthawk. The question is.. do YOU think you are a slut?
Alright Gordon... you and Amy need to stop the constant sex changing, it's getting confusing!! :nyah:

and no LT... If you multiplied how many you've 'been with' times 10... or 20, and shunk the time down to a year or two... maybe then you'd be a slut.... and it would still depend on the conditions of the encountors.

[merlo]

Uh...ya test drive a car before ya make your decision don't ya? To me, it's the same logic. If you're not happy with the handling and the accessories, keep looking...

[BrigidMoon]

No sweetie.

*hugs*

Not at all.

[Sharedaughter]

NO, you are not a slut, and the double standard STINKS!!

Glo

[Tabby]

The definition of slut is :

A woman considered sexually promiscuous.
A woman prostitute.
A slovenly woman; a slattern.

No, I don't think you are from what you have said. Your friend needs to learn how to not judge others.

[QUEEN OF THE DAMNED]

Uh...ya test drive a car before ya make your decision don't ya? To me, it's the same logic. If you're not happy with the handling and the accessories, keep looking...

I agree. I always try before I buy :D

[LadyTrinity]

Uh...ya test drive a car before ya make your decision don't ya? To me, it's the same logic. If you're not happy with the handling and the accessories, keep looking...



:hmmmmm:

[Kalika]

Uh...ya test drive a car before ya make your decision don't ya? To me, it's the same logic. If you're not happy with the handling and the accessories, keep looking...

:lol:

That's great!

[MsFireHaven]

Obvously this friend of a friend has no life what so ever, so she must fill her time with talking about others.
And you "Friend", what was the point of telling you?
Your a fantactic person, who you choose to sleep with, and who you choose to have a relationship is none of her business, and she and your friend have no right to discuss your business.
Your no slut, and dont let someone elses opinion make you think you are.

[Galaxia]

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