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    its not a stone, but it so well fits this opic, had to post it here as well

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    the second lot on self esteem

    Quote Originally Posted by CzechWoods View Post
    self esteem

    after molestation/rape, self esteem is a serious issue.

    the Chakra 3 - 4 / 4 - 3 stones
    peridot aka chrisolite aka olivine
    peridot most often is used for the fine (jewelry) chrystals, while olivine refers to the rough material, for example found in auvergne, france or lanzarote , spain which are consisiting of tiniest crystal masses. chrysolite refers to both. any form can be used for healings as decribd in this thread
    Chrisolite is a seemingly tender yet very powerful healer of the 3-4-3 chakra region, connecting love and self love. this stne will also help you to get past troubles with your parents, both mother and father. it reinsttalls your inner sun, your strength to shine on, indeppendently from whatever bad feeling your parents may have (tried to) installed within. Peridot makes you feel good about yourself. It explains you how precious you are in fact. How important you are in the universe. that no-one has the right ever to wak upon you. Peridot is a great comfoter too, listening to your sorrow and helping you to transform it into strength to carry on. Peridot also powers up/recharges your inner battery so you dont feel drained and energy-dried - it helps against fatigue, lethargy, apathy and CF syndrome

    prehnite - comes mostly from india (green) and australia (green to yellow) - some finds are also in south africa
    Prehnite, will help in the chakra 4-3 region; alike peridot restoring love and self love. It can help you boost your self esteem, the dep understanding of how your love is a very important power source.
    Many people suffer from obesity, due to a rape/molestation event; the fat built up as a double sides shield. On the one hand the layers to protect you from harm, on the other hand a way becomng "ugly" = nattractive , possibly untouchable. But too much fat of course imposes great health issues and problems for the body: blood cholesterol, blood pressure, heart diseases, the bones and joints etc suffer with you., in the long run, this strategy forms against yourself - and you have little to no gain from obesity. Prehnite is the antidote here, working against both sides of the wrong shield: asuring you of your attraction (that is NEVER connected to attraction of rape etc) and by firing up your metabolism and fat burning capabilities. Prehnite additionally is a good stone to help yourself be protected from skin demage through the sun - but please do still use sun-blockers with it !

    precious serpentine (aka 'new ''jade''') - the term new jade is confusing. because precious serpentine looks alot like a form of jade, this name has been attached to it, as a trade name. but it is not jade. nontheless its a very powerful healing stone, and needs not to be looked down upon
    Precious Serpentine is a strong detox stone. It will help your body to detox from toxins, also those from medication use or even drug abuse. These issues often accompany the victims and suvivors of molestation, and therefore a detoxing of your system is inevitable and necessary for any healing. Additionally the molestation act itself is a poison to your system that needs to be faced and made go away. Precious Sepentine is also connected o the chakras 3 & 4, thats why this stone is more recommeded than its silbling serpentine, a darker green variety that conects to the heart chakra mainly. In addition Serpentine detoxes also over he skin, thus making you more confortable in you body in the long run. The skin is one of he mostly exposed bodyparts, and one where the contact with the molstor has started; therefore skin issues and skin healing i such an important topic. Not few rape survivors develop skin irritation disorders such as neurodermites, itchy skin, exems etc. BE WARNED though, that during the detox phases such irritations may become a stronger issue. As the toxins are leaving your body through the skin, these disorders may become stronger. If that happens, it is wise NOT o use potions and cortisone products to make the itch go away. Homeopathical treatements and potions, that help/fasten the detox process are better in this case. You dont want to cover up anymore. You dont want to suppress anymore. You want it to g out and away and be gone, thats why these irritations should be gone through regardless.

    Above mentioned Peridot possibly in combination with Amber and Green Aventurine, in heavy cases also combined with Blue Aventurine Quartz will help you to suffer less and have the skin recover faster.

    Any Serpentine variety will also help you to adapt to situations, new situations without falling into the tra of acceptence. THERE IS NOTHING TO ACCEPT ABOUT MOLESTATION: IT IS WRONG AND EVER WILL BE! yet you will have to learn to adapt to all those situations imposed to you after such a traumatic event. The Serpentine help will therefore come in handy

    Another very important Serpentine variety aftre molestation is Chyttha Serpentine - avariety that is most often found in south america: peru, brazil etc
    Chyttha has extraordinary powers in addition to the detoxing and adapting qualities of Serpentine in general. It is one of the strongest helpers against Depressions, Melancholy, even suicidal tendencies. If you are battling against any of those lattre mentioned disorders, due to Rape/Molestation anyway - Chyttha will become a good friend of yours. It will help you get out of the debriss left behind by the agressor and the bystanders. It will teach you to embrace life and joy instead of becoming the zomby your aggressors would have liked making of you. By overcoming the abyss you had been thrown into, you will become a living victory - thus sustaining and repowering your life batteries. You will not loger be defined by the aggressors power tripps but by your own unique power, real power to live and rejoice.

    yellow australian agate (a rare find) - i only have a small batch of those, and never have come across any since my first buy of them 7 years ago. they are exceptional and very unique.
    Yellow Agate from australia combines the grounding and negativity defeating qualities of agate with the 3rd (manipura) chakra, the solar plexus. Your inner sun shines forth. It is unshakable. Anybody (that includes youself) mustnt try to shatter this holy, sacred place, your inner sun. This stone restores a great deal of might have been shattered. It simply installs a new institution of power within. It is not as bright and illuminating as say honey calcite or citrine, but it has a souvereignity and stability attached to it, that makes up for the lack of shining. It is like the very core of the sun. Less rediant but more strong and sustaining. In some cases, where the self esteem of a victim has been almost erased, yellow australian agate will be the answer on how to reinstall the work of the solar plexus chakra. by being less rediant, it will not be oposed by the inner "demons" of 'i aint worth no sh!t'. Agate will bannish those feelings - mercilessly - and give you a sceletton, a column, a walking cane until the chakra has learned again to function accordingly to its original creation. Aftre that, other - more radiant stones can be incorporated, and later can even replace the yellow australian agate variety. But there, where all hope seems lost regarding the Solar Plexus Chakra, yellow australian agate is inevitable and hard to be substituted.

    tree agate - not to be mistaken with moss agate - tree agate is mainly quartz with inclusions. tree agate is not translucent but opaque. Mainly t is mined in India, but is to be found worldwide as well. I have experieced that over the past decade, the variety of tree agte has lessened, and prices slowly start picking up, a clear sign that minable qualities are sinking atm. It is still no overpriced stone and affordable to most people.
    Tree agate corresponds mainly to the Heart Chakra (anahata/4). It helps the breathing system and is a strong helper against asthma, allergic asthma, bronchites as well as other respiratory difficulties, including snoring, reoccuring sinuiteses etc. Tree agate helps to restore the fine bronches, which is equaly important for smokers and people living in urban areas.
    Suffocation issues, waking up catching breath etc are often connected to traumatic molestations as well as to these very perverse cases, where aggressors had joy in suffocation of the victim before or during the rape. also the attempts of aggressors so the victims could not scream often impose later respiration difficulties upo the victims. Here tree agate will also be a very fond and dedicated helper. Not only in healing whatever might be "broken" through these events but also by restoring a feeling of security and connectedness to Mother Earth and her peoples.
    tree agte faciliates communication with the Earthen people (elves, goblins,fairies etc) but it also helps you to grow back self esteem, deeply from within. Tree agate will take care of your inner gardening skills, the harbouring of joy and love and connection with all other "trees" out there.
    Additionally - as the SteinElfe (stoneelf) sais: Tree agte teaches you, that you too are like a tree. You have roots, genes, education maybe roots anyway, that are like a setting, and you have a trunk, grow out these roots - thats what you do, with your attitude towards life - but you also have he branches, reaching up to the skies and achieving any goal you wish to achieve

    attached pictures:
    ~ prehnite, tumbled: yellow and green
    ~ prehnite, rough, green - india - the coin is a size refernce = a USD quarter
    ~ prehnite, tumbled, green
    for clarifcation of tree agate (not to be mistaken with moss agate)
    ~ tree agate, tumbled stones from india
    ~ tree agte, tmbled stone pendants. india
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    nevermind
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    restoring a feeling of security (pt.1)

    To restore your feeling of security is utmost important in the recovery of rape/molestation. Some stones now mentioned will be repetition posts but they are such tremendous helpers that they fit in several categories of help and should therefore not e forgotten - so bear with me/it. In the second half of the post new stones will be discussed, additional helpers so to speak.


    Black Tourmaline/Schoerl
    as stated in former posts. This stone will help a great deal. Imagine yur aura field was a field in the countryside wth a fruit tree on it. in a perfect world, no-one would steal your fruit. maybe someone would come by, and take a few fruit, but they would leave an offering in exchange and most probably one of more value than that which they have taken. but a rape survivor knows this is not the perfect world. Rape Survivors have learned that some people will simply vandalize your field, burn down the tree just for their own twisted pleasure, that they will burn and devastate your field, regardless of right and wrong and get off at it even.
    therefore you need the black tourmaline schoerl, a stone tha would be like a fierceful guardian dog and an electrically charged barbed wire fence in the same time ! now, a possible intruder has to first overcome the fence, which isnt all tha easy anyway - and in doing so admits to be an intruder anyway, and than, if the fence fails, the guardian dog will either attack the intruder, in oderer to killing them or at least stop them, or - if all fails - to warn you from a possible danger.
    Black Tourmaline cannot protect you from rape - dont get me wrong, and read what i say. But it will help you to defend your aura shield and thus o heal, instead of becoming a victim in all realms repeatedly and thus really destroying your core of existance.
    therefore black schoer tourmaline, preferably a double ending crystal is of such utmost importance in the recovery after sexual assault/rape/molestation and vampirism. period

    Red / Pink Rubelite Tourmaline
    if the father is part of the problem you are recovering from, or a father-like figure. This stone also applies, if there is a problem from the assumption or fact, that a fatherly figure did not intervene, notice that such things were going on. Rubelite additionall will help you gather strength, and harbour also feelings of romance regardless your trauma

    Blue Indigolite Tourmaline
    if the person i.question is mother/mother-like figure or, as above (see rubelite/father) has let these things happen without noticing or helping. Indigolite will additionally grant you creativity, whih can prove to be very helpful in overcoming your trauma through fine arts, singing, acting etc

    Green Verdelite Tourmaline
    As mentioned before, Verdelite is one of the major stones to use. Not only will it heal your heart both on organic level (if heart beat issues derrive from the rauma) but also on the metaphorical(emotional) plain. Green Tourmaline is very effective in healings, streight to the point, all paths used. Yet i doesnt feel like it was heavy or dictating at all. People working with green tourmaline describe it to be very soft and tender. This is one of the major strengths of Verdellite actually. You dont notice how much, how effectively, how multidimensionally it is bringing you further, it is reprogramming your being. It will help you attune to natural (mother earth) energies, will help to erase those patterns of guilt and guilt tripping/guilt riding attitudes so deeply installed throughout the atrocities of incest/molestation/rape etc. Additionally to its heart and heart chakra connection (CH4) Verdelite helps the recovery of nerves, thus treating tremolo (shaking), altzheimer, parkinson, demens... disorders, as well as Multiple Scleroses, Fatigue, Fibromyalgy and neuological pains. (also Migraines, Epi Lepsy etc) Verdelite also supports recovery from bi-polar, skizzophrenia, borderline... disorders, along with ADD, Aspergies, Authism - especially if these are connected to a molestation trauma. Verdelite will also help you to overcome (related) panic attacks, sociophobia and a mulitude of neurotic behaviours and fears. It will improve recovery through a good sleep, bannishing nightmares and insomnia that comes from the fear of what the night might bring (as in molestation). THEREFORE THIS STONE IS A MUST HAVE

    Brown Dravite Tourmaline
    This variety of Tourmaline is often forgotten, although it is of outstanding qualities. There are quite a few people, who will not correspond to the black tourmaline stone. Not only is BLACK often looked down upon and some healing traditions disregard any use of black in healings. Also some people just dont like the black stones. Especially in correspondence to rape/incest/molestation, sometimes the link between "it happened in the dark" / "blackmailing was involved" (Agressor: 'if you tell anyone i will ....') to black stones will cause a kind of allergy to such stones. Here the brown dravite variety comes in very handy. Although some crystals may apear to be black, most already have a yellowish/brown touch on the outside, and some are translucent even. Many Dravite specimen are single or even doubly terminated crystals, thus adding to their healing capacities quite effectively. Dravite, alike Schoerl, protects your aura and restores the feeling of security. It feels a lot ike a warm scarf around your neck, when you are wearing Dravite necklaces. Additionally to protecting you it emits warmth and offers a lot of comfort. More so, it helps you (through its ch.2 connection) to find your place in society, to find out how you can fit in anyway, regardless the trauma you have to overcome.

    Green Jade, Nephrite

    Jade from British Columbia, Nephrite or imperial Jade count as green jade varieties. Please note, that due to its preciousness and rareness, many similar looking tones have been named jade, but they are not, and therefore shouldnt be mistaken for it. The Innuit in Canada/Alaska use a green-blackish stone for carvings; this one is - to my knowledge - not jade, but also called canadian jade, the chinese or new jade in fact is serpentine, the african jade is green african prasem/jasper/buddstone etc etc. The A-quality aventurine is used to immitate Imperial Jade quite effectively too. Therefore ask for Nephrite best. Nephrite is a kind of Jade that will not only carry the Jade vibes but add some very helpful energies along the way.
    Nephrite/Jade is a very protective stone. Alike Verdelite tourmaline it has a main connection to the Anahata Heart Chakra (4). But Jade is also like Black Tourmaline a protector of the whole of the aura, and will enhance the work of any chakra alltogether. Jade was believed by many cultures to absorb negativity and to deflect evil. It was used during centuries as a lucky charm against any form of disaster or evil, as protection from harm and evil spirited people alike. It is also a protective stone for wealth, property, the habitats, your animals, horses (now cars) etc. This multitude of proection does make its rather high price well worth the money. It is like an investition in your very bodyguard. Jade is a protector of the inner organs: heart, stomac, intestines, and Liver. Nephrite (greek nephros: kidney) additionally helps the whle urinary system: kidneys, urinary "tubes" for lack of better english, prostata etc. It is used to enhance and protect the reproductive sexual organs, both inside and outside (i know, TMI). Both Nephrite and Jade that is. and they both will help with sexual disorders, against pains during intercourse and the mestrual circle etc - all of which are quite common after molestation/rape etc

    Especially women experiencing diffficulties in: conceiving, intercourse, orgasm, frigidity and overactive libido etc as well as menstrual problems, heavy pains, nausea (esp related to this topic) should try using Lavender Jade (but make sure you get what you wanted; lavender jade too is simulated by ainted/dyed whatever stones, serpentines, or lavender quartz)
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    CzechWoods, I'm looking forward to your post of when to use each stone. I don't have the stones you mentioned, but can get them readily. Don't have a car, can't get to support group or counselor. Am trying to work through this without that.
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    And after I post, I it magically appears. Thanks so much. I appreciate your knowledge.
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    Quote Originally Posted by tallwoman.9169 View Post
    CzechWoods, I'm looking forward to your post of when to use each stone. I don't have the stones you mentioned, but can get them readily. Don't have a car, can't get to support group or counselor. Am trying to work through this without that.
    tallwoman

    there is a lot more info to come. I have added the link to my signature, for this theads utmost importance. I have writen down on my HD what else is to do, and it i quite some writting: the part 2 of above post, hormonal balancing, reclaiming a sane sexuality to name just a few. so come back often.

    in the end i will repat the disclaimer about stones not replacing doctors and on possible approaches/schedules.

    Please note that every person is individual though. A qualified consultant (as in stone consultant) will help you find your very strategy. if need be, and should you not know anyone, PM me about it, i will see what i can do

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    I would suggest rose quartz, tigers eye and amber.
    Rose quartz I believe is important to help you keep in touch with more loving and forgiving emotions, whether it be for the victim or the perpetrator or both, part of healing is forgiving and finding the love again! Rose quartz has entergies known to assist with healing hearts, self love and forgivness for oneself, and any rape victim needs to come back intouch with those feelings again.
    Tigars eye for strength and stamina, endurance. Some may find themselves more aggressive adorned with this stone, so wearing it all the time may want to be avoided. Amathyst is a good stone to alliviate too much tigars eye entergy.
    Amber, is great to keep you in touch with our mother earth (nature). We can learn alot from her. She can be an inspiration and a shoulder to lean on when we feel alone. She can be strength and she can be timid. In the end, she proves to be incharge of herself, no matter how deviled she's been by man (and/or woman). With any rape or incest, we need to remember we are in charge of ourselves and not controlled by others, no matter how much we may feel to the contrary. It happened. It's over. We mend. We move on.
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    Green Aventurine. It's a great heart healer but not in the "lovey dovey" way like Rose Quartz is.
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    allways remember, the guilt is with the aggressor, not with the victim. you ahve NOT eserved tis, you have NOT earned this, you have NOT provoked this, you have not attracted this. this is in NO WAY YOUR FAULT
    Well as I have always said that is easier said then done or felt.
    Though in my case I think over the past two years I can say I honestly believe that but to get to that point it was hard work on my part.


    In any case most of the stones I have used or would have suggested already. And Czechwoods there are several that caught my attention from your posts that I have not used before so thank you. I will definitely be looking into purchasing some of these in the next month or so.
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