Rant...am I just being pig headed?

[H. NightStorm]

Ok so I have this uncle who treats me like a little kid. I know I'm still young and all but it's really getting old. He barely even knew me as a kid before my father took me away from the family. However he still thinks he's wiser and smarter and all this bull because he's my uncle. He's 27 yrs old and I've accomplished WAY more than he has.

Lets see he's still living with his dad, can't keep a decent job, gramps is paying for his school (but he's pretending he is), he's a total jack ass to every girl he dates (including my best friend who he just broke up with through a text), he complains about his life but does nothing to change it. I could go on but that's the basics.

I've been on my own most of my life (due to parent issues), I had a great job that I only quite so I could be with my husband, I'm almost done with my schooling, I'm married with a 1 yr old and another kid on the way, ect ect.

and yet he still thinks he's more mature! He keeps trying to give me advice about life and how I should handle things when he isn't doing shit himself. Then every time I try to help him and be nice to him he gets pissed off and is a complete jack ass to me! I just don't get it...am I just to full of myself or do I have a right to be mad???

I don't anymore...I need to go meditate..

[WitchJezebel]

Everybody has one of those in their family, myself included. I've been on my own since I turned 19 and I had a cousin who used to do that as well. Don't waste your breath offering help and advice, he doesn't want it. He's giving you advice on how to conduct your life because his life is a train wreck and he wants you to think otherwise. His giving you advice helps him feel like not so much of a loser. Next time he offers you unsolicited advice just politely say, "hey listen I appreciate the advice, but I've got it all under control".

OR....

You can be a total bitch like I did to my cousin, who was still trying to tell me how I should live when I was 28. By then I was already out of NY for 6 years, living on my own, getting a degree and working. She was still living at home where my aunt was still doing her laundry and cooking her meals.... I pretty much blasted her and I embarrassed her enough that she never did it again. I never liked her much anyway so no big loss.

You have a right to be miffed, but don't get too angry over it, it's just not worth it. Besides, you're going to do what's best for you and your family no matter what anyone says.