Need help and advice!!

[Rævyn Cigány]

My very best friend, Skylar, is in a tight spot. Her fiancee, to put it mildly, resembles the sphincter of a donkey, and she has nowhere to go to get away from him. Her nearly two year old son idolizes this man (and I use that term VERY loosely) and he uses every opportunity he can to put down his mother in front of him, saying really bad things. My question is, is there anything I can do magickally to help her? I know it's not my place to intervene (and even if it was, I'd have to get in line...believe me, this guy is SO TOAST if he so much as lays a hand on Sky) physically, but spiritual there just HAS to be something I can do for her, if only to help give her strength and courage. Does anyone have any suggestions??

Blessings to all

Rae )0(

[Myst]

Depends on your beliefs. If you believe in harming none then helping her have courage and strength, and giving her blessings to realize them, is probably a very good idea.

[MistOfTheSea86]

*Shakes Head* I dislike these situation, they put you in a horrible moral dillemma. Personally if this were happening. I would only use magick as a COMPLETE LAST resort. If he will not leave her alone, pherhaps she should call the authorites? I would use everything mundanely possible before I considered the magickal. We shouldn't manipulate the power the goddess has blessed with. Just my opinion:)

[Lavender]

How does your friend feel about this "sphincter of a donkey"? Does she want to stay with him?

[slvr_phoenix]

Well, if you don't want to get involved physically, my advice would be to send her positive energies to help her see things clearly and come to wise decisions. And then after doing that for a while, I'd bring up the topic of him every so often and see where it leads and how much you can get her thinking about it.

Personally, if it were me, I wouldn't do a spell on anyone though, at least not without asking and recieving an acceptance first. That's just me though.

Also, personally, if it were me, I'd be in the guy's face in a private conversation (at a time when he's not around her) and make it very clear that if he so much as touches her the wrong way, the police will get involved. I'd also consider calling the Department of Child and Family Services, but I'd have to really weigh how much of a negative impact on the kid he is because that's something not to do on a whim.

But again, those are just the things that I'd do. But since you don't seem to want to take that route, all I'll suggest you do is send her positive energies to help her see things clearly and find a solution.

[Swanspirit]

Magically or other wise............
Magically.. a protection work for her and the child.....
Two year olds developmentally are ( while at the same time asserting their autonomy vis avis the terrible twos); are also emulating the behaviors down to details i.e. walk talk gestures and mannerisms and dress of the adults that are their world.....which is why dont do as I do do as I say doesnt work in children LOL........But they also need adult to model adult behaviors .... so it may be that while it appears the child adores this guy... he may be more dependent on him,, and as children are open and loving the adult issues arent a factor...... but to allow him to make derogatory remarks about the childs mother to or around the child is actually a form of verbal abuse .....and he can be confronted with it ......
If she is breaking up with him........you can do something to help her ease the grief...... and yes you can do something to help him stay away tooo...... it really is up to you and if your ethics demand that you ask your friend then by all means do that too......
Love and Light
Swannie

[Rævyn Cigány]

How does your friend feel about this "sphincter of a donkey"? Does she want to stay with him?

No, she doesn't, and as of last night, she is determined to find a place with her son.



personally, if it were me, I'd be in the guy's face in a private conversation (at a time when he's not around her) and make it very clear that if he so much as touches her the wrong way, the police will get involved.

You know, my husband did that about eight months ago, and this is a man who is the LAST person to confront anyone about anything. Apparently my hubby was pretty harsh, but at the time we thought he'd gotten through to the idiot...obviously not....

Thank you all so much for your opinions and advice. I think what I'm going to do is practise my shielding and just send as much good energy and love to Skylar and her son as I can. We'll be together all weekend and in circle tomorrow night, so I will work on it then. I won't do a binding spell or anything, promise!

BB

Rae )0(

[Lavender]

Then definitely a spell to give her strength and to boost her courage. Also, if she's willing, you might do the binding spell together. Binding spells can be useful. :D