Vinny and SPD (frustrated-rant included )

[DreamSpell333]

Originally Posted by Lunacie

You've certainly got my best wishes for all the luck you need to get Vinny the very best help possible. And let us know how you think it went after.

Well they said he's within normal range developmentally. He didnt act out like he usually does so their unsure about behavioral issues or if he has any sensory issues.

They are reccomending early headstart for him. They come to the home a couple times a week and he goes to the school once a week . once he's 3 then he would go 5 days a week from 8 or 9:30 to 12:30.

they also suggested me seing a counselor or therapist to help with my grief over losing olivia and with everything i deal with. (taking care of vinny,housework,appointments,dinner etc) they said I definitely have my hands full and vinny is a very energenic/busy child.
he even asked for a hug from one of them! (3 women came out)

I am happy with their assessment and if we should have any problems in the future i know we can call them again.. They'll probably keep in touch with us too.
We have an appointment at the preschool here to talk about the assessment and to get information on early headstart.

[Cloaked Raven]

Glad everything went well today.

They may want to reassess Vinny in about a year or so, just to see how he's doing. Lil Cloaky gets assessed once every six months to a year just to see how he's progressing and what areas we need to focus more time on.

galore to you and Vinny.

[Lunacie]

I agree with the reassessment. And it will be interesting to see what the teacher sees when he starts school. We had a three-year follow up evaluation for Nove recently. The teachers weren't seeing as much Autistic behavior at school as we do at home, but they saw lots of behavorial issues. Of course we see some of those at home too.

Headstart sounds like a great idea. I wish we'd thought about getting Nove into headstart, but we had so much trouble dealing with her we didn't think it was right to foist her off on someone else. Bah. We could have given it a trial.

[DreamSpell333]

Originally Posted by Cloaked Raven

Glad everything went well today.

They may want to reassess Vinny in about a year or so, just to see how he's doing. Lil Cloaky gets assessed once every six months to a year just to see how he's progressing and what areas we need to focus more time on.

galore to you and Vinny.

Thanks the women said i was doing a great job and that it's great that i want the best for my children. i do so much for them and my husband and often get left last or dont get me time. Which is true and seeing the therapist will help. i have been asking hubby to help me more though. he told me he doesnt always do things because he's afraid i'll get mad if he does it wrong. (put dishes not in their correct place,fold laundry wrong,etc)

I havent really talked to anyone about losing olivia because of having vinny so soon after. I love both my children very much and because of losing olivia i've wanted to make sure their thriving like they should . I felt so helpless with olivia because I couldnt make her better. A mommy's suppose to be able to make things better..

I know early headstart will be good for vinny but I worry how he will be. Will he lash out,will he not want to play with other children.. Im sure they'll help with that though and he'll be just fine.

[DreamSpell333]

Originally Posted by Lunacie

I agree with the reassessment. And it will be interesting to see what the teacher sees when he starts school. We had a three-year follow up evaluation for Nove recently. The teachers weren't seeing as much Autistic behavior at school as we do at home, but they saw lots of behavorial issues. Of course we see some of those at home too.

Headstart sounds like a great idea. I wish we'd thought about getting Nove into headstart, but we had so much trouble dealing with her we didn't think it was right to foist her off on someone else. Bah. We could have given it a trial.

Yea it'll be good to see how he's doing in a year. hopefully he's still improving especially behavior wise.

[Lunacie]

Yeah, the folks at head start should have some experience with kiddos like Vinny and should help him quite a bit.

One thing the phys ed teacher noticed this year (don't know why she didn't notice it last year or maybe she did but the homeroom teacher just didn't care) was that because of Nove's sensory issues she was getting very upset when the kids were playing games in the gym and bumping each other. And sometimes she would just look puzzled because they were all bumping each other and laughing and having so much fun. The two teachers (phys ed and special ed) started working with Nove, "accidentally" bumping her several times during the day, apologizing and asking if she was okay. She is getting used to being touched unexpectedly without getting so upset.

I remember my dad thinking it was such a hoot to sneak up on my mother and touch her neck just to watch her jump and screech. Don't think Mom found it all that amusing. I know it really bothered me after I got married and my hubby would do that at times. Somehow I convinced him that I didn't appreciate it and he made an effort not to slip up quietly behind me and touch me unexpectedly.

[DreamSpell333]

Originally Posted by Lunacie

Yeah, the folks at head start should have some experience with kiddos like Vinny and should help him quite a bit.

One thing the phys ed teacher noticed this year (don't know why she didn't notice it last year or maybe she did but the homeroom teacher just didn't care) was that because of Nove's sensory issues she was getting very upset when the kids were playing games in the gym and bumping each other. And sometimes she would just look puzzled because they were all bumping each other and laughing and having so much fun. The two teachers (phys ed and special ed) started working with Nove, "accidentally" bumping her several times during the day, apologizing and asking if she was okay. She is getting used to being touched unexpectedly without getting so upset.

I remember my dad thinking it was such a hoot to sneak up on my mother and touch her neck just to watch her jump and screech. Don't think Mom found it all that amusing. I know it really bothered me after I got married and my hubby would do that at times. Somehow I convinced him that I didn't appreciate it and he made an effort not to slip up quietly behind me and touch me unexpectedly.

yea I dont like being snuck up on either. Hannah does it all the time to me. She will grab me and say Boo! When Im involved in something and dont hear her it does scare me. It's unexpected.. My DH doesnt try to scare me often but will come behind me and give me a hug.

[Lunacie]

I hated it when I was at the sink washing dishes and my hubby would slip up behind me to give me a hug. You'd think hugs would always be a good thing, but not when you're startled and drop the dish into the sink - possibly breaking it and at the least splashing yourself with wash water.

Or I'd be in the bedroom changing clothes and he'd walk up the door very quietly and watch me, and I'd turn around and be very startled. Why didn't he just go outside and be a real window-peeker? Sheesh.