dark energy coworker???

[Hope]

Ok here goes! I need a little help please. I work with a woman who makes me physically ill. I actually become ill when I am near her. Her voice, her smell the whole nine yards. I sit in the same room with her and she has to walk past my desk often during the day and we often have to share paperwork (meaning we have to go to each others desk and write on something and then return to our own desk several times a day).

I have tried crystals, and placed blocks in between us (spell work), feng shui, white lighting the area (me, my desk and even her) and even asking that if she is a dark enity to please just keep the darkeness to herself (not to her face only in spell work).

I am truely at a loss here! It takes so much of my energy to try to get to a somewhat positive energy place that I am drained before I even start working each day.

Quitting the job is not an option for at least 6 months. ANY ideas?!? Any and all suggestions will be read and honored I promise you. Thanks!

Blessed Be!
hope

[magicbabs]

Is she short - with long or shoulder length dark hair?? In her late 40's???

I know very weird question....

[story]

:lol: yeah, she sounds familiar to me too.
wish i could help. I've had the same problem with people at work. I worked with this woman who very well may have been the most hateful, mean spririted individual I have ever had the displeasure of knowing. She was vindictive, racist, loud,stupid, and worse---she took a shine to me. How can you have a conversation with someone you can't even bring yourself to look at?
I tried everything, from banishing rituals to just plain old ignoring her.
The only thing that really seemed to help was to just repeat a simple mantra:
"I release ownership of the feelings you give me. I will not become you by reacting to you"
over and over and over.
Kind of helped to remove me from the situation a little.

[Hope]

Thanks to both of you. I will try your mantra today story.

She is 44 with shoulder length hair she dies her hair her natural color is a muddy brown color, she must be about 5'6".

blessed be
hope

[slvr_phoenix]

Why not just talk to her about it? Confrontation is the first step towards reaching an understanding.

Short of that, you can also file legitamite mundane complaints with your supervisor/boss/personel manager/whoever you think is approproate. With enough complaints someone will at some time consider evaluating her. That's what I'd do anyway. **shrug** In any event though, good luck.

[Lavender]

Unless the coworker has done something against you, you really can't put in a complaint. You can't just walk up to a person & say "Excuse me, I'm completely repulsed by the negative dark energy you're emiting. Please stop."

The only thing I can suggest (and it has been suggested already) is work on a shield around you.

[loopy]

Could you be allergic to her perfume or something?

(no, not being sarcastic :) )

[Hope]

{You can't just walk up to a person & say "Excuse me, I'm completely repulsed by the negative dark energy you're emiting. Please stop." }


EXACTLY!!!! The odd thing is that we have had an on going problem and NO ONE who has ever been placed next to her has ever stayed with the company.

Because we have had "complaints" about headaches and upset stomachs etc. we are VERY open about perfumes, etc. It truly is not an allergy to a scent or product.
Frankly I honestly wonder if other people are often "ill" for the same reason I am??? It really is an odd situation to be in.

thanks and blessings to each of you
hope

[Lavender]

What is she like? Is she generally pleasant? Does she smile & chitchat with people? Or is she a "leave me alone" kind of person?

That is a tough situation, Hope. The only thing that comes to mind, at this moment, is to do a heavy duty shielding. Perhaps a mirror one, to return her energy. I wonder if she's aware of what's been happening?

[Rick]

Perhaps 'twould be best to work on a spell to remove her... say, get her promoted, or fired, or a better job in another company, etc...

[Hope]

Thanks Rick and Wildchild!

What kind of person is she?? Well she has a very fake smile that comes and goes very quickly. She loves drama, gossip, and she lies a lot. When she gets caught in a lie (daily) she says " No No that's not right YOU (whoever caught her or agrees) said that. Or you didn't understand. (Much like a child---no she is not slow she is fairly smart) It seems to me that it is genuinely hard to keep her lies straight, because they are a little different for everyone. She likes to take people aside one at a time and "share" something terrible and then say "I knew you would want to know but I don't want everyone to know!" and then go to the next person and do the same thing. She wants to be the center of attention and talks loud, laughs loud, she has bright hair.

I have actually been thinking of both of these ideas myself. However I could use some suggestions on a mirror spell I have some pieces of one but I do not feel like I have all of it if you know what I mean. Any suggestions??

Also to the remove spell I have thought about that too. I have had a hard time getting my head around that too. Like when is it ok to try to change someone elses life/path? There is not a promotion option, but a better/different job? I know she has back problems and always says she wishes she could work from home. Maybe a spell for her to get what she has asked for is ok. What do you think about that?

Thanks for you thoughts and help!
hope
Blessed Be!

[Emy]

I have a ritual for "getting rid off emotional vampires", well it is to stop someone from draining you of your energy... If you need it send me an e-mail and I'll translate it to english for you and send it to you... :)

[Lavender]

She sounds like someone who is aware that she's putting out this kind of negative energy. I seem to remember a mirror spell somewhere here. I'll look around for it.

[Hope]

Thank you wildchild!
love
hope

[Xander67]

Hematite..is Known for its ability to repel negativity...

I was in a similar situation here, only this guy, he was more along the lines of chaotic.....

i have different hours now and thankfully I dont have to work with him... he just was creepy... he had something to say about everyone and lucky for me im the type of person that doesnt form an opinion about someone based on what someone else says...

HEMATITE...... it is great ......it helps

I wish you luck with this Hope...

[Hope]

First let me say thanks to Emy.

xander67 thanks,

"HEMATITE...... it is great ......it helps "


I have not taken any to work yet, but will take some in in the morning and put it on that corner of my desk.

Good idea!

love
hope

[Lavender]

Hi Hope,

This is all I could find at the moment. I'll keep looking. This has a nice little mirror spell in it.

http://www.mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=9294&perpage=15&pagenumber=3

And this is a thread on protection. It might be useful.

http://www.mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=9342

Also, the suggestion for hematite is a good one. You can get a bracelet of hematite & charge it with a protection spell.

[Hope]

Wildchild thanks!

love
hope

[Wise]

Hummmm.... Quite a problem you have there, The Hemitie idea is good if you can find a Hemitite ring there fairly easy to find were I live anyways also it'll be with you all the time,also the bracelet is also a good idea, for the same reasons.....plus you could also place the Hemitite it self on the corners of your desk to have a bigger area of nice positive energy,I my self wear a ring and it seems to work just fine.....oh ya by the way if you get a Hemitite ring,bracelet.ect (I'm sure you already know this) but cleanse the Hemitite first cause somone fondling it could of put there own negative energies into it. Then what good would the Hemitite do?.

~wise~




-Death smiles at us all,all a man can do is smile back-

[Hope]

Thanks wise points well taken!

love
hope

[Lavender]

How did it go?:D

[Hope]

How did it go? Well I don't know...

I took in a rather large Hematite stone and put it on the corner of my desk that faces her way. I cleansed it first and spent time with it. It was on my desk for about 25 minutes and it broke into 3 pieces. Just broke... no one was touching it, no it wasn't dropped, no it wasn't in direct sunlight, no I don't know how or why just that it did.

Sooo...my understanding is that they can only absorb so much?!? So I went and got 3 more (just in case 3 was a sign) and will put them on my desk tonight. I am going in when no one will be there to do the mirror spell because I think it will be stronger if I do it where I need it. And if I am wrong it can't hurt. Right?

Also Emy sent me a spell and I am gathering the "stuff" I need to complete that.

Does anyone think I did something wrong with the stone??

love and blessings
hope

[Xander67]

:eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: Hope, perhaps the room itself may be in need of some cleansing especially around her desk (your co-worker)

I think you did not do anything wrong... the fact that the hematite broke all by itself, well that raises a "WOAH!! flag"

there is soemthing there, it sounds like this girl may have a spirt in her or perhaps her aura is badly in need of an astral cleanseing...

my gut feeling is that this person is NOT doing this intentionally...it apears her chakras are in disharmony or her aura is dirty.... she needs major work... perhaps she is in a bad or abuseive relationship, perhaps she is in over her head, perhaps she is in need of help and her spirit is reaching out...

please be carefull!!!

[Lavender]

I agree with Xander here. I wouldn't do anything to her or her area, though. Do your cleansing around your desk & area first & see how that goes.

[Hope]

Thanks for all of the support! That has actually made a difference just in my outlook and feeling like I could do something.

I had planned to do a area cleansing last night, when I did the mirror spell. Thanks for helping me see I am on the "right" track.
I did both the cleansing and the mirror spell and left the 3 new hematite on my desk.

This morning when I got to work all seemed well (no broken stones). About 45 minutes after she had been there she was complaining that she didn't feel well, that she felt really bloated and that her hands felt tight. Frankly I didn't think much of it, other than to think I actually feel okay today. Then I kinda had a DUH! moment. No I am not the smartest turnip on the truck.

Soooo I asked another gal "How are you feeling today? I noticed "blank" isn't feeling so well." (she was not there she was out taking a break) She said you know now that you mention it I feel pretty good thanks! (with a smile) how are you?

I said pretty good thanks!

Later "she" was still complaining loudly that she didn't feel well.
And said she felt like something was up, and she just didn't know what it could be. I honest to goodness almost fell out of my chair!
I am sure I am just taking it to personally but you know that feeling when the hair on your neck stands up I had that.

Then when she was at my desk she asked about my new stones, I asked her if she liked them and she said yes and picked on up. I kinda held my breath thinking it would break like the first one, but it didn't. She put it down and NEVER came back to my desk once for the rest of the day.

So maybe things are going to be okay?! I hope so!!

love
hope

Oh I do not believe she is in a domestic violence relationship. She is overweight and has back problems.

[Lavender]

:sunny: Glad to hear things are working well!

I kinda feel sorry for your coworker. If she didn't know she was causing all this kind of negativity, she's going to feel pretty bad having it all come back to her. But you do have to look after yourself first.

[Hope]

I honestly question if people really don't know they are negative.
It seems to me as a parent that kids know when they have done something right or wrong and if they have hurt someone. Not right away but as they get older. As my friend Michelle always says that funny feeling in your tummy is there for a reason. I honestly believe that many people "Know" they are negative and frankly they are pretty comfortable there. I question where negative energy comes from, and personallly struggle with the question of "souls" being either dark or light. And if that is always or changeable.

That is why it took me so long to ask anyone for help, because I feel so strongly that my role is to always bring the light, or spirit forward, and I am not sure how to do that "all of the time".

Generally yeah-- but I honestly don't know how I am going to feel if she moves from not feeling well to really sick. Is that her fault, mine, something she could change if she wanted... Does that make sense to anyone.

Yes I can see the "codependency" in my logic.
hope

[Lavender]

I don't see that as your fault at all. You're not adding to the negativity, rather, just repelling it away from you back to the sender. She may know that she's being manipulative & generally nasty but she may not realized that the negative energy she's sending out is physical. This may be something that she needs to learn or work with. I don't know what her wyrd is but maybe she has to hit a low point before coming back up. Perhaps, you may be there in this time and place for a reason too. I don't know. I guess wait & see?

[Flar's Freyja]

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