Well, at least you have saying "No" down! LOL, this is a good thing.Originally Posted by Grey Cat
I'd like to talk about that in another thread. Interestingly, I am a certified mediator but don't practice as such, since the court sends all the work to a chosen few. Most of my clients are seeing mediators, and all I hear are complaints. I am actually doing a lot of mediation between them while the mediator is making $80 to $100 per hour and doing nothing. The method you described is not the point or goal of mediation. The goal is to make it a win/win situation, and to give people the skills to talk to each other without needing someone else. The mediator is supposed to be neutral - and I've heard a lot of complaints that this is not the case......okay, I've gotten myself started and don't want to go off topic.......My group has used that technique a couple times. Once it achieved silence and the other time it didn't. In both cases nobody was satisfied and frankly there's too much emphasis on stopping the argument and not nearly enough on whether or not somebody is just plain wrong!! Both conclusions were clearly unfair to anyone not involved. Particularly if there are any ethical questions involved, this is the worst possible technique. Like concensus government, they are fine part of the time and complete disasters some of the time.
If not mediation, communication skills would be helpful. There are tons of books out there, and I still maintain that the one I mentioned earlier is a good one.
Are you sure? Years ago, I used to volunteer for alcohol/drug rehab support groups at the prison and I had no certification or credentials at the time, so you may want to research that further. My son belongs to a Baptist church, and I had tons of visitors when I was hospitalized by everyone but the pastor!And some thing you can't deligate. Prison visiting can only be done by someone who can be given some sort of credentials, preferably clergy.
Unfortunately, nothing is going to make it easy. 8--)
Sounds like this is an overwhelming task, or it's looking that way. Is there a hurry? Perhaps it would be best to break it down into one duty at a time, try out your ideas, see whether they work or don't work, and move on to the next thing.