If you have healed a fractured soul what did you do?

[MonSno_LeeDra]

This thread might go under any number of topics but since I shall approach it from a shamanic perspective I elected to place it here. That is not to say other's may not share or express a differing perception. I will forewarn that the methods and things I shall reveal are not unique to a singular pathway but maybe parts of many.

Over the years as I stated in the thread on soul thief I have probably dealt with 20 instances of fractured souls. Some have been really simply and easy to resolve, other's rather difficult and demanding. But the one I shall discuss is one that was extremely close to me and involved a shattered persona due to rape. Even more difficult for the woman was to become my wife.

When I first met my wife she was an active duty Marine. Yet had many problems such as drinking, low opinion of self and pretty much on a self-destructive path. Yet regardless of all that I fell for her and we ended up getting married. Over time we addressed the drinking problem, the self-esteem problem, trust problems, etc. Yet one still remained that caused some problems that triggered the others. That problem was the teenage girl that had been raped.

Over time I managed to get that fragment to talk to me. Very shy and timid and untrusting yet full of anger and hate. One moment prone to talk in a calm manner the next break down to tears and fight. Yet part of the problem lay in that she could not let it go for she could not forgive herself and accept the blame did not lie upon her shoulders.
She wanted to face the attacker but could not go back in time to do so to reclaim her power. Could not even be honest for she feared to tell anyone and especially feared because she could not even tell her parents.

So one night we decided to try and allow her to reach out and touch someone. We started the night out by lighting some candles, lilac if I recall correctly. A bit of incense in the back ground. Using some controlled breathing and matching heartbeats we started.

Initially there was a problem right off the bat, her mind and fragment would not allow one to step forward for her eyes say me yet the fragment needed to project upon her eyes in a memory capacity. To solve that we blindfolded her and allowed her own memories to come forward. Slowly we went to a point before the event and started to allow time for her to move forward. It was also controlled to the point that it was almost hypnotic in that she could see it but not feel anything from it.

Then the clock rolled back and the young girl spoke through her and lived the time over that preceded the event. She was also holding my hands during the event to stay connected to the present and allow her greater self to beware of and accept the emotions and pain that came with it.

Now I won't go into detail of what occurred other than to say I was somewhat bruised afterwards because of her needs to act. But the fragment was brought back in and over a few more weeks we spoke of it and looked at the fallout that occurred after she was raped.

So once the fractured point was contacted and trust was gained we were able to bring it back together and allow her to regain her lost parts. Not a simple one time thing but something that required quite a bit of time, patience and trust in the long run.

Like a split personality the fragment spoke in her teenage voice and responded in her teenage emotions and perceptions. A part that really did not know me nor I it, yet to bring it back together we had to come to know each other for it to happen.

Many times soul fragments are not really easy to deal with nor are they blindly accepting of ones good intentions. You can not demand or force them to do things for it often feeds into the situation that caused them to flee or break away to begin with. Each situation requires a different approach or allowance to work it through.

Sometimes it calls for the pair to sit facing each other and simply touch hands as you try to balance out and become one in breathing and sensation. Literally creating a circuit where one receives through one hand and pushes out with the other. Pushing calming energy to the one you are working with and trying to take the anxiety and frustration into your self to help them focus. At times even the acceptance of visions and foreign emotions and yes even the occasional physical crunch as fingers close in and lock so tightly your hands go numb and feel as if they will be broken.

But as a Shamanic practitioner I know when I step in I may have to act upon mind, body, spirit, energy and some many different emotional breakers that it can turn ugly real quick.

So like I said just an example that I feel I can share. No right way, wrong way or indifferent as each of us must use different avenues to help the shattered fragment reunite.

[BearDancing]

that was some incredible sharing MonSno............your wife is very lucky to have you, wishing her healing on that horrid level...much love to her

[Kes]

I've healed one fractured soul. Some amount of sexual trauma was also involved, though I don't think he considered himself a rape victim. Primarily it was that a number of people close to him had left, through death or very abrupt abandonments.

First, we talked at length about the various people and experiences which tore at him.

Then I had him lay down on the floor and wrapped him tightly with blankets, then set the stage and got him a bit open (candle-light, appropriate rhythmic music, etc.). I'm a dancer, so I just went to work in that way asking my spirit-friends to work with his guardians and collect the scattered pieces of himself. They manifested in my perception as very bright bits of starry light hovering near the ceiling. Then I directed the bits to go into his body and wound it all down.

I told him to not think too much over the next couple of days, to pay attention to his dreams, and I made sure he was eating and drinking appropriately. He went through a two-day period of serious personality change, until he eventually incorporated the "new" parts of himself. A couple months later was saying he still felt more whole and was able to think about his past experiences without a negative reaction, so I think it worked well for him.

I don't know that I'd try something that immediate with a person who had more serious problems in their back history, though.